she also has 2 year old daugher by me & three other girls by her previous marriage but now she s adamant to have a boy even im not ready to agree, i dont think she'll not concieve again cos she had a normal delivary recently it s too much for me to have a one more kid wer im not sure it could be boy. is is that she'll concieve cos we had sex without contraciption pls advice.
2006-09-09 03:45:21 · 9 answers · asked by enric_est 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
at 45 her body is changing...she shouldnt have any more kids...shes gonna look more like there grandma then a mom :(
2006-09-09 03:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar_Plumzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be considerate. Understand she may not have the option for more kids much longer. That said, if you really can't bear to have one more, it is better to tell her than ruin you relationship over it. I knew a couple who had a 6 year old girl; she wanted a boy, he was happy. She insisted, finally he agreed on the condition that she have her tubes tied after, whether or not it was a boy. She had a boy, got her tubes tied, and it was such a source of contention still that 3 months later her husband had moved out. Now 5 years later he is involved with someone else (with whom he has 3 kids) and she, who wanted more kids, is involved with someone else and can't have any more.
So, don't let it ruin your marriage, but if you can give in, do. This is her last chance to have kids, short of adoption, and she wants to take it. BUT as some others have said, suggest waiting a few months (or suggest she ask her doctor how long to wait; he'll probably suggest at least a year). Don't say 'so we can see if your hormones calm down' say, 'so you can be at your best health for the pregnancy'.....and then see if maybe her hormones do calm down.
2006-09-09 04:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by imjustasteph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has already conceived, it is too late to worry about and you will just have to accept what comes.
Plenty of women are still fertile at 45, but especially if she is breast feeding, it is highly unlikely that she is ovulating just 3 weeks after having given birth. In fact, you shouldn't be having sex so soon after the birth as it can lead to infection of sensitive parts so recently injured.
It may be a shame, but the only birth control option available to you is the condom. If you want to have more control over your own parental destiny, you will have to start pressuring the pharmaceutical companies to create a birth control pill for men.
In the meantime, just help take care of the baby, take care of your wife and tell her how happy you are with all your girls. There is no daughter who cannot give her parents everything that a son can and more. Make sure your wife knows you feel this way.
2006-09-09 03:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by baggyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time to come down off the hormone roller coaster she is on right now. I had twins 3 years ago and went around for months saying I wanted to get pregnant again. Finally, I realized I had to spread the love I had around as thickly as I could and worry about the three kids I have - not be selfish and want even more. It takes two to conceive...you'll have to talk this out after some time passes.
2006-09-09 03:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by applebetty34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a women conceives after 40 .. there are more chances of congenital deformations and increases chances of autism in kids.. but many women give normal birth.
Its a mutual decision.. and if you are not ready to father another child you shud talk to your wife and go to a doctor to talk about the risks involved with conceiving at her age.. that wud be a better option... If she is adament about having a child.. she won't listen to what u have to say..if a third person..like a doctor.. her close friend tell her.. then she might understand..
Also talk her into being foster parents to a boy.. and finacila and emotional burden of bringing another child to life and not being there for then in thier teens for then..or not being able to attend their graduations .. marriages etc.
Good luck
2006-09-09 03:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by pritz_9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide first if you can handle another child and take care of him/her at par with others. Then you obviously have to be worried about the past prime age of your wife when the pregnancy could be complicated and the chances of birth defects also rise. More importantly, can your wife look after the twins recently born as well as the other baby for which she plans.
2006-09-09 07:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by ingos 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to start using condoms. Neither of you should force the other to have more kids. And by not using any kind of protection, you could be a daddy again. Tell her if she wants a boy so bad, maybe ya'll should adopt.
2006-09-09 03:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourselves time to adjust to being new parents again. Tell her that you havn't made a permanent decision and you want to discuss it a year down the road. Then if you both still feel the same it will be easier to discuss.
2006-09-09 03:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her tie her tubes so that there will be no more children
2006-09-09 04:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by Shanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋