Im seeing this guy who's supposed to be really sexy.n i know dat at heart he's not the kinda guy i wanna be with.he's not very sensitive to other people's feelings.he was my senior in school n he had a casanova kinda image.but he says dat he has changed for me. n wants me to be that special someone.my best friend says that it's just about the physical thing that im attracted to him physically.n she says that my guy's being with me also just becoz i was the most popular gal at school and also that all the guys wanted to ask me out.may be he's letting out the details of our relationship.overall, not being trustworthy.but this guy's just so irresistible n i really wanna be with him. wat do i do??
2006-09-09 04:02:34 · 18 answers · asked by Ann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be with him and see where it goes...You don't want to be afflicted with the 'what if' syndrome...If you start sensing or feeling that he reverting back to his old ways you are better off cutting off the relationship and moving on....Besides, it's not like you're going to marry the guy....You are simply going to date him...And so what if it's a physical attraction...That's not necessarily a bad thing...
2006-09-09 04:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by cryingrainbow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I can give you a very honest perspective based on personal experience. In all such cases, the Guys who you said are having a casanova image, may actually be very insecure in their relationships with girls deep inside. An average guy in an Indian context, usually doesn't like to ditch his girlfriend, because his life depends on her. And, that is 100% truth. I am a guy I know how other guys feel.
But, casanovas come with a problem sometimes. Once they are convinced that their girl is going to stay with them (e.g. after ENGAGEMENT), they start flirting with other chicks. Many casanovas easily get BORED with one girl, even though they may be needing her very much. But, many are willing to DEVELOP stronger character for someone they are supposed to be in love with.
Usually, when a guy decides that I want only this girl, they at least try to keep their vow. But, in today's age of material values, nothing is predictable.
So, the only thing that matters is trust, and comfort, and frankness. You must ask these questions, are you both extremely comfortable with each other, ALL THE TIME!!! Does he really need you? Are you both belonging to the same social class (Economic statuswise). If there is a clash of egos, are you willing to sacrifice for this man?
2006-09-09 04:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by quilm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, sounds like its physical to me. You can be with him if you want, but sounds like the prequil to termoil. You can't base a relationship on sex, or appearance, desaster follows. It goes good for a while, but then you run out of things to talk about, you start spending less and less time w/ each other, and next thing ya know, your not together anymore. Don't do it. Date, sure, make it a fling, enjoy the moment, but don't go having kids, or getting married just yet.
2006-09-09 04:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Irresistable? Ok!!!
I am so sure other females can resist him so'why can't you? You want a guy who is
trustworthy too? It really doesn't sound like
you do. That's like a guy who says that he's
looking for an honest girl,but dates only those
with fake nails and boob jobs,ect......
Coloring your hair is one thing,adding things
to your body is another,so would you trust a
man like that if he said honesty was important
to him yet chose to see only girls who just try
to show their bodies all the time?
I don't believe this guy changed for you or any
one else,but he might want to get some booty?
2006-09-09 04:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are with him and you don't feel special or he doesn't make you feel like your the only girl in the room,and if you feel he is not with you for the right reasons its not good!I think you should be an example if you are popular and show people its GOOD to go with whats right for you which may not look good to everyone else.Why be with someone when you get nothing out of it but false gratification,it seems like your quite insecure about it and I think you should truly follow your instinct and your heart on this one.I think you should prove to yourself also that you are stronger than falling for only looks and your not that shallow,it seems like you want to go with your gut instinct,I really think you should,only you know whats best for you.Good luck Xxx
2006-09-09 05:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Holly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FOLLOW YOUR HEART!!! =)
If you think you are already mature enough to decide on things like this... then decide what you like best and comfortable with. If you really like the guy then accept him... but if you think that your relationship wont work then use your brains in this matter... write a list of your priorities and choose what is best and what is least... if that guy is on the list, then go! If he doesnt have the qualities you like (not physically) and he doesnt have the attitude... it's up to u
2006-09-09 04:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by Pauline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use him for what he's worth, then dump him and find someone else, that will change his whole outlook on things. Just show him that your more then him and better than him and he was just a highway for the moment to get you to were you wanted to go, and now that your there, there's no use for him anymore.
2006-09-09 04:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by snowflake9540 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u shud just dump him. Dont be with him just because its the right thing 2 do. Hes just being a guy: jealous, obsessive and horny. Hes not right 4 u.
2006-09-09 04:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by tiffany072390 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to think like you have more sense then a goose, and dump his butt. Try thinking with your head instead of your hormones. Which is what he should be doing.
2006-09-09 04:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by clear_skyzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question when you said,he's not the kinda guy you want to be with..
You can do way better.
2006-09-09 04:05:59 · answer #10 · answered by rosie w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋