Really SERIOUS problems..Need some encouragement and advice.?

Question

Just yesterday I posted a couple of questions and decided That I need some professional help

So this is what the doc said...

I have bipolar disorder and extreme Social Phobia & Anxiety disorder ,both of them thanks to my abusive parents and one of my teachers in high-school.

And She also said that I am little sexually abusive and not normal.

Now this I found out in the session ,it was due to exposure to some Bad movies when I was 7 or 9 by a 16 yr old distant cousin..it was not Hard-Core type stuff...but the damage It caused to me continues till this date.

Now I have opted to change and help myself out of all this mess,

In all of this,I have to thank god for one thing ..I never get sucidal thoughts and always find some hope and faith in me when things are really bad.

I truely now believe that I can control my Mind and be the person I really want to be.Just tell me some ways to get a good start in my new life and pray a little for me if you can.

Answer 1

It is so wonderful that you decided on your own that you need professional help. I found out when I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and OCD, and depression/anxiety, that I really needed help. There are some awesome groups in Yahoo Groups that you can become a member in, and you can receive support and advice from people who have gone thru the same things you have.
I am glad that you are never suicidal. This is a big plus in your recovery.
One thing I would tell you that is extremely important. Stop believing your negative thoughts about yourself. So many people think their own thoughts are really the truth, that they are very valid and true. This is not true. Stick to the facts of your illness. If you have to, sit down and write down all the facts about what is going on in your life, and if it is not too disturbing, write down the fact that you were traumatized. Write down that you did not deserve any of this abuse. Read that list everyday, and when a thought pops up in your head, and is negative, go to your list, and read the facts, and if you have to, add another fact to the list. Emotions and thoughts can control our minds, only if we let them. If we stick to the facts, and leave out thoughts and judgments on ourselves, it will help us to realize that we are worthy to be here on this earth.
I am very proud of you, that you made a decision to get help. I am so happy to hear this. If you want, you can contact me for support, while you go thru treatment with your doctor.

Answer 2

In your case, you have been let down by people who should have loved you and protected you. Its horrible and it happens more often than you can imagine. You have a hard road ahead of you, to say the list, but know that you owe it to yourself to only move forward. All the people that hurt you, well, success is the best revenge. Dont waste your energy hating them (although you dont sound like you do), just reinvent yourself into the best person you can be (emotionally, physically, professionally, as a human being.) When you have been abused there is a need to please everyone. Its a self preservation mechanism. Through therapy, you should learn healthier adaptive behaviors so that you can be happier. Being nice, does not mean saying "yes" all the time to everyone. And you must start by being nice to yourself first. So think of the child in you as a third person, and work on nurturing him. That will mean sometimes saying no to other people so you can "care" for the child in you first. And at first it will feel weird, and you may even feel guilty, but repeat to yourself that you owe it to the child in you and you dont owe anything to anyone else just like the rest of the world act slike they dont owe anything to you. If there are people in your life that are a negativ influence in any way, and they are not willing to change, then keep your distance and concentrate on making better company. Join a club for sports or a hobby. Its a great way to meet people and have a conversation strater and relieve stress and keep your mind busy rather than relieving the bad experiences.
A strong relationship with a very good therapist is what will help you get started in the road to a new life. I wish you good luck. And keep praying. You need the spiritual strenght that only God can give you. And from personal experience I can tell you that sometimes is not easy not being angry at HIM for letting all these terrible things happen to you when you were a child. It is normal to feel this way for sometime. But He didnt do them to you and He has never abandoned you. If you keep HIM close to you, you will feel how HE will make every roadblock smaller and all the weight on your back lighter. When everyone else lets you down, HE will still be by your side. That is his promise!

Answer 3

Your question and statement is either a perfect example of bipolar disorder or you are a psychology student playing games with us.

If you are for real you need to get medication from your doctor and start taking it and pray for a true relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ.

I will certainly pray for you. Also I would stress that what goes on in your head is not always under your control.

Peace of mind comes not by control but by surrender to the Lord Jesus. Give up each and every thought. Shop your thoughts. Put the bad ones in the trash can. Put the good thoughts on a shelf and look at them often.

Thank God for your bad thoughts and dump them. Thank God for your good thoughts and keep them.

Answer 4

Good you consulted a professional and now you will improve.
Please join for yoga and meditation courses immediately and these will help you to a great extent. Now that you are changing for the good, get rid of the naughty/knotty friends at the earliest.

But, never forget to join the yoga and meditation classes.

Answer 5

you're getting help, thats the best start you can have.

but 1 session NEVER equals cured. keep up with the therapy, express your views and solutions to your therapist and keep it up.

i'm not trying to knock you down, i'm happy for you that you have a positive light upon this, but this is just the beginning, don't get cocky and think you can handle this all on your own.

you've got a good start good luck to you on this journey

Answer 6

Well, good luck--it sounds like you've been through the ringer.

Try a reg. counceling program too? It helps to have someone who doesn't know you listen to you.

Answer 7

Please continue to see your doctor. If you have bi-polar disorder you need medication for this. Bi-polar Disorder is not caused by abusive parents but is a genetic, physical illness.

Answer 8

Sounds like you are blaming everyone else for things that are wrong with you.

Answer 9

all your life you have been repressing homosexual thoughts toward your cousin, move to san fran and marry him