family members looking after children of alcholic mothers. any tips?
2006-09-08 23:25:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No but I do feel sorry for the children and of course for you as well. I commend you for doing this.
2006-09-08 23:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that had the heartache!! I looked after a friends child on and off for years - he first phoned me at age 2 to say he couldn't wake mummy up, I eventually involved social services after the child had a serious accident while his mother was too drunk to notice. They sent him to his grandparents while his mother went to rehab then after 2 weeks of rehab (which failed) gave him back to his mother and this cycle has been repeated for 12 years. The lad now cares for himself and his 2 younger siblings the mother is still a drunk. And the children are all damaged in one way or another. One of the little ones is slightly brain damaged from fetal alcohol syndrome.
If you can ensure that the child only sees its mother when she is sober you will be doing that child a huge favour but whatever happens I wish you and the child/children the very best of luck!
2006-09-09 06:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by libbyft 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister is raisng child whos mother alcohol dependant. She has said its difficult she gets abusive calls from the mother has had her drunk at door. the child fears her one minute then wants to be with her the next. Just do the best you can, try not to condem the mother to child just let them know the dangers of alcohol, let them know its an illness that some ppl cant control. Children fear they will turn out the same in some cases and they dont want to they sttess them selves out so much that they turn to alcohol. So to prevent this let them no that it wont happen they have no need to worry and you will be there for them always, show them love. Get them councilling if needed so they can understand what their mother is going thru..
2006-09-09 06:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child must come first at any cost. I would call social services and get some help. They may be able to offer you some financial support and make the whole situation legal for you and the children/child. Or find another suitable family to foster or eventually adopt.
2006-09-09 08:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a hero to take on such a responsibility. However if you didn't want it, you should look into the legal issues with putting up for adoption. Children shouldn't suffer at the expense of adults (the mother I mean).
2006-09-09 06:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by crazypillz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to watch my sister's daughter and my sister was an alcoholic and used drugs. My mother helped me take over mothering the little girl. Unfortunately, we aided my sister by letting her have so much time to run wild and always being drunk, because she knew her daughter was being taken care of. Looking back, we should have gotten custody from her or gotten Dept. of Human Services involved. Having DHS involved might have motivated her to keep custody of her daughter by stop drinking.
2006-09-09 06:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by RKC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iam raising a 12 yr old boy.. he isnt mine by blood but thats besides the point , his mother left him 7 yrs ago... she was a heavy drinker and a drugie.. yes it is hard cause i have 2 boys of my own and i have a fiance but i wouldnt change anything about my life ...
2006-09-09 06:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by sw33t_n_sp1c3y2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible to get to the source of her reason for drinking? Could your own GP advise of best course of action? Sorry to be asking questions instead of answering but this alcoholism problem really is the scourge of society these days and destroys so many lives. I am so so sorry to hear it has touched yours too.
I know of one carer who had really sound advice from her local vicar.
2006-09-09 06:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by victorious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife has a drinking problem, it's destroying our marriage. I've tried getting her help, she doesn't believe she has a problem. So i'm at the point of deciding my options.
2006-09-09 06:32:17 · answer #9 · answered by John J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots social organisations in INDIA
2006-09-09 06:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋