Me and my girlfriend are a very close couple (we're both 17), and were best friends for 3 years before we got together. Now, we've been a couple for almost 2 months and things have gone from rocky to rather good, as we took a while to adjust between being just friends to "lovers", as such.
Lately, at school, my girlfriend seems to strive on "fake flirting" with other guys literally WHENEVER I'm there. It's totally unlike her, too, but it's really, really annoying and embarassing for me. I'm not really the jealous type, but too much fake flirting with basically all of my friends is getting on top of me.
For example, she'll state "We've got an open relationship, which means we can go off with anybody we want." I know she's joking, but, why would she keep saying it? Does she want my attention? A reaction?
I trust her 100% - she'd never cheat, and when I asked her about it, she said it was "harmless" and she was just "joking". Should I chill out or should I be feeling how I am?
2006-09-09 02:07:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NOTE: It's very strange because I'm very open and I tell her I love her all the time, I explain how I feel. A girl couldn't want more love, to be honest. So, hm!
2006-09-09 02:16:15 · update #1
tell her it is not harmless sinec it hurts your feelings and is disrespectful ... she is insecure and wants reassurance that she is still "hot", but at the same time she is insensitive to your feelings. in my opinion, her immaturity and flirtatiousness is a warning sign that she feels unappreciated and is taking you for granted ... if after you have discussed this issue with her, she persists in this flirtation, then i would suggest the next time she does it, respond "sure, which of you guys wants her tonight? i may have other plans" and start talking to some unattached girl there.
2006-09-09 02:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of women who do this. She can either be playing around, nothing harmless. Or she is trying to see your reaction, to see if you really care about her. OR she is trying to get you to dump her. You will just have to ask her not to flirt because it embarrasses you. And then see how it goes.
2006-09-09 02:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by whoanelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that what she is doing is based on feelings of insecurity with your relationship. Assure her that you have chosen to be with her and there is no need to show you that she is desirable to other males, that in fact, it is annoying to you and will have the opposite effect.
Don't smile when you tell her and let your body language reflect that you are serious about what you are telling her.
2006-09-09 02:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my guess is she wants ur attention. did u announce ur relationship to ur frenz tt both of u r dating? mayb she wants the status. buy her flowers, shower her more w love.
gd luck n take care!
2006-09-09 02:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to get you to show you care about her
2006-09-09 02:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wans your attention i tink. maybe you sld talk to her. and show her how much you care for her. then maybe she will listen and understan. its all abt attention i tink. just show her you care and im sure she will understan. all the best ! :D
2006-09-09 02:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by lingg_91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants to make sure u care for her but if i were u i would speak to her
2006-09-09 02:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by carlosofia2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD SHOW HER MORE AFFECTION
2006-09-09 02:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by MARY M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋