are there any pitfulls in having a toy boy as a partner we are realy in love but the age gap worries me. I am 56 and he is 31. In the past i thought it should not be allowed but now I have joined the club so please do not give any answers such as that because you never know it could be you next
2006-09-09 02:12:51 · 18 answers · asked by raymag3550 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
31 is not so young that he doesn't know what he's doing - you're not doing anything wrong!
Be prepared for judgement and negativity from the general public, but enjoy being together!
The only thing I'd worry about is the financial situation. You've had a lot more time to build up a nest egg, so are more vulnerable to loss when combining assets or residences. You might want to use caution in that area.
Otherwise, enjoy. You go girl!
2006-09-09 02:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by home.and.self 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you must mean pitfalls, but being a 32 year old male I'd say your biggest pitfall is the one your already aware of...the ticking clock. Enjoy what you have with this man, but you yourself are refering to him as a toy boy, somewhere in your mind and heart you know that one day your toy will break, get lost, or become boring. Don't smother him in "i love you's", remember your older wiser, more mature...so keep the toy around as long as it feels good and no one is getting hurt. When and if the pain starts....GET OUT!
2006-09-09 09:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by BOISE_DD 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are pitfalls, but enjoy it while you can because there are others out there that are the same age as your toy boy, and will and maybe succeed to gain his affections. My husband is 5 years younger than me does that mean he is my toy boy? Mind you if I could find one that looks like David Boreanaz, wow, I would go for it...
2006-09-09 09:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Molly B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have been with my husband for 17 years we have a age diffrence of 10 years when we met he was 23 and i was 33 we are very very happy i have 6 kids from my first unhappy marage and thay all love my hubby we did not have more kids as we think that my 6 are enough the kids are all now grown up and we have 9 wonderfull grandkide so go for it we hope that you will be as happy as us good luck and enjoy
2006-09-09 10:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! I wouldn't think there would be any intial pit falls, apart from the obvious things such as being able to remember when Elvis died and any issues pertaining to existing family relationships.
2006-09-09 09:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by gerbiltamer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can work !!! You will have to tackle your insecurities because you wll be afraid incase he will want a younger model at some point,,,but have faith,,,,,love is all that matters not age !!! I'm 7 years older than my husband !!! Men like the mature woman ! Good luck XXXX
2006-09-09 09:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to this one.
The age gap isn't the problem, it's the fact that you are so insecure about it.
And, what's with the "boy-toy" label? Why do you refer to someone you love that way?
2006-09-09 09:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its personal choice, i like the younger man usually only about 5 years younger though,
the only pitfalls that i have found are that they are not very mature and tend to lie a lot,
but the upside is the sexual side they want it as much as i do, so it a bit of both,
2006-09-09 11:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, I think it's "boy toy". But to answer your question, don't you think it's condescending to refer to him in that way if you're in love? Nothing says you can't fall in love with someone who is a lot older or younger than you. People ar people and they fall in love. Who is to say it's not "allowed". Just go for it and enjoy :).
2006-09-09 09:23:35 · answer #9 · answered by Judy L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What if he wants children? That could screw things up a little. But wow, I bet he rocks you in the bedroom. Tee hee. Enjoy!
2006-09-09 09:27:34 · answer #10 · answered by Andy J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋