After going out with my boyfriend 3 months i told him i loved him. he said he couldnt say it back and didnt feel the same. i know people say it isnt a long time but iv also known him for two years. however he says he just wants something casual and he's still after sex. i havent given in yet because i wondered if thats all he wants. what would you do??
when were together it isnt always physical, we do get on really well and have a laugh.
would you ditch him or not???
2006-09-08 23:32:47 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its all up to u, do u want to hv sex with him or not.
2006-09-08 23:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to give this guy credit for being honest with you because he is not saying "I love you" just to get in your pants even though I'm sure it is obvious to him that this is all it would take for you to get naked. When he finally does tell you that he loves you, my guess is that he is for real no matter if you have had sex or not, which is a good thing for a guy to be able to do. Kudos to your bf.
You didn't say how old you are or anything about your personal life, but if you are of a mature age and ready for sex, then I think you need to consider opening the gates for him and just see what happens. You said that you get on well together and that sounds good. Of course, there are risks to having sex (pregnancy, STD), but I think it is time for you to take the next step. Sometimes it is easier for a man to fall in love when he is having sex with a girl. Good luck.
2006-09-08 23:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by Roger S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I wouldnt be talking about marriage I would be asking are you saying you dont see a future with me ?If he says no you must very calmly say I see and just tell him you only want to be freinds.Maybe he will find someone else in which case you know he is a user.He also may discover he really does have feeling for you.You must be nice but give him lots of space or you will never know him really.Do not just have casual Sex .Your like me you need love .respect yourself and others will too.Having sex wont make him love you.He may just be a better freind than anything or he may be too young to get serious.best wishes
2006-09-09 00:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetheart, this guy has been very open with you. At least he did not lie to you. He just does not love you and its very difficult for you to make him love you. All you need to do is to do what you want.
My advice is for you to move on unless if you enjoy the f***ing game and I do not think you are that cheap. You need to value yourself and stay away from guys like him. Believe me if u give in, sooner or later this he is going to dump you. What will you have achieved from that.
Respect yourself and and everyone will respect you. There are many other guys out there who can give you a good and happy relationship. Just tell him to find someone he really loves and you do the same.
Move on!!!!!!!!
2006-09-09 02:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by Eddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't dump him he's being honest, I think it's funny how girls want honesty and when they get it they don't want it. If you don't want to have sex with him till he "loves you" then don't if you think it's too soon to have sex then don't. He can't help it if he doesn't love you, the fact of the matter is that sex is an action and love in an emotion and people interpret that wrong all the time. Don't tell him that you won't have sex till he says I love you cuz boy will he say it in a few days, but seriously have sex when you want to don't break up with him for being honest though. Your lucky he's being honest with you and not saying i love you to get you in bed.
2006-09-08 23:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DITCH HIM!!
If you are still in love with him, this casual sex thing will make you want him all the more and stop you getting over him and on with your life.
There are plenty of nice guys out there that will want to have a proper relationship with you. it will take time to get over him, but hang in there.
best wishes.
xxx.
2006-09-09 02:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to do?
If you feel that the relationship has potential, ride it out for a while longer.
My question would be if you have known him for 2 years and have been dating for 3 months, why not become intimate?
2006-09-08 23:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maintain your self respect - he is being honest with you in as much as he has said he doesn't love you - if he wants something casual and sex suggest that he looks elsewhere. You deserve better than what he is offering and when the someone comes along who does love you and appreciate you for who you are you will be just so glad you didn't give in.
Good luck.
2006-09-08 23:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, he can't help the fact he doesn't love you. The fact that he's been honest with you tells me that he has some sort of respect for you. If you want to have sex with him go for it. Don't do it in a bid to try and get him to love you though. If he will end up loving you it will be in his own time.
If your both enjoying being together and your not hurting anyone, I say let things develop and carry on enjoying yourselves
2006-09-08 23:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Nicola ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because he doesnt love you, doesnt mean he doesnt like you! On the other hand- Have u thought mayb if thats all he is after he will wait for it no matter how long? he may dump u after no matter how long you wait to do it! I say dump him now and save urself some heartache!
2006-09-09 15:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
casual sex! would I? yes, i do...
Ditch him!
See, noone wants just sex, it's always something more we are looking for, and you should do the same too... look for something more, for someone who is better than saying "he just wants something casual and he's still after sex"...
casual sex has nothing to do with this...
2006-09-08 23:42:45 · answer #11 · answered by Randy Beaman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋