i met this boy at church 2 weeks ago. he is so sweet and calls me like ten times a day and gives me compliments. today i saw him again at church and he didnt really speak but i could tell he was lookin. his cousin came and spoke to me and we really had a nice talk. later on the nice boy i had met a week earlier turned crazy he was mad sayin i liked his cousin and asking me when his cousin and i satarted talking. later on when i got home though he called me and apologized and said he needs a good person in his life and asked me would i be his girl. what do i say he was nice one second and a total *** the next
2006-09-09 01:41:42 · 18 answers · asked by Hello!!!! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay if he can fly off the handle that easy just because you "talked" to HIS cousin thats a VERY BAD sign.
My suggest is tell him you just want to be friends right now. Stay friends with him...take things slow...make sure that he doesn't allways have this temper and when your confident that he doesn't THEN and only then give him a real chance BUT if you find out that he does allways have that temper then RUN FAR FAR away!
2006-09-09 01:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are in the church that is a good start, however the devil goes to church also. I would talk to my mom and my pastor and let them know that I would like to start dating someone nice that can be trusted. You will have enough trouble in the world without hooking up with someone who appears to be insecure and what's with him calling you 10 times a day? Looks like he needs a job or something to occupy his time more. Does he sing in the choir or something else around the church? He also has to realize that you may be too busy to take 10 phone calls a day. He sounds too desperate to me. Maybe you should sit back and watch him a little more and ask around about his history. His cousin may be trying to save you from someone who may need help before he can start dating. Always protect yourself mentally and physically, and PRAY until you are sure!
2006-09-09 08:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ardessa S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems unstable and I don't think you should go out with him.
Talk to him and let him know that you are not interested in having a relationship. Say this in a gentle way so as not instigate him getting upset which might most likely happen and so make sure you do this in a public place where there are people like a restaurant or park.
In addition don't encourage him at all; don't always take his calls, when you meet him talk to him for a short time, let him see you having fun without him and the like.
2006-09-09 09:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by Cinderella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an abuser in the making. If he's having fits over you talking to someone else now, and you're not dating, what do you think will happen if you did decide to date or marry him in the future? Abusers start out young, and don't get any better with age.
My advice would be NOT to date him at all, and don't be friends either. Just let him be someone you know, but you don't associate with him. Don't let your friends get close to him either. Warn them now against him. You already know he starts off sweet and kind, but he'll turn in a minute, and you don't want them to be hurt.
This boy needs help, in the worst way. If you can speak to his parents, maybe they can help him. Good luck.
2006-09-09 08:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself, are you wanting to be in a confusing relationship? Do you like him that much that you would be able to put up with that? If you do, then be his girlfriend. Men and boys, are hard to judge sometimes. Do you want a relationship and someone who may be like a father to you to tell you what you can and can't talk to or even more than that? This is some questions that you should ask yourself.
2006-09-09 08:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by pits_me1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not a typical boy. Just one with a very low self esteem. You wont' be able to give that to him so tell him to come and see you when he's got himself sorted out. It won't be worth all the support you will have to give him.
2006-09-09 08:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out whil you still can. He sounds like jeckl and hyde. Tell him you're not looking for a relationship with him. That's hard with a pscho. I hope someone else has a better answer than I.
2006-09-09 08:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize guys have emotions too. Our imaginations sometimes get the best of us. You need to realize that he aplogized to you. Alot of guys wouldnt even talk after that. He realized he was in the wrong and wants you in his life. You have a good catch, just real it in.
2006-09-09 09:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you wish him luck in finding the person he seeks, but that you are not the one ... his response was very controlling and possessive, you dont need that in your life. some hidden anger issues there.
2006-09-09 08:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for what your heart says. If you really like him, then go for it. If he continues to be an a$$, then break up with him.
2006-09-09 08:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by Caribbean Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋