I met this girl at a party we started talking and realized we had a real connection with each other and then after a couple of weeks started going out. We were really in love, atleast it felt that way. Then, I went to Spain on vacation for a month(we had started going out knowing full well I was going to leave). Things were rough for her, she would cry at night, write letters to herself, then after like two weeks contemplated taking a break because it was to much for her said she was growing apart... and now this is where it gets complicated. She decided in not breaking up, but apparently I find out like 2 1/2 weeks in that I broke up with her, and I only found out by calling her(apparently I was the last to know.) Now, I don't remember ever doing it and I kno I wasn't drunk so whatever we still talked while I'm in Spain. I get back finally, she sees me hugs me forever we start kissing, she then tells me we can't go out because shes to busy with school to go out with me? I don't get it
2006-09-09 02:42:46 · 15 answers · asked by emnmsindahead 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, the whole situation is she says she still does love me... that she's willing to work things out and see if we can get back together. She says don't worry I won't go out with a guy nor hook up with any guys even though we aren't going out. I went up to her dorm the other day, and we started hooking up and she got all worried making me promise not to tell any of our friends afraid of what they might think of her. I told one of my best friends and he thought the same I did, that they'd more then anything be happy to hear that because it'd show that we're in love. I don't understand, this girl means alot to me, sure she's a little weird, but she knows me better then anyone, and I know her better then anyone. That's why I can actually stick around and not kick her to the curb, which any guy would have by now... I just don't know if it's worth sticking around for, at this moment I think so, but it's so tough being just friends.
2006-09-09 03:04:51 · update #1
Sounds like the first time you left hurt so much that she doesn't want to get emotionally reinvested and risk the chance of being hurt again. She may intuitively be trying to make sure she keeps her own life as her priority and right now she needs to learn how to do that. She can't do it with you around because she will still be focused on you.
I'm not saying that it was your fault that you hurt her by leaving. Let her know how you feel...but give her some space. It sounds like first time everything went too fast and too intense....if you can just be her friend for now and it might develop into a healthier relationship whether it be friends or more! Good luck!
2006-09-09 02:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't get it either, and i'm suppose to get this.. women are a little weird sometimes..
i think she misses you so much when you were away.. so she sort of prepared for the worst, and told herself that it's probably over between the two of you... then again she sees you.. and the feelings come back.. ........ she's a little weird.. but if you ask me, she's also thinking on whether to start over again with you.. she might be afraid that you'll leave again. and she'll cry again..
if you love her so much,then tell her.. and tell her straight that you didn't break up with her.. women are just a little sensitive and fragile sometimes.. i do get a little nervous when my BF is away..
or just find a new GF.. she seems a little unstable..
2006-09-09 02:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 12:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u guys jus need to stay a li'll calm.ur galz jus too hung up on u, n i mean it in the sweetest way.first of all, u ask urself if ur really serious abt this gal.n den u shud draw any conclusions.as 4 her feelings,u jus need to talk to her,communicate n tell her exactly how u feel n dont lie. if she stil doesn't understand, den r u really willing to be with someone who doesn't understand u ??????
2006-09-09 03:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by Ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it too,so...it looks like a play with you,or this is one of more womenscunning,hehe ok !
She is offened and this is her revenge,you was busy in Spain and now she is "busy with school".
I think that she is envied person.Just try o find someone else,maybe in Spain!
2006-09-09 02:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by woo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not clear on your question to resolve it. You must be specific in asking a reply. But I hope I understood little to answer you.
It is totally infatuation of sexual feeling. It may affect you career it it continues. Be careful and let other sentiments to fall on you.
2006-09-09 02:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by wrishaba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k i didnt get it too this girl has confused me too
but continue with the relation bcoz it may lead well
and the breaking apart of ur rrelation mayjuss be a fuss
so best of luck
2006-09-09 02:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by might 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like she wana b away fr u juz as u were away fr her, juz to let u hav tt feelin.. it sounds strange but a gal can b strange at times n sometimes i oso dun understand them when im a gal myself.. haha
tink abt it, do u wana break? if u wan to move on, tell her. so she will stop her behavior.
gd luck n take care!
2006-09-09 02:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's emptionally tweeky. Be prepared for some weird stuff to deal with if your going to try and stay with her...
2006-09-09 02:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by shindaiwa21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the money to go to Spain why not drop this looser and find someone who wants to share your passions?
2006-09-09 02:47:53 · answer #10 · answered by ayork46738 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋