My boyfried and i have been together for about a year and a half, he told me he didnt want to break up, but he will be open to try new things, so im not sure our relationship will gradually grow apart. What should i do? Please help!
2006-09-09 02:11:36 · 17 answers · asked by motocross x05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's told you how he feels.
What's left to discuss?
Start with a clean slate for yourself. College does change people and if he is moving away it is very difficult to maintain a long distance relationship along with all the other pressures of campus life.
2006-09-09 02:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a chance...the worst that can happen is it doesn't work out..and so what break up now or break up latter ...after 1 1/2 years your too far invested in it for a few more months to matter.
Look at it this way, best case senirio, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Maybe your relationship will work out and you'll find that the time you get to sppend to gether is so much more intense because it's so rare. Would you want to give that chance up with out even trying?
2006-09-09 09:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many if not most relationships that were formed in high school terminate when one or both people go to college. The reason is that you are entering a whole different level on both a social and academic level. It is literally a different world. The person enrolling in college will not be the same one that graduates. It's inevitable.
If your boyfriend actually told you he didn't want to breakup but will be "open to try new things", in male talk that means, "I'm telling you I will be free to fool around and maybe even have another girlfriend, but I want to keep you to screw around with when I'm home or there's no one else available."
In other words, he's already broken up with you in his head and heart but still wants you to be available to him if he calls.
2006-09-09 09:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not want do break up and yet he remains open to something else? I think he is not yet settled on you. He is still searching and Iam afraid you might be told one day that he has found another one and time might not necessarily be with you. I think that relationship might make you vulnerable in time and depending on how much you will have invested into it by then, your heart will be broken. Just as he is open, be open as well and hear what he feels too. If he is meant for you? That will make him think twice. As much as you could be in a relationship, you also have your own life to live never be taken for granted or up for grabs. Be yourself in it.
2006-09-09 09:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your boyfriend that the only way to see if you are belong together is to take a brake for at least 6 month,and for those month there will be no talking,no phone call and no cheating with somebody else.But every week you will send a mail to see how you both are doing,maybe there will be changes,maybe you will miss each other and then maybe both of you will decide what is the best thing to do.I think it is the best thing to do and finally see if you both are meant to be together.good luck:)
2006-09-09 09:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by none 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely break up but you can still be friends. Things always change when you go away to college. Don't put the pressure on either of you. Chances are he will meet all kinds of new people and probably someone girl that will ring his chimes. Let is go and accept the fact that you are living in two different worlds. In the end, down the road....if it is meant to be then it will be!
2006-09-09 09:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He will be open to try new things????hello!!!! is he on the down low??? that makes me nerves. What has he been doing behind your back?? Sorry for reading between the lines. The best thing i can tell you. give it a try, most long dis. works out. but remember what he said "HE WILL BE OPEN TO TRY NEW THINGS!!!!uh,
2006-09-09 09:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. u sounds afraid, juz becuz he is goin college doesnt mean breakup. u can hang out w ur frenz without missin him too much, he got sch to go to. mayb in tis way, ur relationship grow stronger by trust n passion n love n committment.
gd luck n take care!
2006-09-09 09:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by anna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Which means he will more than likely see other people. So be hurt now and break up with him, because if he truly loved you he wouldn't "try new things".
2006-09-09 09:14:40 · answer #9 · answered by toophatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to keep your relationship strong. dun break up becos of your suspision. its not fair for the both of you. if you found out that both of you really are growing apart, then you decide whether to break up or not. all the best ! :D
2006-09-09 09:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by lingg_91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋