My boyfriend lives so far from me... Well, that's not the problem. The thing is that we mostly communicate through the computer and he hasn't gotten connected in about 3 days. That's really odd because we usually talk every day. He does have a virus in his computer so that might be it. But, I texted him on his cell phone and he hasn't responded either and I texted him yesterday. I was thinking he might be avoiding me but his cell phone is also prepaid and when he runs out of credit he can't text anyone back. I'm giving him all the excuses possible... but I'm going crazy here... What should I do? What should I think?
2006-09-09 05:06:46 · 15 answers · asked by Athena 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on your relationship. If you have a good one and he's always been faithful and that's never been an issue, then I'd be mildly worried that something was wrong with him - sick, hurt, etc.
If he's done this before, or if he has a history of not being faithful, I'd assume exactly what you are - that he's avoiding you and isn't answering your texts because he's in a situation where he can't - like on a date or curled up in bed with another woman.
2006-09-09 05:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by BasketChick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know, but I'm thinking a week is the minimum span of time someone should start worrying. Anything is possible in 3 days - your excuses may be right after all - you never know.
Just wait, what else can you do? And stop worrying - at least not now. Usually the closest people to me are too busy and don't talk to me for a long time - but a weeks the beginning when I wonder what's holding them up so long.
Hang in there Crazy Chick and don't doubt him with no evidence... oh and Good Luck!
2006-09-09 12:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by piercing integrity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what I'd hope you think about is how you got connected with a guy who is unprepared for the responsibilites of a relationship. If he values you so little that he can't do the things he needs to do to keep in touch, what's in this connection for you? Relationships are give and take, comfort and be comforted, love and be loved and if things go only one way it leads directly, without stopping, to the condition you find yourself in--going crazy. What should you do? Think about what things are important to you in a relationship and act accordingly.
2006-09-09 12:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Murphy's law states that anything that can go wrong, will go wrong, at the least desirable moment, in as grand of fashion as possible.. so maybe all those things did happen... try snail mail.. or call his parents, and see if they heard from him and what's going wrong.. or call at three AM and flip out when the girl answers. Then call me.. hehe. Ive always wanted to date a crazy chic.
2006-09-09 12:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by fivemtnlarls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you call him on a land line (at home, work..etc) and talk to him like the good old days?
al straight to him and ask him exactly what you want to know.
You have the background and history and we don not have all the info to answer your question fairly and properly.
Best way is to get a hold of him and ask straight questions and insist on straight answer then decide accordingly.
2006-09-09 12:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by Pyramider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welllike u say maybe the excuses that u r saying could be true but they can also be excuses so they won't talk to u or who knows maybe he is going out with someone else if u know where he lives go visit him try to keep on calling him too
2006-09-09 12:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by baby_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. Give it a little time. If you have his address, write him a letter. Long distant relationships are tough, especially when you have to rely on technology for communicating. We sometimes grieve when it's not necessary. Hang in there, and write that letter....
2006-09-09 12:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by Amy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may be avoiding you for some reason....if the behavior continues, then you should be asking questions.
Stop making excuses for other's behavior. It is their problem, not yours.
2006-09-09 12:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from that computer before you become a computer Geek!
2006-09-09 12:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think sometimes maybe he's telling the truth. Just be patient with him and ask him for an explanation
2006-09-09 12:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by Abel Blessed Lim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋