I'm 14 and i like this guy abit but not much and he really likes me he keeps telling me he loves me and things we don't go out but he keeps making out with me and when im sat next to him on the sofa he'll stroke my legs and try to get into my trousers he kisses me loads and when i move away he gets really upset and annoyed. I don't want to date him because he's 16 and i know he wants more than just kissing and i don't feel ready yet. What do you think i should do? If you think i should tell him i don't want it tell me how to do it in the nicest way please.
2006-09-09 01:30:01 · 24 answers · asked by Charlie V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your little inside voice alarm is telling you exactly what you need to know!!! You are 14, you have this boy who's 16 telling you he loves you for one reason and one reason only, and that is to get in your pants!!! You put out, and : A. you end up pregnant. B. you never hear from him again. C. he will use you till he's done, and then go to the next girl... It feels good to be liked, it makes us feel pretty about ourselves, but honey he is just telling you what you want to hear. Boys do that to girls all the time, I bet you know someone who that's happened to already or know of. You listen to that little voice that is inside, if it were right it wouldn't feel uncomfortable. You want to tell him nicely so he won't be mad at you....well, he's going to be urked whether you tell him "nicely" or not. So, you just tell him I am sorry, but I am not ready. Period! He's 16, he shouldn't be messing with you anyway. If you don't get your confidence up and stand your ground even if it hurts cause you like him, boys will continue to take advantage of you cause your afraid to say no!! You want that? of course you don't!! You have lots of years for dating and sex, don't rush into any of that!!!!
2006-09-09 01:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi honey
as u told that u r 14 and guy s 16 years old this is not a big difference that can disappoint u.Matter comes here that u don't llike him much that is a big thing so i think u should avoid him and one more thing that u described u can't tell him.i think u don't want to tell him directly then u can give him a clue about this.u can start ignoring him on some points like if he wants to sit beside u then go away telling him i am having work to do.if he wants u to take u movie or other spots lke park or any center where he can flirt u u indirectly ignore him telling u can't go there having work or not feelng well.Honey ur age is not matured so u should avoid sex this can be dangerous for u .Guy may be other but u should avoid him.ok all the best i thnk i have given much of my opinion all the best tell him either u can have problem may it irritates u but do
2006-09-09 01:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by sudhir k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody every today me how precious my virginity was to me. Now I know. Say it as long as you can. If he really likes you he go be their if you don't give it up. Keep it, it's yours save it for someone special. Your 14 right now you haven't really meet an one special yet. he might not be the one. Then what if you get pregnant. Condoms don't always work. Then you will be 15 with a baby and there goes your life. Get all the education you can get then think about this later on life when you feel you are really ready to make a move like this. Once you start, you'll never stop.
2006-09-09 02:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by hotnpink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if this guy doesn't comprehend the answer " No means No!" Then you should probably stay away from him. He's only telling you he "Loves You" just to keep you off balance and confuse you. You already know all he wants is to get in your pants! To him you are an easy target and he thinks he can work on your emotions and feelings to get a mercy f**k , by making you feel guilty! My suggestion is stay clear of this guy! Don't give him "Bragging Rights" to say he had you first, then go tell everyone and their brother that he got in your pants.
Think about it , go with your gut feeling.
2006-09-09 01:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by metalbu11dawg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Respect is one factor for a strong relationship. Tell him directly that you are not yet ready, if he stays then its a good sign, if he goes off then sex is the only thing that matters to him. And you better stay away from him in that case. He does not deserve girls like you.
Be extra careful!
2006-09-09 01:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by Vixen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off where's your parents? It sounds to me like your playing a very dangerous game this boy is just full of testosterone and sooner or later you wont be able to control him any longer and all for what just to play kissie. The best thing you can do is stop seeing this fellow and dont put yourself/safety in a situation that you will not be able to back out of.
2006-09-09 02:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'salways good to be honest especially when it comes to relationships.To save each other from future pain and agony better talk about straight. the fact that you even allow him tyo go as far as stroking you only shows that you feel something for him and as you know one thing leads to the other. so please if you are not interested in him for one reason or the other better tell him so, he can go ahead and find the love of his life other than waste time on you and you are not interested.
Save him the pain.All the best.
2006-09-09 01:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by phario 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 14 for Gods sake,enjoy your youth,don't date him.Have fun save all of that until you are mature enough to handle it ( and no you are not ready right now,no matter how much you think so).Let me ask you this,are you ready for children?If not keep your pants on,save yourself for the person you love,that is the one thing you can give away only once,make it count.Get rid of him.
2006-09-09 01:40:37 · answer #8 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is no time to be nice. I know you don't want to hurt his feelings, but if you're not firm about this, he's gonna walk all over you like a throw rug. Let him know your boundaries. If he can't respect him, show him the door. There are plenty of guys out there who will respect your wishes. Don't be afraid to speak up - people will use this against you and take advantage of you!! Good luck!
2006-09-09 01:33:54 · answer #9 · answered by chocolate-drop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to leave you alone. He's two years older than you and you are only 14. Using him as an ego-boost will only hurt both of you in the long run.
2006-09-09 01:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by wittmasterjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋