i am muslim girl born and bred in the uk. I am a lesbian but noone knows because if i told family i would probably get married off or something.. I have a slight problem a married women with kids has been trying to kiss me down my neck and keeps touching my breasts etc. I haven`t told her im a lesbian but she gets so exited when she see`s me. She is in early thirties must be 31 or 32. Thing is i enjoy the attention she is giving me but am so confused why did she kiss me down my neck and keeps calling me her sweetheart. I know i should have stopped her from doing this but thing is it felt so good. I haven`t had any relationships before because am a little old fashioned waiting for right one. She keeps saying i wish i had someone like you! for goodness sake she is married though. Why does she behave like this towards me? I am a attractive girl shouldn`t boast really but she was like that first time we met she had a staring problem towards me. My mum is friends with her mother in law tha
2006-09-09 02:51:13 · 23 answers · asked by mary 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats how we met. Do you think she is a lesbian in hiding? she has tried to kiss me several times on my neck.
thank u for reading xx
2006-09-09 02:52:34 · update #1
she said too me once come to my house and set up the dishwasher for me because your clever and come on your own not with your mother. Than she said i wish i had someone like u.
2006-09-09 04:26:06 · update #2
Mary...a problem might be on the tracks - a lass with five kids (do they all come from the same male) is dodgy. You say she is married, and so she either has tired of her guardian, or - not meaning to sound patronising - she's probably read about it in one of the many mags that tend to have such stories. Bisexuality is a bum of a situation - there are people who indeed have had yearnings for both sexes as soon as the knew what they had between their legs...but there's the other lot, known to one and all as 'weekend queens', who mess up the lives of poor dears they have latched onto - of course the latter don't realise they are messing them about. Maybe she's at an age she has grown slightly vexed at the situation she's in - with five active bairns and the like...could be hubby is not even lifting a hand to help.
Smiled at you saying you tried to stop her, but it feels so good - but as with most things...the better it is, the more you pay for it, Mary! And 21 is a beast of an age...your beauty and aura is seen by everyone - but it's up to you to discern everyone's purpose...and that includes the lass with her bairns.
Salaam, pet!
2006-09-09 03:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest you take the lesbian factor out of the equation. Got an older person trying it on with a younger women. And she has kids. Next. She may she want to experiment and ayoung, gay, attractive muslim must seem a good place to start!
If you did want to have a bit of fun, now remember it may get back to your mum and at the least you are opening yourself to pressure to comply with this women.
As you are also culturally isolated and perhaps sexually as well, why not get together with other lesbians via the internet/clubs etc. No-one need know where you come from and it will give you support and an opportunity to meet other women.
Hope all goes well!
2006-09-09 10:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Ade Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must go with your heart on this one.
The friend is very definitely bisexual, judging by her sexual behaviour towards you, and she is already aware that you are a lesbian, or she wouldn't be coming on to you. It is a possibility that your Mum might also know, and have informed this friend either deliberately or quite by accident. I suspect by accident.
The first thing you can do with this friend is to come out to her, make sure she knows for certain that you are a lesbian.
The next thing is, you have to explain to her that her doing what she is doing is putting you in a very awkward position. Explain about your family life, and your confused feelings towards her. Tell her that being kissed on the neck, having her touch your breasts, these are sexual come ons for you, and you do not want to damage either the friendship or her marriage and family, by returning the feelings.
Make it clear to her that you value this woman, and respect her, but that you need to know if she is doing what she is doing because she wants you; and if, after all this, she does want you with her, go with your heart, but be very careful not to damage either her family, or your own standing in yours, until you're independent enough not to have to worry about your own family, at least.
2006-09-09 10:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by fiat_knox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to decide whether you want to continue to be a lesbian. If you have decided so, then what is the problem in being friendly with this lady. Perhaps she may be bi-sexual enjoying the comforts of both the worlds.
2006-09-09 09:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Hobby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say don't worry what your parents say, you're 21 years old. Get your own place and then invite her over and explore your sexual side with her. Nothing wrong with being a lesbian, I'd like to hear more about the things the two of you have done. Let me know how it turns out.
aguywithnothingbettertodo@yahoo.com
2006-09-09 09:56:54 · answer #5 · answered by aguywithnothingbettertodo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok for starters your 21 so your parents should respect your choice in life even if its against what they believe. also this otherwoman could be bisexual or even fully gay and got marryed and had kids to try and hide away. now maby she is wishing she hadnt. also what is her husband like it has been known for a gay male to marry a gay female to have kids togther and raise them up like a family. but also have secret relationships on the side. if she is kissing you i would say she likes you. gd luck in whatever you decide
2006-09-09 13:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by jellyfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because she has children doesnt mean she hasn't converted try asking her i once worked with this gay guy and he had a couple a daughter's and he was full blown gay he said he would never cross that fence again so you see just talk to her you never what might come of it and don't treat her any different because she has kids that's doing a *** man's job when he acts like that towards a woman with kids good luck
2006-09-09 09:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by pmpforever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to have any relationship it doesnt have to be serious may be u realize then that u r a normal girl by the im muslim too and i d like to remind u that u musnt be a lesbian
2006-09-09 10:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by islam k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve someone who is willing to be totally committed to you, and to whom you can be totally committed if you so wish. Sex is just sex, the mechanics of it are the same, whether you are heterosexual or homosexual. What you have with her (i.e. what her touch does for you) you can find with someone else. Someone who is single. Try to avoid going down this road if you can, it will end in tears and heartbreak for you. Best of luck.
2006-09-09 09:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by overnight celebrity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Seems to me like she is bi-sexual.She may want to try something new.Do not fall for the love thing. She is probably looking for a good time.Is she happily married?
2006-09-09 09:54:35 · answer #10 · answered by jmillhimes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋