I don't wanna live anymore. my family wants to get rid of me and my friends said they'd be there always but there not. i'm pressin charges against my uncle for aggrivated sxul assult of a child under 16, well the state is really pressing the charges. my family keeps askin me why i told and why can't i just move on. idk should i drop the charges, all i wanna do is end it all or talk back time and redo it all, but since that's not possible... i can't see a way out of all this sh*t. Please help. if anyone has had this happen how long did it take or were you able to get over it ever? I've called 1800 suicide and written the samaritians group already but it didn't help. is there somewhere I can go right now at 4 in the morning to be safe. i want to die and at the same time i have this part that just wants help. i don't know what to do...
2006-09-08 21:51:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
First off let me say that I'm glad that you are reaching out for help. It means that there is still hope despite how desperate you feel. I have been through something similar but it was not a family member and I did not have the courage to stand up to my offender and prosecute. I am so proud of you. You are standing up for all those who didn't/ couldn't stand up for themselves. I know how families can be. You know what the right thing to do is. I found out last year that one of my perps assaulted another 8 yr old and got jail time and a record that will follow him forever. Despite the elation I felt knowing he was incarcerated, I also felt guilt and anger at myself for not stopping him when he hurt me and giving him the ability to hurt another.
If you drive you can take yourself to the nearest hospital ER. They will ask you lots of questions. The best advice I can give you is to be open and honest and don't worry about anyone judging you. They are just ignorant or unknowing of your pain. Copy what you wrote to us and give it to them if you think it will be too hard to tell them directly. If you can't or don't drive call 911 and do the same. Usually the EMT's are very nice and caring. If you don't want to call 911 call the police station and ask for non emergency transport. Just be very clear what you do and do not want.
Take care of yourself and email me if you need to.
((((((((((((Hugs Donna))))))))))))))
Tink
2006-09-08 22:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there not a place in your area for victims of rape? Look in the yellow pages under Social Services or Social Workers. Go up and down the list and call any number that hits you. I have called six organizations until I found the right one. This area has an extremely small list under those services. Churches, women's rights organizations, anything pertaining to women's organizations should help, Crisis lines, Rape and victims services, and whatever. Is there not one person who will help you? If you lived here, I would. You are right and the others are wrong. Stick to your guns and do not allow anyone to talk you out of this, your uncle will go on hurting others if you do not speak up. Mental health organizations should be able to help also. Keep your faith. If possible, will you please let us know how you are doing? Click on my q&a and answer a question and put a note in too about how you are doing. If it will help, we can communicate. Just talking to those who understand helps at times. God Bless You. Do not give up.
2006-09-08 22:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!
About half of the women in our country have experienced sexual abuse at some point in thier lives. Understand that there is absolutely no excuse for sexual abuse and you were right to report it. Someone capable of doing this would most likely do it again if given the chance, so think about other children at risk when you consider dropping the charges... hold your ground and do what you feel is right. Don't listen to people who may be embarrassed by the situation... they can't provide you sound advise or proper support.
SEEK COUNCELING!!!
I went through years of counceling to work through issues I had including child abandonement and molestation. Go to the local mental health clinic and ask for help. Focus your attention on making things better for yourself and doing the right thing... no matter how heavy your burden may seem to be. Don't take your life for granted... instead of cursing the life you were given... thank God for the chance to make something of it and ask him for strength in your time of need. Go to church and ask for help there. You will find strength if you seek it. No one can fix it for you... but there are many wonderful people out there to offer you support.
Asking for help can be the most difficult step forward in any situation, but it is crucial. Do it for yorself, for the life ahead of you,and for the safety of other children and young girls who could be put at risk if you did nothing.
Time heals. It will get easier... but it is important that you talk to someone who is unbiased. See a councelor right away.
Hang in there... I'll pray for you.
2006-09-08 22:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by hereintheunivers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I am at work right now. Hang in there, I've been through this situation, but do not have the time to help at the moment. I am a nurse working the night shift. I'll have a little more time tomorrow night to discuss things with you. ignore the message by the first writer. What an idiot! Have a little patience.
2006-09-08 22:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by beentheredonethat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stan "the guy" Musial. 3630 hits, 475 HRs, 1951 RBIs, walked 1599 cases while in comparison with purely 696 strikeouts. 3 time MVP, and replaced into an All-massive call each and each season in the time of his occupation. (22 cases) Seven time NL Batting champ, led the league in hits six cases, inducted into the corridor of repute in 1969.
2016-12-15 05:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend
Be faith in God You have to live for the simple reason that we do not have the right to end the Gods creation. Do meditation to calm your mind. Visit website www.sahajmarg.org for a beautiful meditation which will change your life.
2006-09-08 21:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by D.Kumar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah you got it rough, and unfortunately it takes time and a good counsellor to get sexual assult issues resolved. but as for your immediate need you can go to any hospital and they have psych services. as for your family, they are assholes. you could ask your local childrens services to be placed in a foster home. I know this sounds crappy but i had to do this when i was 13 cuz my sicko stepdad couldnt keep off me. i know its tough now but it will get better and nothing YOU did made the sicko do this to you. he is sick and your family is just as sick for trying to protect him. good luck to you. there are alot of caring agencies who will give you the compassionate care you so badly need.
2006-09-08 22:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by mysticalflyingsquirrel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
funny because lot fo plp r talking bout **** like this. its all over yahoo. just pull through. i know it seems like ahh **** i cant hold on but u know that inside now matter how bad u can untie the knot. but if u decide that ur gonna take ur life then go ahead. im not gonna condone u for it. u can hit me up at mp5killer22@yahoo.com anytime. i support u in what u make out of this situation. bye
2006-09-08 21:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by al 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you had to tell.......he had no right to do anything like that.....if your family doesnt understand that than it is them that is wrong then.......and if the state has picked up charges on him then you cant drop charges.....please just deal with this and go on with your life......everyone else will forget way sooner than you will.......so forget what they think......
2006-09-08 22:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am very sorry for the issues you have to deal with, i wish i lived near you so as to help, but dont give up PLEASE, your life is too prescious. You WILL, with god's grace get through it and come out a better person, things will work out for you.Have faith and believe in yourself.PLEASE dont give up on yourself.
2006-09-08 22:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋