My parents died a a while ago, about 4 days ago! My family needs help to deal with this loss, we can't get over the fact that their gone! I have alot of brothers and sisters! And we can't handle this! My youngest brother stopped talking to us completely! He won't say a word! He's so quiet and secretive lately! He falls out of bed alot, everytime he falls asleep something would happen! the rest of us can't get any sleep at all! Now my youngest who falls out of bed alot is afraid to go back to sleep cause he doesn't wanna fall off again! Will anyone please help us through this! Please, we needs help big time! Things are all messed up! We don't know what to do! So please can anyone just help us through this and be our friend and if you say yes, thanks!
2006-09-08 23:09:56 · 20 answers · asked by Deven K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't know what to say except God is with them and watching over you. Let yourself feel his being. I'm sorry, really really sorry.
2006-09-08 23:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by Tall Guy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might be carrying all the weight mate. Maybe you need to take some time out for yourself to calm down and re-collect your thoughts. I can't imagine how you are feeling because I have never experienced the situation you are in but I should imagine it would be very difficult on everyone. I am glad you are asking for help but I am not sure this is the right place to ask, I certainly wouldnt be taking advice from someone I have never met on such a big issue. My best advice to you is to contact a crisis care centre or an agency that assists families that are going though tuff times. They may be able to give you some practical support. Do you have any close friends? I would be utilising them if I could. But most importantly give yourself time to get away from the situation. I'm not saying get up and leave, I'm just saying make sure you take time out from the situation. Either go for a walk or do something else you enjoy. This will help you keep calm and not continually under pressure. Good luck mate!
2006-09-09 06:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by wombatusium 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is soo awful. I myself would not know what to do. It has to be hard on you and you family. I could suggest some things to do , but when you really dont know much about someone and there family its hard. My Aunt passed away this morning. My Uncle was the only one there with her, all her other family was at home. I felt so bad for him that i stayed with him. If you would like someone talk with i am at vickiel_2004@yahoo.com i am going bed soon so just im me and i will add you as a friend. Its always best try talk someone than keep your feelings all bottled up inside. In the meantime i would suggest that you put his bed against a wall and someone sleep with him for awhile. Goodluck and Godbless. Vickie
2006-09-09 06:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by Vickie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you I lost my mother just over a year ago and it's hard really hard. I am not sure what your ages are but I am here if you just need someone to talk to! And as far as your brother falling out of the bed maybe someone should sleep with him push the bed against the wall and the someone else lay with him to get him through the night! I know that things are really hard for you right now but I will give you my e-mail address and you can e-mail me anytime you need to talk to someone OK! Here's my e-mail address.......stormy2u2001@yahoo.com e-mail me anytime! And Sweety my prayers are with you and your family! May God Bless you all!
2006-09-09 06:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by stormy2u2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say a while ago then 4 days. confusing. If your youngest brother is a child then he needs councilling to deal with grief he is afraid as for falling out of bed i dont no the reason maybe take him see a doctor. Its hard to deal with things when you lose loved ones its takes time to heal you need to grieve don't be afraid its only early days. it may seem a struggle now tho when you are feeling less tense and pain is freeing things will come together. Your brother will come around just let him know you are there for him.
2006-09-09 06:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by a mother 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dearest Deven & family, there is nothing ANYONE can say to bring peace to your hearts. Only you, as individuals, can come to terms with this tragedy, and in time it WILL come.
Having gone through it myself I can share my experience(s) with you.
First I couldn't believe it had happened then while in denial I had to call others ie...family members, landlord, creditors etc....Even as I said the words "Mother's dead" I didn't want to believe them.
The next thing I knew we were having the (veiwing)
I didn't cry for 11 days after she passed. It's been 15 years now and I have forgotten her voice and face unless I look at her picture.
Every March 17, yes, her birthday, my brother, sister and I along with all her grandchildren get together and watch videos of us all.
The pain will NEVER go away but it does get easier in time.
Wishing you and yours peace
P.S. So that your brother doesn't cause harm to himself or someone else lay a mattress on the floor and give him your mothers pillow. It helped me. As for him not talking well, he will when he is ready. It might be his way of coping, however, not healthy
2006-09-09 06:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by besamiculo67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can im me if you wan to. try letting your sliblings sleep on the floor next to you so they can feel comfortable about sleeping then they wont have to worry about falling out of bed. and for the one that is not talking it will take some time bet that one is real young that is just how that sibling is dealing with it. its only been 4 days its going to be hard. i am sorry for your loss though. just try to stick together as much as you can. if you can i would get family counsling. that might help you deal with your loss too.
2006-09-09 06:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll be praying for you and your family - that God's peace be restored to you and everyone in your family. May His hand be upon this situation that you would know and feel His mercy and love touch you all. Remove the chaos, Father, from this family and guide them through this time. Set your guardian angels all about this family keeping them in Your care and protection.
Get to church and seek counsel from a pastor! This is too much for one person to bear alone and you're not alone! During times like these, in order to remain strong, you will need to draw strength from somewhere else.
I will continue in prayer for you and your family!
2006-09-09 06:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by Christian Mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Devon,
Sorry for the loss of your parents.
My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
It is such a huge loss, for all of you.
Perhaps, you could have the church come in, and try to explain all the WHY's you must all have.
God has a plan for everyone, however, this has got to hurt more than words could explain.
Good luck to all of you.
2006-09-09 07:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My condolences, I am really sorry to hear about your tragedy, may God be with you through these rough times and always. You can try putting his mattress on the floor in the room if there is space, this way he can't fall off again. I hope this helps, and if you like to write me in the future for any matter please do.
2006-09-09 06:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by rabb b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, You're younger brother is coping the best he can by not speaking. There is nothing to do to keep him from falling out of bed except offer to be there for him. I'm sorry for your loss, but time heals all wounds. Trying doing things together as one unit and not close yourselves off to each other.
2006-09-09 06:14:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋