We recently had to put our kid in a pych. hospital, with good intentions,?

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and now,she's still there, she is VERY angry at us.She is acting out in there more than ever...calls us saying things like 'she hates us,wish I would die etc etc.
We were at a loss about what else to do for her...were we supposed to keep her home and risk her harming herself.She is 17.Now I'm thinking ,did we do wrong,will she come out worse than before.
WE have tried every available option; doctors,therapists,hypnosis everything with no good results.Was this caused by something WE did; this illness does not run in either familys' history.Ideas.....

Answer 1

You did the right thing in putting your daughter in a place where you know she can be safe, once she gets settled down and the doctors figure out what medicines to give her, she will likely have a routine of classes, groups and doctor appointments to give structure to her days and help her begin to sort out what issues she needs to work on.
Don't even consider blaming yourselves, chemical imbalances in the brain are often the cause of erratic behaviors and the medications the doctors use will be in an attempt to even that out and compensate for the brain chemistry issues.

Answer 2

You did the right thing!!! Now let the mental health professionals deal with your daughter and help her to "heal."

It is normal for a person to become very angry with those loved ones who reached out and helped that person. And the increase in her negative behaviors (activing out) is also very normal.

First, she is not an adult and you as parents are responsible for her health, mental and physical. Second, when a person is ill, mental or physical, they very seldom make informed/wise decisions.

She may say not that she hates you, but down the road as she matures she will see that in the end it was the correct decision.

Give treatment time. It will not happen overnight, or next week, and probably not for the next several months. I expect the psychiatrist will recommend a trial of some form of psychotropic medication. Medications don't work immediately; many taking ten days or so to begin to show improvements. Listen to his sage and educated advise.

Talk to one of her therapists and make sure they know about the negative comments made during phone calls. The decision may be that you screen your calls for the next week or so. Or, you may decide with the therapist/psychologist/social worker/psychiatrist that her phone calls should be restricted.

If during treatment you have questions, ask them. It is your right as the guardian of person for your daughter. But you can also go to webmd.com and learn about the medications the doctors are using.

Mental illnesses do not always run in families. However, don't be surprised if the therapists come up with some causes you may not realize where there, e.g., drug use, trauma, etc.

Mainly, don't feel guilty for loving your daughter to make those hard decisions and protect her health and safety. You made the right decision.

Answer 3

I work in a Mental Hospital/clinic. I have all types of clients. One thing is if a young person is forced into going somewhere for the first few months they are going to feel "betrayed". You have to use Tough love and Talk to the doctors about her treatment plan. Be aware but let them and her work things out. Our biggest obstacle is having families trying to interfer with our treatment plans and then the patient doesn't know what to do! Be supportive but don't listen to her cussing at you or saying bad things because you did the right thing. Good luck...She might not realize it now but soon she will that you did what was best!

Answer 4

Well it depends... What is the diagnosis?
Bipolar? Drug addict?
I am just wondering because I am both of those.... I have been in and out of rehabs and psych hospitals but have now been sober for 18 months and doing great... Just have to make sure I take my meds every day and what not... When I was 16 I got put into one of those places and I was furious but in all honesty I think alot of it was coming down off of drugs. She may not know it now but her being there may be a blessing. If she hurts herself out in the real world and you took her out of there just because she is acting up, you will not be able to forgive yourself. Talk to her though.... And even though she is angry make sure you visit her... Tell her that you love her and just need there to hang in there so she can get better and that you promise everything will be ok... Alot of what she is going through is just fear.... She will be ok but don't let her have the power in your relationship. You must stand firm on your decision if you want her to really get the help she needs and explain that she is there because she gave you no other options and that all you want is for her to get better... I hope this helps a little.... I am not a doctor but have been through this more than once...

Answer 5

Don't worry.. you're her parents and you did what you thought was right. Don't think it was something you did. That's going to cause more misery and shame than it's going to be helpful to your daughter.

When I was 18, my parents tricked me into seeing a Psychologist, because I had some issues. That Psychologist forced me into a mental facility. I didn't have a choice about it. I was a danger to myself and others. For the first 2 months I was there.. I hated my parents. Spouting similar things as your daughter is.. and worse. After a while, and some treatment, I realized that they did what they had to in order to help me. I'm sure she'll realize the same.
Now I'm 24.. and I'm closer to my parents than ever.. because they stepped up and made the difficult decision that possibly saved my life. I hope that as a mother.. I will be able to do the same someday.. step up and make a difficult decision.

Answer 6

You did the right thing especially with concerns that she was
going to harm herself. It will take time but she will get over her
anger maybe even sooner than you think. In the long run she may
even be thankful because hopefully treatment will help her feel
better.She is at an age that she probably won't admit that she is
thankful though.
Best Wishes,
Trish

Answer 7

if the reason was because she's suicidal, i know what you're saying. it took me 2-3 months before i had to tell my school counselor that my best friend is suicidal.... and that day she gave me her personal journal so i knew that i had to do something...
after i told him they had to bring her to the office and call someone up to take her to the hospital and i was crying thinking she was gonna hate me for it and that i betrayed her. she was mad at me at first and she hated being there.
2 or 3 months passed after that, and she told me that if she wasnt sent to the hospital that day, she would have been dead cuz she would have done it that night. today, about 3 years later she thanks me for saving her life.
i know its hard and u feel like u betrayed her trust and that she hates u but she doesnt, shes just very angry that shes there and that she has to deal with her problem. eventually, hopefully, she'll get straightened out. depends on the person... but she wont get worse...
good luck and im sorry for the situation...

Answer 8

Don't feel guilty about it obviously she needed the help or she wouldn't be there to begin with. I am 46 and Bipolar. My mother had me committed to a psych ward in my thirties. I was very angry with her at the time but time heals all wounds or so they say. She may be angry with you right now but as soon as her medications kick in she won't be so mad at you for trying to help her. Take it easy mom you did what you thought was best for her. Please don't feel guilty alright. If you would like to talk to someone please feel free to e-mail me at [e-mail]...and let loose of that guilt mom you just did your best.

Answer 9

oh boy. i had a friend that used to work in one of those and it is horrible from what he describes. There are people there with wose problems than your daughter.
But if she was going to harm herself you had to try.
Sounds like she needs a mentor, and a dliverance by someone who knows spiritual warfare. There are some Christians who know how to do that, but they are not in traditional churches.