Do you ever get afraid when you think of your child's future?

Question

I'm a first time mom .But anyways,I get so afraid when I think about him getting older.He's only 2 now,and I try to be the best mother I could be.But my mother was the same way with my brother who's now 24.She spent time with all of us,loved us and taught us right from wrong but now my brother's in and out of jail and doing drugs.Why do people turn out that way when they were not raised to be that way? And do you ever wonder about this?

Answer 1

YES - the world has become very hostile and unfriendly. PRAY for your child.

Answer 2

I believe this happens because no matter what a child is taught,they still have their own will,which allows them to make choices.The bible says to train a child in the way they SHOULD go,not would go.They will venture out and try things in order to find their identities.But when all else fells they tend to return to what they were taught and what was instilled in them.I don't really fear for her future,but I fear the changes in the world,people,and the environment that she has to face.I can remember my father saying that he wouldn't want to come up in the times that we(his daughters) have to come up in.Now 25 years later,I think the same thing about my daughter.She has so much to deal with that I didn't when I was growing up. I feel sorry that she has the kind of men lacking in values,morals and ethics to choose from.I hate that she has to be aware that now not only men will be attracted to her,but women as well.I hate that I have to teach her that not everyone loves her,and that their are some adults as well as children who want to hurt her.I mean,I know there were pedofiles,gays,lesbians etc around when I was growing up.But it seem somehow that people were not as apt to act on every desire and thought they had.The world is more of a dangerous place now than it was just 30 years ago. We could trust our teachers,preachers,police,and neighbors.It is so sad that those days are long gone,never to return again.But through it all I just pray that GOD surrounds her with good hearted,GOD fearing people who won't harm her.I pray that she will be of sound mind and judgement,and that no harm comes to her, physical,emotional or other wise.

Answer 3

i'm both going to guess on Seabiscuit, Secretariat, or quickly To Be Glue. no longer particular which yet! Oh, you're speaking about figurative horses. properly seeing as how Lindzen - probably the most sensible skeptic - received't guess hostile to warming except he's given 50:a million odds, i'm questioning it truly is not any longer a sensible guess. thinking the reality that almost all of clinical professionals are declaring that people are the well-known reason for the present warming and we'd want to minimize our greenhouse gasoline emissions 80% with the help of 2050 with the intention to stay away from the worst outcomes, and a sensible human being continuously prepares for the worst case concern, i'd be putting my guess on Consensus.

Answer 4

I wish you all the best for your child's future first.
Please remember that the home is the first and basic school for any child and the parents are the first teachers.
Your Child just imitates your action, your words etc and that is how the learning starts.So give a good atmosphere at home for your kid and you will get the best result.

Also remember that by the age of 6 yrs 90% of the growth of ones brain is complete so what you teach the cild till 6 years will basically contribute to his personality

Answer 5

Let your child be his age. At 2, let him act like 2. At 10, give him the trust and responsibilities due a 10 year old. I'd never ask a ten year old to hold my hand when we cross the street, but I demand my 4 year old to. My 8 year old is allowed to walk home from school (safe neighborhood, close to home) but I'd never let my 6 year old do it. So don't hold on too tight. Don't make your entire life that kid. Its too much pressure on a child. Have friends, do things with other adults, even if its just playdates. Find things to talk about with your spouse or friends that doesn't revolve around your child. Loving him is great, but don't smother him. One day he'll grow up and you'll need a life that doesn't revolve arounf the kids. My sister's husband's mother still tries to be needy and smothering. Its hard on them as a couple, and him as an adult child. So quit worrying about things that might never happen and just enjoy him. He won't be 2 for long.

Answer 6

Sweetie people turn out that way because we have choices in life. Your brother has made some bad choices in his life. We all have, but at some point you would hope that a person would realize "cause and effect" and stop making the wrong choices.

You can not prevent anything your son is going to chose to do. All you can do is be a loving kind and informative mom. The rest is up to him...And he's two years old , so please take it easy...At least wait until he's a teenager to start fretting...lol....Good luck!...and relax please....
P.S. Put your child in God's hands, after that ....you leave it alone.

Answer 7

People just decide to fall of track it's not that parents fault if they did the best that they could do in raising thieir children, The only thing you can do is to just contuine doing your best and hope that he stays on track my daughter is 18 months and I worry a lot about whatthe world's going to be like in another 17 years since it's so crazy now

Answer 8

As adults we all have to choose the things we do. Even the greatest parent cannot keep an adult child from making bad choices. We all have to take responsibility for our actions. You concentrate on NOW, help your child to grow up happy and do you best to encourage him to make GOOD choices now and really, all you can do is hope that when he is completely on his own he will continue to make good choices. We all flub up now and then but most of us are capable of staying out of jail and having at least content lives.

Your son will be fine, especially if you can explain the consequences to really poor choices, such as what a hard life your brother is having because of his poor choices.

Of course, there are things we can do to help make it easier for our children. My husband and I chose to move out of an Urban environment and we now live in the country where our kids grow up free of gangs, excessive violence, shootings, rape, drugs, etc. They go to a small school that gives them actual one on one help as necessary. The teachers actually give out their phone numbers to the students and encourage them to call if they need help with homework. If my kids get into any kind of trouble, I will probably know about it before they get home because someone in the community will notice and give me a call.

I cannot imagine my teenagers up in the city or even a really large town. The very thought scares the bijeebers out of me. And my kids certainly wouldnt be getting the kind of education in the big city that they can get here. This school is TOUGH about grades and they dont allow anyone to slip through the cracks. Of course, the student to teacher ration is much better than in very urban areas so that helps.

Goddess Blessings on you and your little one!

Answer 9

You are just a natural mother and worried about your son's future.However you can not change his destiny.Do your duty that is give him good education in good schools teach him morals of the Life and stories of Panch tantra Mahabharata and Ramayana as this will build his power of Mind.Do your Karma and forget about the results.Best of Luck to you and your family.

Answer 10

One Day At A Time,Do Ur Best Thats All U Can Do

Answer 11

Change your way of thinking about it.....try to focus on the POSITIVE things. Teach him the values and morals that your mom taught you. You'll always pray that these values you were taught...will reflect on your own children. Unfortunately, in this day and age...you need to take it...DAY BY DAY...and...LIVE IN THE MOMENT...for tomorrow may be too late. Good question.