I am a lesbian girl because I like other girls. I don't know why I do I just always have. But they tell me I have chosen to do this because I am bad. Can any straight person tell me when and how they decided to be straight? If you didn't just grow up that way, what does it feel like to choose?
2006-09-09 01:31:34 · 21 answers · asked by Isis 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, you are who you are, not because you are bad. Choices are made in the head, but you always know how you REALLY feel. Just relax and be with girls if you want to be.
2006-09-09 01:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by Curious George 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you ever found a guy attractive? I am straight, however, I have had a lesbian interaction before. I found guys attractive and always wanted to feel what intercourse with a male was like. It feels really good to choose what I want when I want. To have a male in my life is exceptionally wonderful. I feel safe when he is around. No, you are not bad. But I strongly suggest you to try to be with a man, if any way possible. You may like it better than a women, but then you may not. This is the only way to see how it really feels for you to choose.
2006-09-09 01:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by pits_me1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have always been straight and never really had a choice.
You may have chosen certain things, but that does not make you bad. If you are attracted to girls, you are attracted to girls. If you were attracted to guys, you'd be attracted to guys. My experience, is that this itself is not a choice.
It is up to you, each and every day if and how you act upon your attractions. Just remember that relationships can be complicated and sex can be a little dangerous. You can get STD's from guys or girls. Also, if you go further than you are really ready to, it can be very difficult emotionally.
Be true to who you really are. Don't try to conform to society just to conform. But, also, don't feel you HAVE to live an alternative lifestyle because you might not always fit in.
Good luck. God bless.
2006-09-09 01:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by wittmasterjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you start a sexual thought in your mind and it actually takes hold you can't choose it away. So don't listen to them. Someone once told me that good sex is 80% in the head and 20% in other places. (People use the 80/20 rule for everything). If you believe that then you know how much power your brain has over your sexuality. The thing is.. I think you should find out what your brain enjoys. Choose if you want it to enjoy those things.. Then educate it in the way you want to go. In your heart.
2006-09-09 01:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not bad and i guarantee you it is not a choice, Sometimes your hormones play tricks on you. For the longest time i thought i was a freak cause I like girls.. Well it's not my fault as it is not yours either.. Its Hormones dear chemical imbalance. You are not responsible for this. Yes you can decide you don't want this and try a Guy. But you will not be happy with one ... But then again you might. I never felt right with a guy at all. NEVER.
Good luck to you hun. You are not bad
2006-09-09 01:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by HarleyMama43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are telling you that you are somehow defective or bad are just idiots blinded by religion, without regard to common sense. Everyone who has given this any thought knows it's just how you are. Look, I couldn't be gay no matter how much my priest or parent or friends would want me to be. I just find no attraction in other women. Why is it so hard for people to see that in the reverse? As for these religious types, I can't understand them either. Didn't God make all of us? And, if that's true, he also made gay people. They're telling me God screwed up in making those people? Bull****
2006-09-09 01:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't Choose the way you are. You are born that way. While society see it as not normal its not something that we can control. You are not bad for who you love, nor can anyone help who they fall in love with. Be proud of who you are and don't let Doctors and Shrinks or anyone else put it in your head that you are not a good person because you aren't attracted to the opposite sex.
Good Luck
2006-09-09 01:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by baby_thumper_girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard question. I'm straight and I didn't choose it. I'm just not attracted at all to females. If you like females, so what? Don't let anyone tell you it's wrong. Go with what you like. If you decided to switch to men because it's the "normal" thing to do, you'll regret it forever.
2006-09-09 01:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by chocolate-drop 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being straight or gay is not something you decide to be. It's already in your mind as a child.A lot of people tend to date the opposite sex because their either ashamed of being gay and\or there nervous about coming out to fanily and friends because of the reaction they might get. I'm for whatever makes people happy, as long as it doesn't phyiscally hurt anyone.
2006-09-09 01:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im straight and a guy...as far as i can remember I was always attracted to females from puberty. I didnt choose
sorry I couldnt help
2006-09-09 01:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by rsist34 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋