see i just got out of a very abusiver marriage and now im dating this guy who i knew and had very strong feelings for 3 years now and weve been together for about 6 months and im 4 months pregnant and i love him so much and want to spend the rest of my life with him and he feels the same and he wants to get married to me. but im scared that it will be another failed marriage. what should i do?
2006-09-09 01:52:44 · 24 answers · asked by spongebrat_sexychick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to talk to him about your fears! Communication is the best way to make a good relationship.
2006-09-09 01:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it a little too late to be having doubts about him now? You are already pregnant with his child and yet you fear another failed marriage.
Didn't the first failed marriage provide you with a lesson to be more cautious the second time? What have you learnt the first time? What's different now that made you jump into a relationship immediately after break-up?
I hope you can share your lessons with all your unattached and unmarried friends. Advise all of them not to jump into relationships so easily. Take time to find out more about each other first before commitment. By doing this, you are at liberty to widen your circle of friends, thus your choice of partners. Have some self-esteem and confidence. Be sincere and honest with your close freinds.
Whenyou do that, your right one will appear and you will have no more doubts!
2006-09-09 09:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think marriage is highly overrated. I think that if he really loves you, he won't try to pressure you into marriage and will understand if your skittish about it because of your bad experience you had from a previous one.
The other thing you can try doing is thinking about what aspects in your previous marriage doomed it to failure and see if those things could manifest in this new one and how you would combat them this time around if they do arise.
If you can prepare ahead of time as well as communicate with that guy, you two can work through it. Don't forget that successful relationships are all about communication. You should be able to share your feelings freely. When you start keeping secrets, it ultimately dooms the relationship.
2006-09-09 08:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Link of Hyrule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering the fact that you are pregnant your state of mind is probably clouded slightly. If you love him and he loves you why not wait until you have the baby. At least then you will have a clear mind to think things over. Besides who says you need to be married to be together for the rest of your lives? If you love and respect each other that's what matters.
2006-09-09 09:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by pink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to start another marriage with this man, you need to realize that this man is not the man that abused you. Unless, you are seeing signs of abusive behavior, then you should be ok. You must recognize those signs, since you were in a bad relationship before. Keep in mind that love is not supposed to hurt. How does this man make you feel?
2006-09-09 08:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like you already made up your mind whom it is that your going to spend your time with. Personally, I think that you went through a tough time in your marriage however, you should of given yourself a little time and you like so many people cannot be alone for too long and jump right into another relationship when your most vunerable. either way I wish you the best and hope that everything works out for you.
2006-09-09 09:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know him from 3 years and living with him 6 months. It is a sufficient time to know one in detail. And you say both of you feel to spend the rest of life in one another's company.
You are scared, because of failure of previous marriage.
Don't get scared. He may be not like the previous one. You should know better.
The final decision is yours, because it is your life.
2006-09-09 08:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by Electric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have known this person for some time now and both of you feel for each other. Agreed that bad experiences haunt a person like nightmares but the life is not all that difficult and bad. Every dark cloud has a silver lining. Please do not let your past be bygones and do not let it affect your psyche. The previous person was definitely not that powerful that he could affect your life forever. Forget him and get on with life. You have greater horizons with rainbows and spring waiting to welcome you. Enjoy and be happy.
2006-09-09 09:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by Pat Wardhan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ante re sy. Alitheia? Afou eisai mourli, piges kai gastrothkes. A na xatheis mposkada. Ti tha kans tora? Tha tone pars... Mi fovsai, isos einai o Kleanthis!!
2006-09-09 08:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by ThEowL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont rush straight into marriage. i suggest have the baby first and see how he copes with havin a child with u. If he's d perfect dad then u both shud definitly go for marriage. Its always better to be safe than sorry.
2006-09-09 08:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Monkee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋