I have been in a long distance relationship for 3 years. In this time I have been accused me of cheating for several reasons. He said I dress to sexy. He feels that I must need male attention for some reason. He feels that I flirt to much. Even if I do not even speak to anyone else he feels I flirt with my eyes, I have a male friend that in the past we did have a sexual relationship but this was years ago. I have been friends with this man for 20 years. My boyfriend is so jealous that when he asked me if I still speak to my friend of 20 years I lied and said no. My boyfriend listened to my voicemail and found out that I lied, thus reinforcing to him that I am not trustworthy. I tried to explain that the reason I lied is because of all his past accusations. I have never cheated on him. We were engaged for a total of 10 days which he broke off because I wore a tank top to the grocery store. He said I didn't learn anything and he can't trust me! Should I stay with this guy?
2006-09-09 01:58:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
see,this this y i dont believe in long distance relationships
2006-09-09 02:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by selina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is only my opinion but i do not think this is a healthy relationship.
He broke off an engagement with you becoz you wore a tank top? Wots his problem?
By the sounds of it, you have not done anything wrong.
Whether you stay with him or not is up to you, but the fact that you are even questioning the relationship should be telling you something.
Listen to both your head and your heart - write down the pro's and con's to staying with this man and if the cons outweigh the pros, then maybe its time to move on.
If you do however decide to stay with him, you'll need to learn how to accept that he will never change and try to find a compromise.
Good luck
2006-09-09 02:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by miss2sexc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? He got mad because you wore a tank top to the store. Is this guy a phsyco? Who wants to be in a relationship where theres no trust? Him getting mad like that is a warning sign that you guys will continue to have problems. If you unconditionally love him, and its too hard to break up with him, just take a break and continue to get to know other people. Maybe someone who you deserve will come along, because it sounds like he is a piece of work.
2006-09-09 02:26:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, long distance relationships are not easy!! (i know) this guy seems very over protective it seems like you cant even go out without you being accused of cheating. flirting with your eyes well thats funny (sorry) if hes with you he sould be proud that hes with you and stop accusing you of doing all these things he seems very insurcre about the relationship. you souldn't have to lie being honest is the best policy if he doesnt trust you it wont work as a relationship without trust is hell (i know) lol you sould be free to wear what you want i think this guy is bad news and you deserve alot better
2006-09-09 02:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! Trust is something he will never have. It is not just you it is his personality. Sounds like to me he is looking for an excuse either not to commit or to keep you in check. Long distance relationships are not healthy, but it sounds like he wants control over you and all your activities.
My boyfriend still has contact with and is friends with his ex-girlfriend. I might be crazy but it does not bother me. You can't hold on to someone by putting a choker collar on them they will eventually break it.
2006-09-09 02:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by joanne_happygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's all about control which is all about insecurity and then that leads to jealousy. Not healthy at all.
2016-03-27 03:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think its about time to jus give up yet. If this guy truly loves u n u truly love him, sit down n talk to him about it. This might not go so well at first but give it a few more chances and eventually u'll get sick of arguin and WILL work sumn out. Iv hd arguments w mine week after week before and finally we did talk properly and thought up solutions. If u bliv in ur love, everythin wil be fine..
2006-09-09 02:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, he sounds really stiffling and controlling!! Is that what you want? Because at the end of the day it is your choice... But in my opinion you deserve better and could do better. Someone who is always accusing you of things, and checking up on you is someone who doesn't trust you, and trust is fundamental to a good relationship..
Good luck! :)
2006-09-09 02:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by pola_pink_ocd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It isn't a healthy relationship. Trust is huge in a healthy relationship.
2006-09-09 02:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by aawatson3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if niether of you can accept each other (faults included), then there is no point in keeping the relationship. but if your love for each other goes beyond such faults then talk things out and compromise.
2006-09-09 02:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by theNthEreWasyOu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋