when you have sex for first time, it is very painful, what does it mean, when you start bleeding every time you have sex, is it the partner who injured you in some way or another, or is it the hymn, which was been broken by defloration. my boyfriend and i have tried it like 3 times, but he just stopped, as soon as i have felt pain. in the last 2 times, he and me were full of blood. did it happen to you too as you were through defloration? my gyno thinks my boyfriend is soft, and that i am absolutly normal. what can i do to convince my boyfriend that it is not an injury or something, he was a little bit freaked out last time.
what is your advice? how long does it going to bleed'?
2006-09-08 23:42:38 · 7 answers · asked by franky c 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
use plenty of lubrication... or take it easy and do lots of foreplay, talking about cunnulingus perhaps?
2006-09-08 23:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by Shangri-La 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there from what i remember as it was a long time ago now,you shouldn't bleed that much and not for very long,you bleed because your hymen has been broken,and yes it was painful for me,but it was only for a few seconds,and we are all differant so some may feel it more than others,as for your poor boyfriend he was only freaked because he cares about you and didn't want to hurt you,just reasure him that it's ok now,maybe the only way to do that is do it again,or ask him to check it out with his mates,i'am sure all will be well for you,good luck
2006-09-08 23:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by amber_xx66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first few times I had sex I found it very painful and bled a lot.Some people just have thicker hymens,or maybe you are so tense that proper penetration isn't happening.Relax,use some lube and maybe put a towel under you if you are concerned about mess.Most of all,don't worry,this is normal.
2006-09-08 23:49:50 · answer #3 · answered by New Boots. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all - some bleeding is normal. i would suggest that your boyfriend spend alot of time with you on foreplay - making sure you are ready. you may also want to talk to him about using 1 then 2 then 3 then 4 fingers to help stretch you. then it should be less painful. you need to be ready for sexual intercourse and some guys are just ready to go and more concerned that they get off. my hats off to him for stopping when it hurt you. learn to take your time and like i said...stretching you over time might help....go slowly and make sure you are really wet. you should not be 'full of blood' as you said. good luck...and..use a condom please.
2006-09-08 23:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by firenice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I swore I wouldn't answer any 'personal' questions, but yours touched me. I remember this. Yes it hurts, alot. Intercourse was not pleasant for about six months, probably because of my size getting used to his. The hymn is very normal. I thought it would be for only one time but that wasn't the case for me either. My husband told me he could market me as a 'professional virgin' because it went on so long. (of course he was kidding) Anyway, everything you are describing is normal and nothing to worry about. It's probably not what the way you thought it would be, but let's face it, our mothers didn't talk to us about the details of what to expect in this situation so we're just as surprised as the guys. Not to worry, you're ok. Take it slow though and try to relax. It takes time, but its worth the patience. Good Luck.
2006-09-08 23:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by daisymae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it`s ok, the blood is normal but your boyfriend need to broken the hymn. be patient with him until he has full erection and then he need to penetrate you, it will be blood but is normal. tell him not to be afraid. if he don`t do it stay on top. bye, take care
2006-09-08 23:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by pericle . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont bleed when u hv sex fr the first time
u only hv spotting which is normal
if ur bleeding then may be ur hymen is thick n fleshy
try fingering n making space fr its entry
or if problen still presists
consult ur gynac t remove it surgically
2006-09-08 23:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by psycadelic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋