When i was 11 my cousin who was 14 asked me weather i would have sex with her, now i was not just her cousin back then but also a very close friend and i said yes to her and after the first time this went on for a year then she got scaired of getting pregnant so she stopped it, now 3 years on from that day she has never spoken a word of what has happened but i want to find out weather she regrets doing it weather she thinks i have forgot about it or thinks she took advantage of my friendship so dosent speak about it weather she is a shamed, all these questions i want to no but i dont no how to just go up to her and ask her because i worry so much she might just deny what happened or get upset and now she has a boy friend who is twice her age and has a little girl.I my self after so long still have feelings for her witch i do admit is mostely lust and am getting very needy for it these last couple of months i dunno what to do it is impossible to forget and get on with my life.
2006-09-09 05:12:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you truly care for you cousin, you will let it go!
2006-09-09 05:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by theblackenedphoenix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a girlfriend and forget her yourself. Move on. Obviously she needed you at a time in her life and now she does not need you anymore. It serves you not to know her reasons for talking about it or not. The best you can do for yourself is to move on, fall in love. You can only control yourself and you have no control over her or anybody else, neither is it healthy to have that control over others. So you do what you need to do, what helps you to grow emotionally and spiritually. It is very clear that she can not be in your plans since she already changed. She is no longer the lonesome horny young cousin. She is a different woman with different need and different life. I suggest you do the same for yourself.
2006-09-09 12:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by Pyramider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough, very tough. I think that it is mostly shame and hormones going crazy. I think if you can get over it and put it in the past than you should. She feels awful that she did that but at the same time it will be hard for her to forget it. I suggest leave it alone or talk to her about it, or finally get yourself a girlfriend. I recommend not to engage in any more interactions with her. That is only for your own good.
2006-09-09 12:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by delapazluz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys need serious help. Or you could always move to Utah and join Polygamist community for people who think it's okay to sleep with family members.
2006-09-09 12:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by poker_star21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is thinking to herself that she took advantage of you and how wrong it was for you to sleep together and the fact that she doesnt want to get you into trouble and she doesnt want to get hurt so she moved on with someone she thinks is not going to hurt her you should move on to because it is your cousin and she is probably trying to figure out how to move on with the guilt that she slept with you
2006-09-09 12:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had sex when you were 11 or did i misunderstood? If so, you need help!
2006-09-09 12:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what? she enjoys sex, and you were nearby.
find a new lover.
2006-09-09 12:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just doesn't wanna get hurt
2006-09-09 12:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO GO TO COUNSELING, AND SO DOES SHE. TELL HER TO GO TO COUNSELING WITH YOU. IF SHE WON'T, THEN GO BY YOURSELF, AND TELL YOUR PARENTS AND HERS.
2006-09-09 12:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it ALONE!!
2006-09-09 12:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋