im going to see a counceler this week. kind of nervous. is it normal to feel this way? i feel kinda scared and i don't know exactly what to say to her when i meet her.
2006-09-09 04:55:49 · 32 answers · asked by ohlala 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It is understandable to be nervous, after all, it's not something that one does everyday. Just pace yourself and remind yourself that you are not the first person that counselor has seen. They have experience and are there to help. You'll be OK and it's good to hear that you are taking the necessary steps to overcome whatever problem you may have. I'm sure she will ease you into the consultation and take away your discomfort. Just be yourself and that will allow her to do the best job possible.
2006-09-09 04:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by cryingrainbow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal. The counselor will probably guide you in what to talk about. She may ask you why you've come. Answer questions as honestly as you can. If there's something going on in your life that you want to talk about, do that. Trust is a big part of counseling. Counselors are used to people being nervous and not knowing what to do. After all, you're two total strangers, it may take some time before you trust her enough to talk about some things.
2006-09-09 05:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal! I've been doing counseling for two years (it helps a TON!) I started when I was maybe 14. And i was sooo scared, my dad had to pick me up, drag me down the steps, out of the house, and even carry me out of the car while i was screaming and crying. But once I got in there, they were really cool and it's honestly NOTHING to be worried about! And YOU don't really have to do a whole lot of talking if you don't want to. They just ask ya some questions, talk to you kind of like a friend. I really like it, and now my counselor is such a good friend of mine and I can tell her anything. Good luck- I'm proud of you for taking the big step and going! It will help a lot.
2006-09-09 04:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet her, be normal. It's fine when you are scared to do something that you've never done. Be yourself. Just open wide and she'll help you a whole lot and never feel embrassed or you will not feel comfortable at all talking to you.
Just reveal your secrets and she'll help you the best she can; that is why we have councelers.
2006-09-09 04:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by shewolf2899 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sounds perfectly normal, however, try not to think about it too much. It can take a few session with a councellor before you feel comfortable enough to talk about what is really on your mind. It might be a little awkward at first but I am sure after a session or two, you'll ease into things. Good luck!
2006-09-09 05:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be nervous. You don't have to worry about what to say, they are excellent at making you feel at ease and opening up the discussions. They usually ask alot of questions in the beginning and they will know which things they need to help you with. Just know it will help with whatever you are going through.God speed.
2006-09-13 02:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely normal to feel nervous. After all, if you're going to get anything out of it, you're going to have to deal with some things you have been not wanting to deal with. Just stay focused on the fact that as long as you are honest with yourself, this is going to have a positive effect on your life. And don't worry about what to say to her, she deals with people for a living who don't know what to say, and she's trained to ask questions to get you going in the direction you need to go. So try not to worry, and good luck and God bless you!
2006-09-09 04:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Verb8mgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's very normal to be apprehensive about meeting a stranger and talking about yourself. Don't try to plan, just take it as it comes. Give her a chance. You don't *have* to share anything if it makes you uncomfortable. She's there to help but it's OK to say "that's personal."
Hopefully you'll be able to establish a good relationship but if you don't feel at ease around her, just say so, and find someone else.
2006-09-09 04:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by anna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal to feel nervous. Don't think about what you will say. She will draw you out appropriately. Ask you questions. Just answer honestly and sincerely. You'll be fine. Counseling mostly adjusts your thinking on things that are distorted. Helps you see more clearly.
2006-09-09 04:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Author Al 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to see one too and I was nervous. It is completely normal. Don't worry about what you have to say to her/him they will ask you questions and I'm sure you'll have an answer. They will tell you not to be nervous because nobody will ever know what was said except you and the counsler.
2006-09-09 04:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by poker_star21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋