I've had a boyfriend for 4 years. Last year we broke up for 2 weeks and during that time, I met a guy who added me to his messenger. I love talking to him and we do it quite often. The problem is that he doesn not know that I am back with my boyfriend and my boyfriend does not know that he exists. What should I do?
2006-09-09 04:57:49 · 19 answers · asked by Amy H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should tell both of them. Try being honest. You can't go wrong with that.
2006-09-09 04:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If an x is an X there must be a reason.
You may to tell the new guy that you are back with your boyfriend
You may ask yourself thsi question , do you really like your actual boyfriend up to what pt.
Ps: the new guy may shy away after you tell him the truth and the begining of very relationship is sweet.
Good luck ! the Truth will set you free.
2006-09-09 12:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by Camara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU SHOULD DO ?? YOu obviously have some problem with this arrangement, don't you ??
Well, to answer your question we need to know what your bf#1 relationship means. If you are both committed to each other or "shacking up" or "going steady" then you need to uninstall bf#2. If you are not committed to bf#1, then you should tell bf#1 and bf#2 that the other exists. It is this feeling of deceit that bothers you. In any case, you must tell them.
2006-09-09 12:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you just said???? Perfect! "I know I havent been real honest with you about something because I thought it might hurt you, so I didnt tell you... but when we were broke up for 2 weeks, I started IMing this guy and I havent stopped. (now add)... But if you want me to quit talking to him I will. You mean more to me than anything and your worth it." Ive gone through this stuff. Im 26 and Ive been with my husband for 11 yrs and we have been married for 8 1/2, so altho Im young, I do know what im talking about! lol. Best of luck to you!! Keep me posted?
2006-09-09 12:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by FuzzyDice 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I THINK U SHOULD TAKE SOME TIME 2 DECIDE ABOUT THE SITUATION WITH U AND UR BOYFRIND.SEE IF U WANT 2 CONTINUE UR RELATIONSHIP, OR IS IT THE END OF THE ROAD. BREAKING UP AND GETTING BACK 2 GETHER WILL TEAR DOWN UR BOND AND WILL ONLY GET WORSE. I FEEL U SHOULD FIX ONE THING BEFORE JUMPING INTO ANOTHER.U SHOULD ALWAYS BE HONEST ABOUT UR RACE BECAUSE COLOR SHOULDNT MATTER, ONLY IGNORANT PEOPLE THINK IT DOES. IF HE DOES THEN THAT TELLS U RIGHT OFF HES A JACKASS.GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-09 12:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i know thtat it might be hard but u need to tell both of the guys what the deal is. Because you are not only cheating yourself but also both of the guys. And plus it's not right to keep this all in secrets.
2006-09-09 12:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by polobaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you actually met this other guy? It's a little internet fantasy so say nothing. He probably has a wife and 10 kids anyway.
2006-09-09 12:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about the IM friend. Trust me, if you don't, it will only pose more problems for you down the road. Keeping secrets in any relationship can be detremental to it.
2006-09-09 12:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play these guys. Decide which one you want to continue on with.
2006-09-09 12:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you really have to pick one or the other because right now, you are not being fair to either one.
2006-09-09 11:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋