If you're a funny person just wanting to score points, don't bother, this is a serious question to both the men and women out there. Derogatory comments will just be deemed as childish. My mother, a widow, has been seeing a man of 40 for a year now, she's 55. She looks 45, He adores her, loves the ground she walks on, thinks she's gorgeous and sexy. He is crazy about her and she's crazy about him. But she's starting to drive me nuts, since meeting him she's lost 2 stone, love is a great diet, but on losing the weight, not a great deal, but she notices it, her laugh lines etc are showing more, and if she holds her arm a certain way, the skin at the crease in the elbow looks more wrinkled than it did. She is now getting downhearted and when she notices these things, she feels too old for him, and talks of letting him go for his own good. Putting the weight back on is not an option. She's not getting any younger and will feel like this anyway, It'd kill him and break her heart if it ended
2006-09-09 02:43:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If they have love for one another what is the problem. Your mother knew his age and the age difference between two of them when it started. She is putting too much pressure on herself for no reason. If he adores and loves her for who she is there should be no problems. He knew what he was getting himself into as well. Age is a beautiful thing love it and accept it and keep her man. We all have issues with ourselves no matter the age, but in the end we all still deserve "LOVE".
So I stand by keeping him, loving him and adoring him as she as been . I think it would be better for the both of them if they stay. If they have this much love for each other it would be worse off then now if they were to part, never knowing what could have happen with them.
Stay strong and be patient with your mom and encourage her.
Best Regards
2006-09-09 02:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by sweetcincylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she should can join a gym. An all female gym if possible. This should help her tone some of the muscle that she's lost when she lost the weight. This man sounds like he loves her for who she is. This is wonderful. I must say though, regardless of how she is feeling, I doubt that she will leave him. It's hard to leave someone who makes you feel great about yourself. Go shopping with her. Help her find clothes that will compliment her figure and hide those unwanted features. Go to a spa with her. Go with her to get her hair done, manicure, pedicure, facial. They may help in finding creams that may help with the laugh lines. Remind her that the laugh lines just prove how happy she truly is now.
I can somewhat understand what she is going through. I am now dating someone who is 10 years younger than I am. He treats me like gold,and keeps me young. Tell her I said to enjoy the precious gift God has sent her.
2006-09-09 02:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sound very insecure. A few wrinkles on her face is normal and as for the elbow creases, it sound like she is being obsessive about it. If he loves her then a few wrinkle won't matter. Sounds like she has self esteem issues. Tell her shes beautiful either way.
2006-09-09 02:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by Angel D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh dear, that is a great pity, maybe she could do a few exercises to tone her muscles, a good moisturiser would help disguise any lines that might have appeared on her face, she just needs to feel good about herself tell her to get pampered, anyway if its true love he won't even notice a few wrinkles, hope all goes well
2006-09-09 02:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by bluebell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 12:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, if she is happy with this gentleman and he is happy with her as she is, then so be it. If he is asking her to lose weight for him then it's a different story. Talk to your Mum, and find out if she is truly happy with this bloke. If she is then, let her enjoy his company, if not then she should let him go to someone younger. She should not let him take control of her life. Good Luck!
2006-09-09 02:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will have to accept that he loves her no matter, she only expreiencing the ageing process, just like we all do when we get above 40, tell her to relax and just enjoy life, there's some things one can't change...Don;t waste life and time trying to change the impossible
2006-09-09 02:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by SunnyDays 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's happy with her and loves her for the way she looks even if she feels as if she's getting to hold she should feel happy that he still wants to be with her and is not complaining about the way she looks tell her to have a talk with him and see how he feels why should she end it if he stills love her the same
2006-09-09 02:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please just try and talk to her. She may be very happy and her weight loss great? Or she maybe insecure and remember it is not just teenage girls who can develop eating problems.
Talking, showing your love and support for her will make a different. And have a laugh!
2006-09-09 03:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she feels happy. What would you rather see a happy mother or lonely sad mother. If he makes her happy, then support her, it's not like she will gain weight after they dump eachother...Don't mess with people's love lives...leave her with him...if they are meant to be together, leave them alone...but I know how you feel.
2006-09-09 02:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by JOLIE69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋