I have'nt seen my boyfriend in two years he lives in the caribbean i begged him to visit me over the christmas holidays but he said no however i'm always sending him money and any thing he needs every one says he uses me but he seems to love me what should i do?at the moment i in debts and i told him i was not working but he never asked me if i ate or if i payed my rent or nothing he's got a pub and making alot of money and never cared to ask about my well being pls help me out.
2006-09-08 23:02:49 · 27 answers · asked by shella n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So far .. all I am reading into this relationship is what you do for him.. Its a completely one sided relationship and needless to say I haven't read anything that would make me think he was in love with you. What I am reading is that he is using you. I would leave the relationship and move forward .. you deserve so much better
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-08 23:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you have supported him then you could try asking him for money to pay your rent etc and see what happens. Either he pitches up with a fat wallet and a kiss, or you don't see him for dust.
I bet that in your heart you already know the answer to this question but just lack the courage to see it through. Whatever you have invested emotionally and financially in this caribbean guy make the break. Find a real man to love that cares for you and is there for you. You are a generous person that has wise friends and you deserve to be happy. Good luck
2006-09-08 23:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Dancemomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you read what you wrote, it doesn't seem like he's your boyfriend. 2 yrs? And if he's making so much money in the Caribbean, why is he asking you for some? I'd have to agree with the previous answer and get over him! You need to move on.... Value yourself and just have faith that there is someone else better in store for you! You might be lonely, but once you decide to move on, that "burden" you feel will fall off of you!
2006-09-08 23:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by Christian Mom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't seen you for two years, he has another girl pregnant, taking your money, he gives you nothing in return, now you think about it, he has got the best of both worlds, he will be sweet with you because he wants your money, if he loves you how come he hasn't come to visit you? He is making money, you are in debt does he care no he doesn't, for goodness sake he is using you, if he loves you has he asked you to go over there and to visit him no he hasn't, you don't need to be clever with this relationship of yours. Tell him to ask his girlfriend that he got pregnant for money and anything else he needs, he has moved on and you are still waiting for him, where is the justice in that, GET OUT GIRL
2006-09-09 00:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy, he is using you, he doesn't care about you only your money, ask him to send you some money for a change, don't be so easy, how can he be your boyfriend when you haven't seen him in two years and if he owns a pub and is making plenty money why the h*ll are you sending him money, you are a doormat for him, get up and stand up for yourself, stop being so weak.
2006-09-08 23:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He obviously doesnt love you hun, he takes and never gives, he doesnt care when you are in trouble, he got another girl pregnant, he didnt want to be with you at christmas, Its hard honey but you have to see what is staring you in the face, this guy is nasty and selfish, please face the fact that he doesnt love you and he is using you. You said he seems to love you??? How does it?? what does he do to make you think that?? Girl, break all ties with this man, hes dragging you down emotionally and financially.
2006-09-08 23:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you. He is using you. I'm sorry i have to say it like this. You have no future with him. You will never be happy with him believe me. Find other activities,,,,keep yourself busy and go out with friends. Cry a river if you have to but you will recover soon....Do not jump into another relationship....find another job. Good luck and be brave and be wise.
2006-09-08 23:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think that he loves you? Your words say " He takes advantage of me!" Find a boy who can will really love you and forget this nitwit in Caribbean Island.
2006-09-08 23:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ina K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has an easy ride with you doesnt he?
he gets ur money
he gets your body
he gets another woman pregant
he gives NOTHING back to you
get rid he is a using piece of scum and i think you actually know this since your on here asking this question
2006-09-08 23:09:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
havent u got the sense to see this guy is taking u for everything u have move on find someone else he obviously doesnt give a damm about u.
2006-09-08 23:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋