Weget on exceptionally well and are compatale in many ways.He hasn't said much about previous relationships.But I gather he has been hurt also. We are both in our early 40s. Hes single no dependants. I'm single with 8yr old son. My son says he doesn't like neew man much but has only met him twice and on one of those occasions new man helped him with his homework which I thought was great. I have been really badly hurt in the past from a couple of relationships and have trouble comunicating with certain things. I know its early days yet and I have nothing to lose and must allow myself to trust this guy and he says the same thing. But I'm really scared and am worried about the affect this new relationship will have on my son as it has always been just us. Any advice?
2006-09-09 04:29:50 · 7 answers · asked by Fifi6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It matters what your Son thinks. It is up to the man to win his heart as well as his Mother or it will not work..period end of story,.
2006-09-09 04:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when my mom first met her now husband. I didn't like him at first. I think it was because it had always just been us and then all of a sudden here was this guy who moved in and put down the law. Now I'm older and I see him as a father. I'm glad my mom has him now that I'm not at home anymore. I didn't think of my mom as having a life outside of my brother and I. That one day my brother and I would move out and do our own thing. If he's good to you and your son then enjoy. You son will adjust with time. He's also coming into an age where he's going to need a man around for help.
2006-09-09 04:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by bird_e80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey i went through the same exact thing. My son is now 13 and when i met the man of my life,,who has been living with us for 2 yrs,,my son didnt like him either. But like you said its only been you and him all this time,,so of course you cant blame him for that. But as far as you really caring for this man and you thinking he will be good to your son,,Give it a chance. Your son will change his mind about him in time. Trust me. Just make sure hes the right man for the both of you. Its ok to be worried about your son,,,,but truely i think he will be fine after he gets to know him and spends time with him.
2006-09-09 04:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur son is 18 u don't need to worry about him.n if u do find urself falling for this guy and u kno in ur heart it's the right thing ur doin,then follow ur heart.i understand that ur a lil scared n ur trying to be careful with ur heart n who u give it to.but u kno what in life it doesn't hurt to give people a chance.so try that,give him a chance to proof his self!
goodluck
2006-09-09 04:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling, give it time, im sure he will be jellous at first, seems theres always a few problems when theres kids involved. your son needs to know that you need companionship other than him and there r things that he cant give you that a relationship can, he also needs to understand that he isnt going to be there forever and when he goes off to live his life you need someone....ive been there, theres really no easy way but to be honest and work through it
2006-09-09 04:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by starlight1blonde87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the guy spends more time with your son hell prob. start to like him. he is jelous because someone else is getting your attention also.
2006-09-09 04:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax, go with the flow
2006-09-09 04:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋