My young cousin commited suicide in January. He didn't really give anyone a warning he hung himself naked in his bedroom closet. My Aunt has also lost my uncle to cancer just 3 months after my cousin did this. Now my aunt wants to move away & start a new life and has talked about moving down here (In her own place, which hurts because i want someone with me because i'm very lonely, but i respect her wishes because at least she will be here) I don't know how to talk to her anymore. I feel like everytime we talk i say something stupid. Trust me i try not to but when i get nervous my words never come out right...I even asked about my cousin because i forgot he was gone and i felt so dumb..What can i say to her and make her feel better without sounding like such a moron? I grew up very close to her. I think of her as a mother figure..& should i appologize for asking about my cousin or just act like it never happened?
2006-09-09 02:46:39 · 6 answers · asked by Kara 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Wow sorry for your losses.Try not to get so nervous about your aunt,you said you grew up close to her so she's still your aunt,the only difference is now she's in a great deal of pain and I bet she appreciates you for your support.I know you think before you say things,but when you're with your aunt REALLY STOP AND THINK INTENSELY about what you're going to say,like really think of something that doesn't sound silly and think beforehand how what you say will effect her.When you say what you want to say be sure to do so slowly and calmly so you won't stutter or mess up.Be sure to let hermknow you care and you love her and you mean well.If you absolutely mess up just tell her that you're not sure what to say to her that doesn't sound silly because you don't want to hurt her,remember the truth is always good.Good luck and again i'm sorry for your losses.If you or your friends and family need any more advice you can email me and i'll answer.I'm kind of like having a little advice giving job right now,except I don't charge people.So email me and give my email adress to friends and family.Feel better soon!My email adress is charmed_ones_lover@yahoo.com
good luck
2006-09-09 03:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by charmed_ones_lover 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may be very difficult and uncomfortable, but you should talk to your aunt about your feelings. Let her know that it is still hard for you to even come to terms with the fact that your cousin is gone. You should also tell her that you love her so much that you are afraid to talk to her for fear you will say the wrong thing. Getting everything out in the open will let your Aunt know that you are there for her, and should even improve your relationship with her. Don't worry about saying things perfectly, just say it honestly from your heart.
2006-09-09 02:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Alice S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her and verify out and get her to speak to her dad and mom... by her chatting with them supplies her extra strategies on wether or no longer she needs to maintain it or maybe adoption she has extra strategies now than she would be waiting to later. Her dad and mom will locate out finally in simple terms make certain it is to no longer previous due. And be a pal and verify out and help/instruction manual her to make the strategies she needs and not what all of us "needs" her to do because of the fact she am has to handle it in a while in existence no count what she makes a decision... and prefer the lady earlier mentioned her dad and mom will strengthen to the belief and specific there's a gamble they are going to loose it however the want no longer harm her or the toddler. So inspire her to make her judgements which will income her interior the tip.
2016-12-12 05:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you at this stage want to consider her mental health; as she has lost her son. Try to make her happy and at this stage now you wanna be her son. I think i have given you a reasonable answere. You cant do any thing at this stage and not even better treatment has established yet.
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2006-09-09 02:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ayaz M 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have you problem to, sometimes I say stuff without thinking. I would call her up one day and just let her spill to you. She probably needs someone to talk to. But, listen more than talk... it will get you along way.
2006-09-09 03:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Chelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe don't say anything, just listen and allow her to talk and comfort her, sometimes people forget to shut-up and listen.......
2006-09-09 02:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋