2006-09-08 20:50:25 · 16 answers · asked by zuhaib 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
MAYBE...by living an adult lifestyle and having an adult relationship. But if the person is immature before the marriage began, I doubt they will mature, and I doubt the marriage will survive.
2006-09-08 20:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be mentally mature to marry......and if your not when you do you will probably be divorced before you know it.....marriage is hard enough.....grow up first and find out what it is you like about you then perhaps if the right person comes along consider beginning a mature relationship to start with and watch it blossom.
2006-09-09 03:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by Okay9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being mentally mature helps the marriage....not the other way around.
2006-09-09 04:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by beastrea1070 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can go either way. Some may get dependent on their spouses to do everything that needs to be done, and some go out of their way to be pleasing to their spouse because of their great love for him or her. Then there are some who get in a routine of arguing every single day and say stupid things to each other and are acting like little kids. Some may be very responsible and mature and hold down a job plus another if necessary. They do what needs to be done to make things work for their household/family.
On the other hand, if you meant mentally stable, as you are in the mental health category, that is a different story. If you marry someone with mental illness, it can be a tough ride for you and your spouse. I have a mental illness, and it does affect my marriage, and may be why I am not happy and my husband is confused at how to deal with me. If you truly love your significant other enough to see her thru her illness and learn how to care for her, as you will more than likely tend to his or her needs, then there is no problem. But, it is a tough job. Even though I am unhappy in my marriage, my husband has always come thru when I get messed up in my head.
Zuhaib---if you are thinking about getting married, work out as many differences you each have before you get married. Marriage is not all hugs and kisses like on your wedding day. Marriage takes hard work. You are accountable to someone now, for all your actions, and you have to be there when they need you, even if you are tired out and don't have the strength to help and listen. You may not always get to do the things you want to do, due to finances, as you share your income now. Most everything you do except your daily activities of living have got to be talked over. That is a good thing, yes, but we don't always get to make plans, if there is a conflict with the spouse.
If you are thinking about getting married, think about what you have gone thru already. If you are having problems, they need to be worked out. If you fight a lot, this may be an indication that your marriage will be the same way, a lot of fighting. I got married too early in our relationship. I was 29 years old. We only dated for 3 years. I was in love with the fact that I was going to be married, have someone to be there for me all the time, and get to plan my beautiful wedding, and share the burden and responsibility of finances, instead of having to do it all by myself. Five years have passed, and I am not happy. I am just telling you this, to help you understand that marriage takes a lot of work. And even if you are mature, you will still deal with problems. I am not trying to make marriage sound bad, but if you get into one, and the significant other is not giving their part, you will have problems.
On the other hand, marriage is very beautiful at times. You have someone to be with when someone in your life dies, someone to always comfort you. You have someone that will listen to you when you are down and depressed.
And another thing, if you are a Christian, make sure you do not marry someone who is not. This will bring about many problems. I did this, and it has really hurt me. My husband does not believe a lot of stuff I believe, that is in the Bible, and it literally breaks my heart that he cannot know the joy I have from being a believer.
I really hope I have helped you in some way.
You may contact me if you need more advice.
So, to answer your question completely, yes, you must be a mentally mature person if you want to have a happy marriage.
2006-09-09 04:02:27 · answer #4 · answered by rach_cast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so, ive been with my partner 5 years with no prospect of marriage in the near future. I work fulltime and am pregnant with my first child and my partner has cancer and is receiving treatment. I tackle problems with as much maturity as i can.
Remember, there are many irresponsible ppl who marry....like my parents for example lol.
2006-09-09 03:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You have to work out your problems BEFORE you tie the knot. If there is not a maturity to begin with, it won't magically appear. Problems do not fix themselves over time. If you are worried, postpone or cancel. Don't assume that the mundane will fix the problem. In fact, it will make it far worse!
2006-09-09 04:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe yes.. but the sure thing is that you need to be mentally mature to get married!
2006-09-09 03:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by rothsteady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage make a person more stable wen he understands his responsibilities.
But in some cases wen the partners dont seem to share a great rapport, it worsens the case n also complicates their lives further.
2006-09-09 03:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by Christopher Re 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no they have to be mentally mature before they go in
2006-09-09 03:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! knowing your obligation is the best reason for you to mature. zuhaib, im tuding im from Philippines. 4000 pesos is less than $100.00
2006-09-09 04:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by Tuding 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋