My parents make feel guilty for moving out.....I moved out at age 25-26 when they tried to give me a 10:30pm curfew. No, I did not follow thier curfew.I took a second job and saved up very quickly for a down payment on a house. Now, they want me to move back home. I cannot live with them. They are VERY messy, they have a dog I cannot deal with, and my dad is very sexist, and I do not want a curfew at age 28.I own my home, they want me to sell it, they will sell thier house, and they want us all to use all that money to buy a bigger house and all live together. I keep telling them things like" I really has a different schedule then you do, I am very fussy about the house being clean, you might not like that," etc but they keep asking. My boyfriend lives with me, but he will probably be moving out in few months(long story, see my other questions if u want ) They know he will probably be moving out. I want time to myself after he moves out.
2006-09-09 05:25:32 · 18 answers · asked by eastcoastdebra 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have no intention of moving back in with them. They dont seem to understand that.
2006-09-09 05:35:05 · update #1
Hi!
Tell them everything you have written here. Tell them that you are too old to have curfews... and just too old to be living with your parents. Tell them that you will never find a husband if you live with them- no man wants a woman who still lives with their mom and dad.
Be Blunt... Tell them that you need your privacy and space because you are a woman now and you have a woman's needs and desires... and you do not have the money to spring for a hotel every weekend.
;)
Don't let them make you feel guilty... you need (and deserve) your own space...
Best Wishes...
T.
2006-09-09 05:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by Theophania 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres more to the story than you are telling or that you know. Why would your parents want this? It sounds creepy and I would not be surprised that your boyfriend is leaving because of your connection and relationship with your family. I have not seen that question yet but your story is a little weird, its usually the offspring who is dirty and messy, not the parents. Sell your home and move in with me, Im in midwest and that should be enough distance to get you thinking clearly. Good Luck with your rare problem, even if I wanted to move back to my parents they would say no, I am going on 30 and have not lived with them since I was 16, and they are the cleanest people on earth second to me.
2006-09-09 12:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by Later Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll take u but without the drama and the parents. Sounds like u got it on the ball. Own ur own home at 28. Yeah that's what I'm talkin bout. But girl u got issues if mama and Dada still trying to control u. U'll never grow up if u go back. Should u return u return to where they left off when u decided to leave no matter what they tell u. Stay independent and free from their clutches. It seems they r manipulative and selfish, they're only thinking of themselves. And as for ur boyfriend good riddance he probably wasn't right for u anyway, again I'm here for ya contact me.
2006-09-09 12:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After all this time living on your own, I would not want to live with my Parents. You are making a life for yourself and have a home that you own. Just say Sorry I love you but I can't live with you!! I Love my Home and I have different ways of doing things then you. And I like the fact I am my own Boss. Good Luck!!!
2006-09-09 12:36:10 · answer #4 · answered by Mrsdonmar 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You can't live with your parents forever. It sounds like they have some serious empty nest issues they need to work out and you moving back in wont help those issues at all. Maybe you can try and seek out some type of group therapy you all can go to, to help everyone move on.
2006-09-09 12:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by swtstrbry9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question -Reread it! You already know you can't move back home. Hold your head up and be proud. Not many people can say they bought a house at such a young age. You should be proud to be out on your own!
2006-09-09 12:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have to treat our parents as the children and when the polite hints have not worked, you have to be very straight forward. I've been in your situation and my finally, bluntly standing up for myself has made my relationship with my parents much better. I'm the youngest and come to find out, they weren't handling the "empty nest syndrome" very well.
Good luck!
2006-09-09 13:11:09 · answer #7 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just dont do it all you have to do is sit your parents down and explain to them that you are an adult now and you need to learn how to do things on your own and everything like that and even if you are living on your own how do they give you a curfew it isnt like you are going to obe it! sounds like you have worked really hard to gtet that down payment i woudl just do what i said and they should understand!
good luck!
2006-09-09 12:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl your a grown *** woman why would wanna move back in with your parents, just be staight with them and say you like living on your own they'l understand if they dont ease off just keep saying same yhing dont give up
2006-09-09 12:36:44 · answer #9 · answered by rochie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 28 years old. That means you are an adult! Do you really need anybody to tell you where to live?
2006-09-09 12:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋