as i said he is 8 yrs ,but now he dont listen to us,nor he is afraid of anything.when i slap him either he laughs sometimes and if he cry also then after 5 min he'll be back to normal and do what ever he likes to do.he dont take interest in studies as well,runs whenever ask to study,he's in class 3.i get so irritated at times that i shout at him ,but it hardly makes difference to him.i haven't read child psychology,so i dont know exactly how to handle him in more appropriate way.what should i do.i mean i should be soft or more hard towards him,earlier i never used to beat him.i have thyroid so i'm not supposed to shout also.
2006-09-09 04:04:56 · 9 answers · asked by sweetu 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think you should sit him down and talk to him. Ask him what the problem is, have there been changes in your circumstances that could have triggered the bad behaviour?
You could try spending quality time with him on a one to one basis, make him feel that you are interested in him and not just there to make his life hard.
There's no point shouting or smacking him, it only alienates him more, you have to come down to his eye level and TALK TO HIM not AT HIM.
Not sure if this will work but anythings worth a try.
2006-09-09 04:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by yumyum2chestnut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know just how your feel. Don't let anyone tell you that you are a horrible person, at least you are asking for help in dealing with this. When my son who just turned 10 and my stepson who just turned 12 get like this, I give them so many chores to do that they don't have time to do anything else. If they refuse to do them, or do them right, they start all over. If that means wasing the same sink full of dishes 3 time, them so be it.
It can be very hard to keep calm and not shout, but I have seen that with my kids it doesn't do any good. There are no perfect parents, or parenting experts. Each child if different as is each parents. Try different things till you find what works.
Good luck!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-09 08:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reacting in a negative way isn't the answer. Do you have Rules and a schedule for him to go by. Kids have to have boundaries and they have to know that this is the way it is going to be every time. When he gets in from school, what is the rule? does he have a study time, or does he study when he gets around to it? Does he have a bath and bed time? Does he have a family time, like maybe mealtime with everyone sitting at the table, where each of you participate in talking about your day?
Parenting isn't easy, even on a good day, but parents often make the job harder with yelling and getting upset. Sometimes we have to use the counting to ten to ourselves before reacting
2006-09-09 04:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont have any children, but i do know that children need to have strict house rules, sometimes yelling and inconsitancy in your punishments and rewards may confuse him or he may think of your "rules" as a game . . you have to show him that there are rules to the house, and when they are broken, there are consequences. have you tried grounding (oh, and dont ground him to his room is theres a computer and video games in there . . try and take those away) him? sometimes as the age of 8, spankings and hitting and shouting might not work anymore. just stay focused and dont lose your cool around him (children can smell fear . . lol . . jk) or if that doesnt work, try and reward him for doing good things so that he'll want to do them more and punishment for doing bad so that he wont want to do it. study his habits, if he likes something and plays with it alot, take it away from him when hes bad . . and when hes good, let him have it more often. . . try watching nanny 911 . . it helps :) good luck
2006-09-09 04:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by therisingtide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to get the nanny 911 book, seriously i know several people that it has helped. Give it a try, go out and buy itNOW!!! Before it gets anyworse, your health and sanity are at stake not t mentio your sons well being as far as behavior school exc exc. Good Luck!! :)
2006-09-09 08:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by Carly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE JUST B DOING DAT SHI* 4 ATTENTION I WAS LIKE DAT WHEN I WAS 8 NOW IM 11 YRS OLD SO I THINK u should bust his a** insted of slappiong jhim dats what my mom did to me now im a honor role student and i be have i onlly fight when i have to now im trying to stop cursing
2006-09-09 08:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by **lov v **child** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him to Jr Marine boot camp they will teach him respect and more you slap him and you can be criminally charged so be carefull should he call 911 you will be arrested
2006-09-09 05:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by aldo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my son did that i made him sit in his room with his hands on his lap whatever he touched he lost for good then i took away his playstation and gameboy since he lived for them then since he had nothing to do i included him in helping do things cooking cleaning ect.
2006-09-09 04:51:52 · answer #8 · answered by debbie3968@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to whoop him and let him know who is in charge and that is you and if he dosen't stop you need to take him to a counseler let him let out all his anger and if he don't get better after that you need to call me and let me whoop his but!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-11 06:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by chan_sweet91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋