What to do about a girl who feels the same things (very strong at that) you feel for her but is afraid that she'll get hurt by you due to past experiences, therefore is putting up a wall around her heart. I can see both the love and fear in her eyes. Time and consistency is probably the best ....... but could use some tips.
2006-09-08 21:04:03 · 16 answers · asked by Xens 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give up. No point getting hurt yourself.
2006-09-08 21:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she shouldn't judge you by her past relationships...I know for a fact that there are men out there who will treat you much better.......If she can't stop with the wall around her heart she will never know what it is liked to be truly loved and adored by someone, and will have a very lonely life
2006-09-09 04:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People need to stop letting what happened in the past effect how they treat others....You are paying the price for what someone else did...What she needs to do is learn to live with herself, she can not love someone if she doesnt love herself first. If you dont take a chance on life, your not living, she needs to know this. Until she does, than the only thing she is doing is causing pain for someone else, because of the pain done to her, its unfair....
2006-09-09 04:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same thing happened to me 2 years ago with my bf, he wanted me but he was afraid ill break his heart like his ex did, i told him in an indirect way that u cant let ur past reuin ur present and future, people r different and make ur past be a lesson that can helps u make a successful future.. and after that he changed his mind and we've been together now for 2 years.. so good luck
2006-09-09 04:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by shoosh_b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take her out to many different places and do nice things for her. Little simple things, nothing too extravagant, just enough to show her you care. Yes you are right, time is what you need, so make good use of it.
Here are some ideas you can use:
http://www.niquehappy.com/relationships.htm
G'luck!
2006-09-09 04:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by ♥iamsleepy♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go very slow but dont back off to much but just enough. Dont over whelm her but show her that you care. Be there when she needs you and when she doesnt. When she says she needs space give her some but dont disappear from her let her know that you will always be there not just by saying but proving it to her aswell. I hope that makes since to you.
2006-09-09 04:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by tiggerluvnmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience, support and undestanding will help her learn to trust again and eventually the wall will come down. Hang in there.
2006-09-09 04:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
patience and understanding. you are going to meet a lot of women with a wall up. cuz men are really doing a good job at dogging us out.
2006-09-09 04:07:17 · answer #8 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time,
be nice to her,
always be next to her.
soon she'll realise that you two cannot be without each other.... eventually she'll open her thoughts and her heart to you.
good luck.
2006-09-09 05:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by genuineanya98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, show her that ypu'll be there for her no matter what, and that she can trust you for anything. talk to her, call her, hang out with her, gain her confidence, and if its not too much, talk about what you both feel.
2006-09-09 04:09:07 · answer #10 · answered by ¿¡¿¡Que!?!? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋