So me and my college boyfriend (we have been dating three weeks. He is the nicest guy i have ever dated. Farthest things from a asshole and basically a saint. He is adoreable but he hasn't yet realized how cute he is and has never really dated.
So at this party this girl who is he friends with went up to him (she was a drunken mess) and gave his neck to long kisses. I was drunk and flipped out. (All my old boyfriends have cheated on me so i am insecure) i wouldn't talk to him or let him touch me while like 8 people including himself and the girl were like there is ntohing between us.
I got mad and walked (all alone) a long walk by myself to a dorm on the top of a hill in the cold. this was a dumb dangerious idea.
Anywayz i know nothing happened between him and this girl i he hasn't talk to me or called me to make sure i got back alright. I still want him in my life.
Do I apoligie for my behavior?
or should i be mad he didn't walk me back. I could have been hurt/raped...?
2006-09-09 05:36:36 · 15 answers · asked by Coxie Megan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My friend accuily got raped her first night here when she was alone. i just can;t believe he let me walk off by myself
he didn't even check on me.
2006-09-09 05:36:44 · update #1
If you are sure the following is 100% true:
"He is the nicest guy i have ever dated. Farthest things from a asshole and basically a saint. He is adoreable but he hasn't yet realized how cute he is and has never really dated."
Then you got yourself a good deal, and you should try hard to keep it. An apology would be in order. Also you should make it firmly clear that you won't again tolerate his flirting or more with other girls.
2006-09-09 05:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are blaming HIM for you walking off in a drunken huff because you are insecure and/or jealous?! Give me a break, you have only been 'together' for 3 weeks!!!! If you had walked out all retarded on me I wouldn't have called you either.
You are the one who made the stupid decision to go walking off into the night when there are zombies and were-rats about! Grow the fudge up and take some responsibility for your immaturity at handling this situation. YOU need to apologize for YOUR behavior. Some counseling might be in order also. If this guy is so great and you want to keep him, acting like a crazy 13 year old is not going to do it. Men don't like that kind of BS drama. Next time some girl is macking on his neck, instead of acting retarded, walk up to him yourself and start kissing on the other side of his neck and claim what is yours.
2006-09-09 12:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by cannon1977 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should call and appoligize and then leave the ball in his court. He may not want to be with someone who is going to accuse him of cheating every time he goes out or talks to another girl. You should tell him that you trust him and that you know he would never do anything to hurt you and that you are truly sorry. He may be mad at you for making a scene at the party and is too mad to call and check up on you. He may also think that you don't beleive him and so he may feel that if he calls you, you'll still be mad at him and not talk to him
CALL HIM
2006-09-09 12:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should apologize. You have been hurt in the past but you need to let go of it so you can move on with someone else.
If the guy really likes you he will understand.
Was the guy drunk? That may be why he didn't walk you back, or maybe your actions toward the other drunk girl.
Just tell him how you felt and see what happens. Good Luck.
2006-09-09 12:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start with an apology, you over reacted, and now that you have "come to" you realize this. It may be that he doesn't realize just how stupid or dangerous walking alone by yourself may be. Guys tend to be a little on the dumb side. The best possible way to work this out is talk to him, and be honest with your feelings. He may also not understand how easily hurt you are about it. You need to work on yourself and trust issues. One of the biggest keys in a relationship is to have trust.
2006-09-09 12:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by cyunos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, apologize. Does he know about your "insecurities"? Tell him, I bet he'll understand. Tell him that you didn't mean to act so stupid about something small and you only did that because you are drunk. Tell him that you hope he's not angry with you and you really like him and that he's probably the best thing to ever happen to you. He's probably just giving you some space to cool down right now. He's probably waiting for you to come back to him, so go ahead and go back to him. Oh and try not take any more dangerous walks.
GOOD LUCK
2006-09-09 12:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by MakeBelieve. All you want. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 100% wrong, face it.
You were wrong for flipping out when all the evidence - even the girl herself declaring it - was right in front of you.
You were stupid and wrong to walk home alone.
Then to expect this guy, after you make a scene and scream at him in public, to turn around and serve you and walk you home - that is DELUSIONAL! Men don't exist to fulfill your needs at every moment. YOU exist to fulfill your needs. YOU exist to make sure you're not an insecure mess. YOU exist to make sure you don't do something stupid to get yourself attacked.
Grow up and act like a woman. It sounds like your bf is a great guy. You need to apologize, even if he never takes you back.
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2006-09-09 12:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him and tell him u are sorry for the way u acted if he cares he will understand ,i dont know about the rest maybe he just didnt think about u possibly getting hurt he could b mad at u and trust me anger can cloud your judgement. my wife left me 2 wks ago she just called me and things were going great for 2 days last night i got mad at her for the hurt and said that i should just let her go and it hurt her because im not giving her time to get her feelings under control and she is scared to call me now so u see how anger can do the wrong things!now i feel worse so dont make the same mistakes
2006-09-09 12:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by eddie w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He propbably doesn think he's done anything wrong and in actual fact he hasnt, it was the girl who was in the wrong. As long as he didnt kiss her back or anything its cool. i understand why you was mad .. cos i would have been the same. But as for walkin off on your own u shouldn have done that i no u was mad but dont put your self in dangourus situations, call him up and explain why you was mad, but say i kno it wasnt your fault and just explain why you was so upset, then hopefully you'l be ok good luck
2006-09-09 12:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by rochie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he is not a saint after all look, he should have called no matter what, maybe he did do something how do you, you was not there, its only been three weeks, if the relationship is like this now, what will it be like later, i amnot saying that you are in a bad relationship , but this maybe a start to one, he cannot justify not calling you and leaving you alone to walk in that dangerous place, you to good for him
2006-09-09 12:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by sweetlikehoney_73 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋