I was seeing this guy for a year n then i realized dat i wasn't meant to be with him.so, i eventually dumped him.he's gotten too psychotic now n have tried to commit suicide twice.i kno i cant be with him at all coz i was never happy with him.if anything happens to him, people wil blame me for it including our common friends,his parents n my brother.i can't afford to got through all this if anything happens to him.wat do i do so that nothing happens to him without me having to take him back..plz help..
2006-09-09 03:19:47 · 11 answers · asked by Ann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
put him on suicide watch or something. and it's not your fault
2006-09-09 03:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by crage_ralius 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't save him, but you can save yourself. Do what is best for you and don't allow other people to manipulate you into doing what you know would be wrong. I'm sorry that your ex feels so bad, but something was obviously wrong with him before you got together and it is not your fault.
Explain to your friends and family that you just cannot be with him, that neither of you would be happy in the long run, and that perhaps they need to get him some psychological help rather than a girlfriend. If they don't understand your point of view then they are not your friends and you need to just walk away and move on with your life. Sometimes life is hard and you just have to do what needs to be done no matter how painful it is.
2006-09-09 03:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get support from someone else who used to be close to you, like family. Do NOT try to break up with him all alone or he will try to manipulate you and if you go back, he will start harming you in many ways more than he already does. I know for sure coz it happened to me. Psychotic people cannot be fixed, I don't care what psychiatrists say. They can't. They can change themselves for whatever reason they decide and that's it. YOU cannot fix one.
Next: My sister had a boyfriend who stalked her after she broke up with him. He packed a bag and a gun and other things, drove his car to my parents property (it's a big farm with woods) and he hid in the woods all day after she wouldn't talk to him and take him back one last time. They didn't call the police coz the parents wouldn't let them unless he wouldn't come out at the end of the day, but I say don't be that nice if he starts to stalk you after you break up. Do not be alone for a while after breaking up, have friends around at all times, and DO call the police or an ambulance if he starts making suicide threats. I hope you have a cell phone, actually. The family can stand behind him all they want...begging you, blaming you, whatever...but you have to stand up for yourself!
Do not take him back. If you are alone with him between now and before you get around to seeing your friends and family, be prepared to call the police or an ambulance if he acts up again. Have the front door OPEN and you ON THE OTHER SIDE as you talk to him so you can shut it and run. I hate to sound so urgent, but these guys try to pin you and not let you leave....
I'm going to be worrying about you all day now. I hope this is not as bad as it seems for you.
2006-09-09 03:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a suicide hotline and do it now!
They can also give you expert advise on this.
He might do it,but it's not your fault,just see to
it that you make others aware that you don't
want him to harm himself and make it well
known to everyone around no matter who you
believe will blame you!!!
This isn't about you,it's about issues he's had
inside of himself all along and now they have
finally come out to the surface.
He must have some help and soon. Call the
suicide hotlines,and give his address even if
you have too and phone number,ect........
If you truly care like you say,you'll risk what
other people think about you to save a life,
ex boyfriend or not!!!
And remember,this is about him,not you!
2006-09-09 03:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help him as a friend but you're not responsible if he is mentally ill! Do your friends really believe you have control over another person? I don't really think so. If they know he is having trouble and don't get help, it is just as much their fault. Please don't stay with someone for such a sad and wrong reason.
2006-09-09 03:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by chante 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that duma** kills himself, it's his own fault, by his own hand, not yours. You can't live your life in fear of what he might do. You need to talk to him and/or his parents about getting him some serious help. If he's tried to kill himself twice, he should already be getting help.
2006-09-09 03:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him back!! He is just trying to get your attention by doing and saying that he is going to kill himself. Believe me, he doesn't want to kill himself. The people that really want to die just do it. He is looking for attention, and you're giving him what he wants. Don't have contact with him anymore. Good luck!!
2006-09-09 03:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
do what your heart tells you...
i got a worst problem then you..... i been seeing a married man who is 34 years older then me and messing around with him since last September 2005
2006-09-09 03:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this happends alot to people who want attention.You should not be forced to love someone because they may kill themselves. If they do..well...they brought it on themselves.Sounds to me like he needs help bad
2006-09-09 03:24:18 · answer #9 · answered by jmillhimes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is NOT your responsibility...
cut off ALL ties with him, and move on with your life
what HE does is up to HIM...
2006-09-09 03:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋