2006-09-09 01:12:04 · 28 answers · asked by jhojhie019 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well you say "I don't love you like I used to love you in the past" and then explain why...
...but several words of caution first.
1) Be VERY careful that you are sure that this is how you feel before you say it. Once something like this has been said it cannot be unsaid.
2) If the reason for you feeling this way is do to with him then you MUST give him at least one chance to change his ways first - you married him and made certain vows, so you owe him that before you despatch him out of hand.
3) If the reason for you feeling this way is to do with you then think even more carefully before you say something that will inveitably lead to the end of marriage.
Having said all that, a loveless marriage is no place to be, so living the lie is not to be advised either. Decide on the true extent of your feelings, act on them accordingly, and - as long as you're honest - you will be fine.
2006-09-09 01:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by a1mandrake 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well the first thing it would make me wonder is that are you in the hopes of making your marriage stronger or do you want to get a divorce. All relationships change with the course of time, if you feel that you want to continue with the marriage and you do still love him. Then I would strongly suggest you finds ways to reconnect with him.. in addition I would suggest to go to marriage counseling. Do little things again, go on a date night - get away just the two of you. There are many things that you can do .. but to make a marriage work and to keep the passion alive - it takes work on both parties. If you don't want to continue the relationship, then tell him. Either way find away to communicate with your partner what your needs/wants are and be sure to have the same courtesy back.
I wish you both luck
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-09 01:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's more important to do some self-reflection before approaching him, actually. why have your feelings changed? what events have led to your new attitude towards him? it is something that you both might be able to work at fixing? it may hurt him terribly to tell him you don't love him...and you don't want to do that to someone you really care about, and someone you loved enough to vow to spend forever with. i would suggest marriage counseling before you just give up. marriage is a sacred thing. there are going to be good times and bad...getting through the bad together will make your relationship stronger. the best marriage advice i ever received: you can't both give 50/50 and expect everything to work itself out. you both have to give 100%. are you giving 100%? if not, what can you do differently?
2006-09-09 01:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by moondancer629 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm supporting you. These feelings shouldn't be overlooked. You probably thought about this a lot and the best thing would be to tell your husband that you need to talk to him and just say "im sorry but i don't love you like i used to"
He should listen to you, understand and both should do something about this, whatever your decision is. Good luck.
2006-09-09 01:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen, Don't believe in fairy tale marriages, there will come a time in your marriage when it feels like love is gone, take out your wedding album and look back on the day you two got married, you promised! He promised! aaaww, why do you now want to hurt him? The feeling comes and goes, sometimes it gets lost when the bills are due, when things go wrong, when the car won't start when he snores but believe me, it's still there, waiting on something to take you back, to remind you, true love never dies. That's no lie! give him a chance.
2006-09-09 01:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by ann m 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you don't. nobody fully loves someone all the time--you take the lows with the highs, and remember--this is the person who is going to have your back, be there when you need him, and grow old with you. make a list of the good qualities about him, the reasons you married him. they'll get you through until you feel that love again.,
2006-09-09 01:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by lisa a 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Another divorce story in the making for no good reason. God, I wish I was king. I would outlaw divorce in a heartbeat.
Let me tell you something. I DON'T CARE if you love him or not. You made the vows, NOW KEEP THEM! And if I see any liberals supporting you, I'm going to put my fist through my computer for the first time in my life!
2006-09-09 01:16:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
chances are he probably has alreadly realized this and is just waiting for you to say. be honest and tell him the truth and if you want try to work things out but keep in mind he may not be happy with you saying that and he may get very angry. but he should calm down after a bit and hopefully you both come to terms. best of luck.
2006-09-09 01:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by acrazyplayer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't! Get some counseling or something. Family values are so gone these days. Just because things get hard people want to quit. I hope you have no children together.
2006-09-09 04:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Nita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think long and hard about this one, kids moms and dads, sisters brothers, why did you love him in the first place? what made you stop loving him the way you use to? you can go back to the place in your life where you shared the same love, try real hard.
2006-09-09 01:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by dieturtledie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋