But we don't listen or take our own advice! It just doesn't seem to make any sence to me at all. Really, I do read and understand the advice that I give to others, but for some odd reason I don't follow it! Even though I know that what I am saying is true! Could this be a sign that I am doubting my words? If you understand what I am asking, please give me your opinion on this matter!
Thank You!
2006-09-09 02:56:59 · 18 answers · asked by bigred 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Excuse me, I did not mean expect others to listen & take our advice, I meant that we expect ourselves to read what advice that we give to others and listen & understand the meaning, and follow are own advice!
Thank all of you for your advice!
God Bless You!!!!!!!
2006-09-11 01:41:43 · update #1
I completley understand. I give fantastic advice all the time. When I'm done writing something I'm like "Damn...thats a good answer!" But what I have found is that I am not answering how I would do things or have done things I'm answering how I wish I would or did things. I think it's normal for people to know the "right" thing but not follow through.
Don't beat yourself up for it!
2006-09-09 03:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
These are two entites. One has nothing to do with the other. You can see another person's situation perfectly because you can stand back and see the big picture.
When it comes to your own life you are clouded by emotion and sometimes are unable to make the same distinction.
So while I understand what you are trying to say I must point out that giving advice to another person and being able to make the correct decisions in your own life are not the same.
Also, I don't expect people to take my advice. They ask a question and I answer. What they choose to do with the information is totally up to them.
Cheers
2006-09-09 03:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by aQTinMVny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think i would see it as a recycle advice. each advice that we ever give to anyone out there will surely return back to us one day. we might realise it or we might not either way when we help others we're helping ourself actually. we try to see life through someone else eyes, and we get to understand it cause some of it we've gone through it ourself. when it comes to us we will be the same. so cheer up there's nothing wrong with it. we are human after all. we tend to make the same mistakes for the zillionth times and we still wont change. until the right moment come. those people are learning and so do we. take care and all the best
2006-09-09 03:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by ctmaryam_83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the advice we give others is wisdom we have gleaned and would like to apply to ourselves. When others relate their problems or dilemmas we can see ourselves in some of them and that is the time when we really begin to bubble over with advise---indirectly we are retelling ourselves to pay heed.
It is not a question of doubting your words, but giving in to easier more enjoyable options, drowning out that voice of conscience or instinct that is telling you the right way of doing things. Right is not always pleasant or easy, huh?
2006-09-09 03:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by itsmehuh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because someone asks for advice it does not mean that they have to follow it. I always ask friends who I value for their opinions since they can shed some light on something that perhaps I have overlooked. In the end, it is my life and my own decisions that I make. I would never expect anyone to take my advise on their own lives........and neither should you, sweetie!
2006-09-09 03:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you remember the disney movie version of the Alice in WonderLand story, she sings "I give myself, very good advice, but I very seldom follow it"
i think this is an excellent summary of the common human situation
we are motivated by the short term
we lack discipline
I don't think that our failure is always because we doubt the truth of the advice (our own or others) it is just because of human weakness
last night it was getting late, I told myself, "you need to go to bed, you have to wake up early tomorrow"
this was undoubtedly true
i told myself "you will feel terrible tomorrow if you don't go to bed now, your head will hurt, you will be sorry"
this was true and I knew it
but I just kept playing and enjoying my stupid computer game
we humans are very good at trading what we kind of want now, for what we REALLY want eventually
but, for most of us, with maturity we do a little better and our lives are happier and better for it
by comparison to my teenage children, I am very smart, disciplined, and I respond great to good advice (of course, they set a pretty low standard)
don't worry, we are all in this one together
keep at it
2006-09-09 03:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by enginerd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely. I think it is much easier to dish out advice than to follow it!
Sometimes, while giving out advice, it makes me examine myself and what I do...and it does make me try to do better!
2006-09-09 02:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by lorgurus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i can tell you why we are so quick to give good advice but not so quick to take it. it's because it is easier to give good advice to someone else,because then we don't have to worry about what we are doing. i learned the hard way so now i can speak from experience , i finally learned to take my own advice but it is hard sometimes.
2006-09-09 04:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by rachel m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we all do this at some time or other. I tend to not look at my self in the same light as I do others. Just human nature I guess...
2006-09-09 03:01:59 · answer #9 · answered by drumbeater 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's easy you know what your telling yourself, But you will do something else off of emotions. When someone else tells you there not thing off your emotions. So there advice would be better.... unless you let god advise you...
2006-09-09 03:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by RIchard H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋