Why don't parents teach their kids to have consideration and respect for others?

Question

Seems most parents dont care, therefore there kids are brought up not to care, why are less people showing consideration towards others now more than ever before and a lac of respect for their surrounding environments?

Being a single parent has nothing to do with it!

Answer 1

i know what you mean i have three daughters and where i live the kids round here are awful they f and blind at you and the parent s do nothing. if my girls spoke to anyone the way they do i think i would ground them for life. ive been called names i would never be called by an adult, and these are kids between the age of 4 and 9.

Answer 2

Some parents still raise their children right, but not many, it seems. I think we are now into the second and perhaps even the third generation of those who were not raised to have good manners, and so when they were raised, their parents did not have the memory of being taught their manners in a way they could appreciate, and so they don't know how. I guess they lacked Miss Manners Guide to Raising Perfect Children.

When I was a kid, my parents and my grandparents were very consistent in expecting me to behave "like a little lady." If I did something not quite right in public, my grandmother would lean over and whisper to me, "Barbara, remember your dignity." That was all I needed. I think kids want to behave, but someone has to tell them what good behavior is under a wide variety of circumstances.

Then they need sufficient affection for the person who tells them to want to do right for their sake. My mother would say (again, in a whisper so others didn't hear that I was being corrected), "Do you want people to think I didn't raise you right?" The idea of anyone thinking bad of my mother was pretty horrible, and I got in line quickly.

I think much of the blame must be laid to the so-called Feminist movement. They changed all the rules of polite behavior between men and women, and made a big deal about distinguishing between "ladies" and "women," while trashing the concept of a lady as someone with good manners. A gentleman used to be someone who had good manners towards a lady, but if women didn't want to be ladies anymore, where's the point? So now kids raised by feminists don't know how to raise their kids.

Now we have to find ways to educate these kids after the fact. I often ride buses with high school kids (which is an ordeal), and every time one of them does something nice, like give up a seat or hold a door, or volunteer to open or close a stuck window, I say, loud enough for others to hear, "Thank you, my dear. There are still a few kids with good manners left in this world." The other kids may notice what behavior brought that on.

Answer 3

I am a hand on parent
but 75% parents are TV parents
because of this most children were not thought to respect others
Sit for 30 minute and watch a cartoon show
it teach them that you have to be aggressive to win
and also I notice something adult are not that respectful either
the state with the most disrespectful people is Florida I lived there
and by the way it is not the Floridian or the immigrant that are rude but those old forgies visiting from New Jersey
they will push, even when a child hold the door open for them
they will not say thank you
so see we society have to be an example
and we not when we rudely dismiss a child (anyone child)

Answer 4

Because there is a serious lack of parenting now. Ask a school teacher about kids behavior. You'll get the full dirt in that answer.

The media isn't helping at all. They should not be the teachers but kids today spend too much time staring at the tv. Have you noticed the content of kids tv programs lately? The same rude behavior is quite prevelent in these shows. But it all comes back to the parents. It isn't the media's fault, it's the parents not teaching their kids.

One other observation. I cringe when I hear parents say, "I'm going to raise and provide my kids better than my parents did". Spare the rod, spoil the child. Spank them! Putting a kid in "time out" isn't a punishment.

Many kids today have an unhealthy sense of entitlement. You cannot award a kid with a medal for every little thing they do.

Thanks for reading my answer. Have a nice day!

Answer 5

A very very valid question. The answer is definitely not "who cares" as that is exactly why so many problems have been allowed to escalate into major social issues. Unfortunatley if no one cares or it is always someone else's problem then things fall apart pretty quickly. But for too many years the idea that self-expression or individuality constituted embracing rejection of other people and their values makes for a fractured and fragmenting society. If people coudl open their hearts and minds and see that smiling at someone rather than staring with distrust or growling "what you looking at", or dropping litter hoping someone else will clean it up and just seeing how small, sometimes tiny things can make a huge difference to the value and quality of life for everyone not least those who are most in need of it i.e. the people caught in the aggresive circle where only self and selfish attitude matters. Be sharing. Be generous and hopefully people will respond.

Answer 6

Blame the grandparent/s for being part of the problem, But the Parent/s are the big Problem, As some parent/s will say, "I will not treat my kid/s like my parent/s treated me". To me, that is a stupid Remark. But it fits, there are some Parent/s who just want kid/s to be a house server,If the Grandparent/s did not teach the parent/s respect, or did not learned it in the area that he/she lived in, Then how does the parent/s teach there kid/s, they are product of there own environments, But at the same time, if a parent, meaning 1 person is caring for a kid and/or kids, it is a lot harder. The parent has to work, So what type for friends is hanging out with????? So the best way to answer your question is all of them above,
or the kid are just F***ing Brats, give me give me F**k you. I hope that helps

Answer 7

I have brought my daughter up to have respect for her elders. Unfortunately in society today where there are more and more single parent families you can not control what happens with the other party. I am not saying that all situations are the same but the situation that i am in, the respect goes out the window the minute changeover occurs. Unfortunately when she returns it does take a couple of days for the attitude to change and to respect like she has been brought up to do. But with that said there are quite a few double parent families where there is no respect for anyone.

Answer 8

When I grew up in the 60's, people were so much nicer to each other. Now I see Moms letting their children run loose and not setting RULES for them! In stores they allow their kids to get into toys, clothes etc. They litter, some graffiti! I never would have even THOUGHT about doing things like that as a kid!!(as with most baby boomers) They don't seem to respect other people's property. Children REALLY NEED to have rules set. It makes them know they're loved! Parents need to be MUCH BETTER ROLE MODELS! My husband & I were at a buffet & some lady was telling her daughter to TASTE TEST the pudding (right there at the salad bar)--made us SICK! Parents should take PARENTING lessons! (I'm glad I did! Child psychology)

Answer 9

A lot of it is just pure laziness on the part of the parents. Having been spoon fed by the Government for years they think it is the school's job to teach their children all the things good parents automatically consider their job. Also, a lot of the parents these days are hardly grown ups themselves who left school early and haven't completed their education. I saw a teenage woman in the street the other day screaming at her little boy, who looked about 4 years old. She was using lots of swear words and shouted that he would fu**ing do as he was fu**ing told and the grand parents, who looked to be in their 40's, stood by nodding in agreement, making no attempt to stop her language. So the child will grow up thinking it is OK to shout and scream at people and use bad language.

Answer 10

I taught mine respect but unlike my parents, I also taught her that no one is better than her and she is no better than anyone else ( this was language that she could understand) my parents taught me that I should respect others but in a way that caused me to feel that I wasn't as good as others.
I want her to get her butt up off the seat if there is an elderly person that needs it, or open the door for someone that is struggling, but others should be considerate to her also.This is just a simple example, but I think the idea is clear. The Golden Rule is the rule in my family.

Answer 11

I think most people do but unfortunatley the ones who don't get taught respect are often louder, brasher and more in your face so they take all your attention, leaving the kids with manners to sit in the background and it's not until the reach their twenties that they will move into the limelight leaving the loud gobs**tes wondering why their not cool anymore, and why they can only get poorly paid work and will have to spend their lives struggling. this then makes them resentful so their bring their kids up not to care, a vicous circle really!