Do I choose the U.S. Army or girlfriend?

Question

I was in the U.S. Army and foolishly got out not too long ago.I really want to join the U.S. Army again but my mom and girlfriend is against it and it is really pissing me off that they are trying to interfere with me. I am an adult and can make my own decisions. There is so much more action, adventure, and benefits in the Military compared to the civilian world. I don't care if I go to the war. I miss life in the good old Army. What do I do about mom and girlfriend trying to dissuade me from doing what my heart and mind wants to do?

Answer 1

You have free will ( a wonderful gift from God ). Use it. The only problems I ever had in my life was when I listend to mom, girlfriends, wives. You mom stopped changing you diapers years ago. Get on with YOUR life. I left the Navy because my wife didn't like my being in it. Shortly thereafter, she left me anyway. Go with your gut. Good luck. There is a song, "Walk Like A Man," Good advice.

Answer 2

If you miss the army life re-enlist if thats what's in your heart. If you want to please mom and girlfriend theres the army reserve a weekend a month 2 weeks in the summer at least thats the way it use to be. or look at it from this point mom isnt going to stop loving you because you went back in mom would love you even if you turned out to be a serieal killer. Now as for the girlfriend issue you know that where ever you go in the military you'll always have women unless there is something seriously wrong with you. bottom line Dude, you need to make a decision if your going to retain the same rank and bennies. Follow your heart. I was in the military and I didnt actually marry until I was almost 30 years old. Im not suggesting that you do the same everyone is different but i did enjoy myself (my youth) in the military I was 17 years old when i enlisted in the 70's.

Answer 3

If your heart and mind are still in the Army (like mine) then go back because if you stay you are going to resent your mother and girlfriend for making this decision for you. Your mom will probably be pissed off and your girlfriend may dump you but there are other fish in the sea and your mom can just get over it. Some mothers just have to bear the burden of having a son with a sense of motivation and honor. Maybe if you told her you were moving in to sleep on her couch for the next ten years while dealing crack out of the basement until you figured out what you were going to do in life. She might come around after that.

Answer 4

Why are you so confused with the issue? Cowboy the F**k up and do what your heart tells you. You will never find happiness trying to please other people. You mom will always be your mom. She would love you, even if you tell her you don't give a rat's @ss what she thinks (I'm not saying you should...it's just an illustration) Girlfriends come and go, "hit and quit it" ; she is not good for you. As my man in the Navy, (above) she will probably leave you in a few months anyways. It's not like you are going in blindingly, you know what you are getting yourself in. You said you are an adult and capable of making your own decisions??? so...? have at it brother. Tell them you have made a decision and that's how it's going to be...if they are cool with it, then they can come along ...if they are not, then you will send them a postcard and call on Sundays.

Answer 5

Go where your heart leads you. Your mother is concerned about your well being and your girlfriend the same. Your mother will be your mother forever the girlfriend can come or go. If she really cares for you and your decision she will support you in your decision. My ex entered the military and I was hesitant but I supported him all the way. I did that because I loved him and wanted him to do what he needed to do to make himself happy. If you are happier as a military man go and be happy. The best of luck with everything.

Answer 6

Your mother will always and forever be your mother nothing can change that. She might get mad at you but she'll still love you and be very happy when you come home. The girlfriend well if she truly loves you she should understand that this would make you happy and that not going back would bring you sadness and possibly regret. If she doesn't care that by staying you would be sad then she doesn't care about you she's only thinking about herself and how sad it would make HER if you left. I'm not saying you have to dump the girl but she really needs to respect your wishes maybe you can come up with a compromise like you'll only enlist one more time and after that no more or something. Good Luck

Answer 7

You sounded like you had it all figured out at first. You are an adult and you can make your own decisions. Do what you want. If you love your gf ask her to marry you and travel the world with you. Tell your mom you aren't a baby anymore and need to do what you feel is right. hooah or whatever you say in the Army.

Answer 8

I think that you have already answered your own question. If that is what you really enjoy and that is what you want to do, then do it. We are not talking about something self-destructive, like drugs or alcohol abuse. This is something that you obviously like and you have enjoyed previously. Mom and gf may not be happy with it, but as you said, you are an adult and you can make your own decisions. I don't know of any mother who would happily send her son off (possibly) to war. I am sure that they are just both worried about you, understandibly. If I were in their shoes, I would, too. You know that you can't live your life always pleasing others. If the Army has been a positive experience for you, and it is what you would like to commit yourself to, then re-enlist.

BUT, don't get pissed off at mom/gf. They just care about your welfare. Try to put yourself in their position. Don't get mad at them...it won't do either of you any good. You will just have to tell them that this is what you want to do, this is what you love to do, and that is what you are going to do...no if, ands, or buts. Try to see it through their eyes, too, but follow your passion.

Answer 9

Go National Guard.

You have once a month drills and will be called out for natural disasters to help out.

Two weeks annual training and if you want to go to war just volunteer with one of the many units that deploy.

You can be home and still have a semi military life. It may be more acceptable to your girlfriend and mom.

I'm National Guard and am sitting in the middle of Iraq right now.

Answer 10

as a military spouse I say join...we are in the army and stationed in Bamburg Germany...we love it. I am proud of my husband and so is his family...even though they were against it at first. Once you make a decision stand by it. Being that you have already been in before you know what to expect, they may not. Just assure them you are confident in what you are doing and no one can give you lip.

Answer 11

Well, if your girlfriend was truly someone who cared she would stop being self-centered and worrying about her needs. Moms will always worry no matter what. I think it's great that u want to serve in the armed forces.Bo-ah to u!
Follow your heart otherwise u will never be happy. Just Do It!!! If the girlfriend can't wait maybe she's not worth waiting for either. Trust me in life, u can always find someone, but u can't always be happy and if it makes u happy go for it !!! It's a very honerable thing to serve !!!