What should I do??

Question

When I look into the mirror, I don't like what I see. I don't like my eyes. I think they are dull, too big and too long. I hate my nose. It is too short and has an ugly shape. My nostrils can be seen clearly from the front. Like a pig. And I have an ugly smile. When I smile, my mouth makes a funny shape. It's hideous. And smiling seems to lengthen my already long chin. I hate practically everything on my face. I'm so jealous of good-looking people. I hate having my picture taken. I know I should just learn to love myself more but I still can't do it. Help!

Answer 1

Learn who you are in Christ. You are special...everyone is. You were created for a reason. What about your inner beauty. Didn't you know that beauty comes from within? What about your talents and your strengths?

First, you need to get rid of the hate you have for others. JEALOUSY IS A VERY UGLY EMOTION! Get rid of it! Find out who YOU are and be happy with yourself!

Seek counseling, if you must.

Answer 2

Hi ya there are very few people if any at all that do not like what they see in a mirror,me included,you don't say how old you are or i just can't see it, or if you are male or female but maybe you are still maturing,I'm more than sure that you are just been too hard on yourself,if you still feel the same after a period of time and you are working,you can always save up some money and have a face lift(wish i could have one)if you want to,in the mean time if you are a female how about some make up,that can work,or if you are male how about a beard and a moustache,what ever you choose to do please try not to be so hard on yourself,beauty is in the eye of the beholder,good luck

Answer 3

Those were the same words that came from Michael Jackson's mouth when he was a kid and look in the way he looks know, Do you think he can feel happy with his self in the way he looks right now? Do you wanna look like the models on magazines? For me most of them look like skinny lizards and the most of them are suffering the vomiting disorder. Take a look deep inside you and you'll find all the beauty you're looking for, do not poison your self by been jealous of people, may be they don't have the half of heart beauty you have. Be a good person, honest and self estimated and there be someone next to you loving you for what you are and not by the way you look, perhaps the outside is something that vanishes with the time soul beauty its something that gets better with the years.

Answer 4

That is impossible that you're that bad looking. I don't want to say, you have to love yourself because that is hard when you're as critical of your face as you are. Are you a man or woman?
There's always something nice in a face, nobody is really happy with their looks, look at all the people who had plastic surgery.
If you are a woman you can camouflage a lot with properly applied make up and if you're a man, make sure you have a nice hair cut, smile a lot, for bright eyes eat lots of fresh veggies and fruits and stop being critical of yourself. Other people probably like what they see, a happy outlook on life and a sense of humour plus a nice smile is more important then looks.
Cheer up!

Answer 5

With the way society is if you dont look a certain way then your not beautiful. Not true you need to look in the mirror and tell yourself I am beautiful and get rid of those neg. thoughts. I go through the same thing I nit pick every detail and bring myself down. Try to find one thing that you like about yourself and keep telling yourself I look good build your confidence. You can only be the best that you can be. You are who you are and no one else. You will never look like those people that you want to look like, so look deep down and tell yourself you are beautiful. Maybe you dont feel it on the outside, but you probably are on the inside. Learn to love yourself for who you are.

Answer 6

Honey we all look in the mirror at times and don't like what I see either. I am 46 and even though I still look pretty good, I have plenty of days when I look in the mirror and don't like what I see either. Don't be so hard on yourself. Inside I bet you are a beautiful person give yourself a break. Good luck

Answer 7

Stop putting yourself down.None of us are perfect.It's inside that counts...truly.We're stuck with what we're born with,so make the most of it,well...apart from those false people who go in for surgery every other week and end up with a big plastic blob on their shoulders.(Got nothing against cosmetic surgery,but not to the extreme) Everyone is born different,we just compensate for imperfections in another way,like having a good sense of humour,being a good person who people like,but you got to like yourself first. You have to get people to look beyond the face and see the person....and no one is happy with their pictures

Answer 8

Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) is a mental disorder, which involves a disturbed body image. Body dysmorphic disorder is generally diagnosed of those who are extremely critical of their physique or self image, despite the fact there may be no noticeable disfigurement or defect

Most people wish they could change or improve some aspect of their physical appearance, but people suffering from BDD, otherwise considered normal, believe that they are so unspeakably hideous that they are unable to interact with others or function normally for fear of ridicule and humiliation at their appearence.

BDD combines obsessive and compulsive aspects which has linked it to the OCD spectrum disorders among psychologists. People with BDD may engage in compulsive mirror checking behaviors or mirror avoidance, typically think about their appearence for more than one hour a day and in severe cases may drop all social contact and responsibilities as they become homebound. The disorder is linked to an unusually high suicide rate among all mental disorders.

BDD focuses on an individual's preoccupation with a physical defect in their appearance that may or may not exist however either way is greatly exaggerated. This disorder has been referred to as "imagined ugliness" and initially as "Dysmorphophobia" in the late 1800's.

It is estimated that BDD affects 1-2% of the population mostly teenagers and young adults. Chronically low self-esteem is characteristic of those with BDD due to their value of oneself being exclusively interlinked with their percieved appearence. The prevalence of BDD is equal in men and women, and causes chronic social anxiety for those suffering from the disorder.
Symptoms of BDD
Reflection checking in mirrors, reflective doors and glasses and any other reflective material.
Inability to look at ones own reflection.
Compulsive skin-touching, especially to measure or feel the perceived defect
Reassurance seeking from loved ones.
Social withdrawal and co-existent depression.
Obsessive viewing of certain favourite celebrities or models the person suffering from BDD would like to resemble.
Excessive grooming behavoirs: combing hair, plucking eyebows, shaving, etc.

Treatments
Typically the psychodynamic approach to therapy does not seem to be effective in battling BDD while in some patients it may even be countereffective.

CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) coupled with exposure therapy has been shown to be effective in the treatment of BDD. Low levels or insufficient use of serotonin in the brain has been implicated with the disorder and so SSRI drugs are also commonly and with some success used in the treatment of Body Dysmorphic Disorder.

BDD tends to be chronic; as of current information, it does not subside through time and in most patients often becoming worse as the symptoms and concerns of the suffered diversify and social contacts are further deteriorated. As so, treatment is highly recommended as early as possible following the diagnoses.

I hope you don't have BDD.

Answer 9

I'm sure you look just fine. How much of your time do you spend looking into the mirror? If you spend way too much time looking into the mirror, being obsessed about your looks however, I'm afraid to say that you will need professional help. Good luck.

Answer 10

Dear Tristar: My suggestion would be, if possible, to seek mental health counseling. There are some issues that we are unable to conquer on our own and it would be helpful to have outside opinions and help. Improved self esteem can only come from within - but you can achieve this! With help, you will begin to see your uniqueness and beauty! Good Luck!