Please if someone out there can help me from doing something stupid please help. I had a family argument while my mom is in the hospital she called me to yell at me for babysitting my roomates kids (I am bipolar) then I got a call that my best friend died, and on top of that my boyfriends brother in law came here at 2:30 in the morning drunk and with drugs to party. I don't drink, I don't do drugs except the ones for the bipolar disorder, when we opened the door my roomate was arguing with him(they don't even know each other) so she called 911 but then hung up my boyfriend got his brother in law to leave. A few minutes my boyfriend looks at me and says I am going home. Apparantly he thinks i have something going with his brother in law which is not or never has been anything going on. I feel like a wasted person on the brink of not wanting to be around anymore I can't take it. I am sitting here in tears because of the whole day. I don't know what to do, I just don't wanna go mor
2006-09-08 20:31:44 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I don't undetstand why my boyfriend thinks that there is something going on between his brother in law (who lives down the street) and me. I can't take the pain away that I am feeling from my friend dying today because she was my support system and then my boyfriend leaves me all in one night. My daughters boyfriend just got out of jail and she is seven months pregnant with his baby and her boyfriend does nothing but cause me problems with my family. They couldn't stand him before he went to jail now he is the greatest thing around. I hve no more left here for me all in one night my best friend is gone. My family is giving me nothing but crap and my boyfriend thinks i have something going on with his brother in law. I am so over whelmed that i am on the brink of just forgetting about my life because I feel like I can't go on. I miss my friend already and my boyfriend and this family problem has to stop. Can someone help me please? I have tried suicide before and i don't want t
2006-09-08 20:42:21 · update #1
i am also bipolar hun and i wake up some days having the same worthlessness feeling...even though i get treatment for this, i get very agitated because i go by the books and the meds still don't work. i have 3 children by 3 different guys i am ashamed to say. they i live with my youngest ones dad who is great, but has the tom cruise theory about my panic attacks and bipolar issues. he thinks i shouldn't rely on the meds, but that all goes with me not drinking and gng to bars and i think he hates that. the other 2's fathers pay support and see their children, but i get hassle from them all of the time. i have a 7 yr old who is angry and is bad and mean to everyone, and my daughters dad gives me all types of hell. he doesn't want me but hell if i am with someone else. hold on girl, it will get better. if people cant support you(boyfriend,family etc) ignore it. obviously they don't realize that when they do these jerk things that it triggers your illness. if you need me, and i could definitely use a friend that can relate and talk to me email me At genler100@yahoo.com or check out my 360 page. be strong. i don't know why god gave us these diseases, but he never gives us more than we can handle...take care sweetie and stay in touch.
2006-09-08 20:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wowo sweety your having some bad luck. That is alot for anyone to take. talk to ur doctor maybe they can give u something to make u not worry. Im sorry . I also have a mood disorder and stress is the worstthing. It also sounds like bunch of dysfunctional behavior from other people. You need some support is there anyone healthy that u could stay with and talk to . that would be best. Thar song about it being just a bad day always make sme feel better. Things will get beter ask strenght from god and have hope and tlk to someone. Do not turn to alcohol as this is a depressant. Hope u feel better and your luck changes. Sorry about your friend dying and your mom not being more supportive.
2006-09-09 03:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by europe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi
it sounds like you are having a tough time, and all the things piled up on you..
when it gets that overwhelming, (SENSORY FLOODING,) and all that stress, it can make you feel like the pain you feel will never, go away,,
it will go away, and the fact that you are bipolar thatn you probably have had some awful times in your life.
THE GOOD NEWS IS IT WILL PASS-
SO YOU MUST HANG ON..
When you feel that bad,instead of thinking that you dont want to be around anymore,just think about turning everything off, for a while,, that would be much better.
Think of it like unplugging a radio, or something like that,,
it will stop the pressure, and give you a chance to get things straight in your head..
Please think about your life in the same way,,
try to just disconnect what hurts you, but please do not think about escaping the misery,, that you have and all people have when it is their turn,, but think about surviving it, and it will make you stronger,,
I do hopt you feel better
good luck
2006-09-09 03:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bet you have heard it all before...But it will get better. Trust me. I know.
I am 26 years old, and last year I fell pregnant with a guy I was only dating a few weeks. I have always wanted a baby, but when it happend, I realised that I was not ready. Well, try to make a long story short, I moved in with this bloke, he was so kind..untill my belly started to show at round about six months (I'm skinny that is why it took so long before it showed).He started drinking really heavy and party all night long - he is 30 years old - going on like a 16 ear old. I told him that his behaviour in not going to be good for our baby, and he just told me to shut up and stop crying....It broke my heart...Anyway. I was 8 and a half months pregnant in December, very hot summers day....and I moved out.
I had a nervous break down and he was not even there. Went clubbing for the weekend and didn't bother to tell me.
So, I'm back in my home town, my baby girl is almost 7 months and really pretty.
I still have a lot of debt to pay. Labour costs and medication and things like that.
I didn't think for one moment that my life could get back to "normal" after a verbal abusing relationship.
But it has.
Hold on. you are strong. Deep down inside you there is a litte voice that tells you not to worry. Listen to that voice.
If your boyfriend thinks that you are cheating on him, then he is not worth it babe. He doesn't trust you, and by that he doesn't respect you.
If you feel like talking more, you are welcome to contact me. I will listen, understand and give advice where I can.
My motto in life is this:"There is a difference between knowing the path and walking it."
You have to walk this path. It will only make you stronger.
Dremafreytal.
2006-09-09 03:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by dremafreytal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will be alright it will get better it was a bad day everyone has them. Killing yourself would a very very selfish act and you shouldnt even be considering it. There are ways to be dealing with these problems other than drugs alchol or suicide so maybe you should consider them as an alternative. Talk to the people that hurt you today and tell them that they hurt you. Seek someone you trust and talk to them about how you feel as well it is better than doing on here where people are going to only make you feel more down and depressed.
2006-09-09 03:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by tiggerluvnmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, it sounds like you have been majorly dumped on.
I am truly sorry at the loss of your friend, especially if she supported you thru your mental illness. Before I go on, and before you read any further, I really think you should call your hospital or a suicide hotline. They can help you. And, if you do have to go into the hospital for a little while, that is okay. You will come out a different person, and have a better mindset. You may be thinking, I have a job, I have a kid, I have a dog, what am I going to do with them. You will find someone to help, like your roommate. YOUR life is what matters right now. Not anyone elses. But, if you have a child, you will have to find a stable place for them to go to till you leave the hospital. From all I have gone thru, you sound like this may be where you need to be right now. It is nothing bad, it only brings more strength to you.
I think that what is going on in your head right now is a lot of grief and confusion, hurt and anger. I would advise you to just refocus your thoughts for a moment. Sit in a chair, get a piece of candy and put it in your mouth. For two minutes, think about nothing except the piece of candy that you are tasting. If your mind wanders, bring it back to that piece of candy. This may give you a little peace, and you can start to think things out rationally. Otherwise, try some deep breathing. It will help to calm you down.
I don't think you should call your boyfriend, unless you are calling him to get you some help. It just seems really cruel that he would leave, considering that you just lost your friend, and your mom is in the hospital, being mean to you, too.
Please, just call the hospital. Explain to the nurse what is going on. They may just want you to come in for the nite and observe you, maybe put you on some meds that will lessen your pain and anxiety. It is not a bad thing, honey.
It seems to me that you are the victim here. You say you feel like you have nothing left to live her. Well, hon, you have yourself. You deserve to live a life that is full of love and happiness, not to give to someone else, but for yourself. Eventually, you will find a new friend that accepts your mental illness, and you will be able to see that things do get better. They really do. I believe God always gives us the Grace to deal with the changes that take place in our lives. He does not let us do it alone, if we ask Him to be there for us, He will walk right alongside you.
You deserve to be at peace. You deserve to feel good about yourself. Grief can break your heart, honey. Please call a hotline or better yet, the hospital.
I will be praying for you, you are welcome to contact me if you wish.
When we lose someone in our lives that is so important to us, that alone, is enough to deal with. You had so many other things happen to you this day, and I know it all seems to be too much.
2006-09-09 05:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by rach_cast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but you need to set some boundaries. Bipolar or not, there are people in your life who need to be put in their place. Your mom, who has no business yelling at you or getting in your business when you live on your own. Your room-mate, who should curb the arguing in front of you or move out. The boyfriend, who does not trust you. The brother in law, who brings crap to your door.
Let each and every one of them know that they have $hit on you quite enough, thank you, and that just because you have a psychological disorder does not give them carte blanche to do and say whatever they like. Then show that you mean this by being strong. I know it's hard, but unless you stand up for yourself, stop whining, and start dealing with them, they will keep making you miserable.
And STOP talking about wanting to die. Everyone who knows you knows you don't really mean it :-P
2006-09-09 03:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know it hurts right now but don't give up. It is one day. This day will pass. Tomorrow holds the potential of getting better. Maybe it won't be perfect... but time fixes all things. Just breathe and remember... its only one day.
You still have hopes, you still have dreams and maybe things look bleak now but you still need to fight for the right to simply have a future.
It is life. Things will get better. It has it's ups and downs. Just hang in there and if you think you're going to do something to harm yourself then call a friend and tell them you just need some company tonight.
Hang on. Keep fighting. It's going to be okay. Really it is.
2006-09-09 03:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by Allie5277 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't put an end to your life, to appease the problems of others ...and they don't seem to mind heaping them on you, even though they know you are going through a lot right now anyway...Please, time to seek new friends and find some people to hang with ...very sorry about your best friend..and mom showed no compassion either...time to find new friends and maybe move away, sad to say...unless you are a minor. You need to pray on it ...but don't even think about killing yourself to make them happy...many people get into these situations, nice people and the only thing i have found that gets you out, Is prayer to God and Jesus...
2006-09-09 07:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call 1-800-SUICIDE if you really feel like you might hurt yourself. It's a national suicide hotline that will direct you to the counseling center usually closest to you. Anyone in your situation would be on the brink right now. That's too much for anyone to handle. By the way, I reported sereneserenity for abuse. He/she likes to joke around but that's not acceptable here with your question.
2006-09-09 03:46:47 · answer #10 · answered by juniperflux32 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋