Last night a guy I've been seeing went out with his mates and then text me to say he was going to a party after the club, i had a dream that I called him and his ex's mate answered teh phone and told me not to trust him, that he was with another girl and he has always been like that. ther has never been any jealusy in our relationship but I don't see him that often, We often talk about out dreams, if I tell him about this one do you think he might get freaked out thta I'm the jealous type (I'm not at all), even if I say it in a funny way? Mybe if I tell him he will reassure me he's not been seeing other people as I haven't actually asked, very early days!
2006-09-08 22:20:21 · 20 answers · asked by Yoyo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This sounds like a very low level dream. Dreams can have three levels - the level of ordinary appearances, like dreaming of catching a bus or going to work or school; the mid level, where you have weird experiences like visits from UFOs or dead loved ones; and finally, the highest level, where you go for a ride in the Land of the Gods and Divine Archetypes, etc.
This sounds as though your mind's trying to sort some things out with yourself. It's a question of not whether to trust your friend, but whether or not you're able to trust yourself, a hint that there might be the desire to bring yourself and this guy closer, but you don't want to lose yourself too soon.
If you wish to bring up the dream, laugh it off. It's really inconsequential. But bear in mind that it does reflect something of how you might be feeling for him unconsciously. You might not be happy bringing those feelings to the surface. But you might have to.
2006-09-08 22:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by fiat_knox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wud not if I were in your place unless I had enough reason to distrust him. We all need to be reassured and so many times. But this might cause I rift in an otherwise smooth relationship because trust and faith are very vital to a relationship. Besides an ex is being brought into the picture which I find absolutely unnecessary
2006-09-08 22:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by pakir poyum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're insecurity showing up in your dreams is because you've been wanting some reassurance from him. Doesnt look like your relationship with him is secure and you have real doubts. You could be right about only one thing....he's not taking the relationship to the level you want. Time for a talk or let it slide.
2006-09-08 22:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm going to say this Ive had some dreams that always come true so this is what you do dont mention it to him but just watch him and see and this dream may come true and after a week if nothing has happened then tell him about your dream and how it made you feel and tell him you would not be able to get passed it if you didn't at least ask and then still keep both eyes open good luck
2006-09-08 22:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by khissmyputtytat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pull the reverse psychology thing on him. Tell him u had a dream but you can't tell him it. He'll say why, and you'll say it's cuz he'll get freaked out by it and that he might think you're the jelous type cuz your not. By then he will be biased enough to not think that way when you tell him the dream. That way you didn't have to "hide" the dream from him. (it's always nice to feel completely clean of secrets with your man). And he won't react int he bad way, and you get to tell him the dream.
2006-09-08 22:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by blindly_invisible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt tell him because ushally are dreams are things we think about and then they come into our dreams whilewe are sleeping .so he will probably think oh she got worried thati was cheating on her at the club and sometimes guys get cocki .I would ask him if he had a good night and say you hope he enjoyed himself but then see how he acts when you tell himyou and your friends are gowing somewhere he probably wouldnt like. Its natraul to wonder about these things I mean his your boyfriend not any other girls and thats why its called a relationship ;) you dont want him to be with any other girls beacuse then his feelings for you are not true....
2006-09-08 22:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Baby-Boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In relationships there are some things you should keep to yourself. Don't tell him.
That dream maybe a sign that there is something wrong. Start spending more time together but don't be over clingy on him or what we call here, a 'superglue'.
2006-09-08 22:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by Cinderella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you two are in a good relationship you should be able to talk to him about it without him getting upset..... and just remember, it was only a dream....... just talk to him about it and see what he says, you can go from there on his reaction... if he isnt fooling around he wont have a problem and he will be reassuring , but if he gets defensive you may want to reconsider a few things and think about your relationship a little more.......
2006-09-08 22:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him...Its only a dream. If he freaks out then it might be true.Its better to break off a relationship in its early days than when you are deeply involved.
2006-09-08 22:27:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember all dreams are about yourself. All people and things in them are about you.
This is your problem not his, you'll only tell him because you want reassurance.
I don't mean to be harsh, but I'll bet you think all guys will do the dirt on you....
the explanation of your dream!!
2006-09-09 00:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by zara c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋