My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday. I thought we were so close and everything, but he said that we wouldnt be able to see or talk to each other so much because he has a lot of coursework to get done etc and he's not allowed out so much...I thought we could work through it, but apparently he didnt want to risk hurting me by not talking to me etc. I know that it is caring of him to think like that, but then he said he wanted to give it another go after all this, because he still loves me! And he said when we meet up in the meantime, it would just be like before! So why did he end it?
Please help me, I'm so confused.
Oh, and no comments from people that are 'You're too young to have a proper, caring relationship' coz I'm not. Thanks
2006-09-08 20:06:23 · 21 answers · asked by Queenie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tertia - ouch! Yes I have work as well, but I always manage to get it done, and have always worked well, whilst he hasnt made much of an effort until these important years. Thats why, hes making up for it now.
2006-09-08 21:15:11 · update #1
I'm confused too...but here is a shot at an answer anyway.
As a teenager you want to behave in the most adult way possible, but you don't necessarily know the best way to deal with the problems life throws at you. Your boyfriend (or is that ex??) probably thinks that he is doing the right thing by splitting up with you, even if he's not (i'm not in a position to judge on this point). Just talk to him about it, tell him how you feel, afterall if he loves you he will want to know how you feel too and do what's best for both of you.
Hope it all works out for you both...and he is let out occasionally
nb. when people say your 'too young'...just ask them if they thought that when they were your age. Old people forget what it was like and need reminding occasionally.
2006-09-08 20:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by All the answers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not necesserily the whole truth. is he really so much committed to the course and it is important for him? really? If that's the case he is either trying to end up nicely with you, and the line "it will be just like before" there only to get rid of you (sorry if I am wrong but if you were chasing him that might be so). If he is telling you the truth your relations are taking over his ability to do the course and he is temporarily (supposedly) eliminating the relationship. Personally, if you think he really loves you I won't loose what you have with him on the grounds that he has to sort out important issues. Love is also about giving it a second, third and forth chance, understanding and patience. If it is double-sided love.
2006-09-09 04:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talking from wordly experience it sounds to me like this guy wants his cake and eats it. Hes making excuses so that he can go out and be a single guy, which means he has no ties when it comes to meeting other girls. BUT he also wants to keep you hanging on for when he decides to stop playing the field. Hes using his studies as an excuse! if that was the case then no student in the world would ever have a boyf or girlf! Tell him you're moving on from him. If he doesnt come running then really move on, hes not worth it.
Good luck babe xxxx
2006-09-09 03:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by Liane 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I like this guy. He is obviously keen to do well in his studies, and that lays the foundation for a good lifestyle later. So many 'kids' have loadsa fun at school/college and forget that what they do there is the investment for their future. I am sure if he dates other girls you will find out about it from your mates, but I don't think he will. Have you got some work you can get on with at the same time or are you more interested in 'bodywork'?
2006-09-09 03:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by Tertia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talking from my experience i fully agree with the first one - liane. he wants to see what's on the market and keep u as a spare landing ground if he gets rejected. and i would strongly advice u not to talk to him any more and do not tell him that u love him blah blah blah - it will only boost his ego and demean u. u will not be able to beg him back, he will just lose respect for u. i know it is hard being rejected but life is so long and ALL PEOPLE, i repeat ALL PEOPLE get rejected from time to time. so this is your first experience. trust me u will have a lot in the future - we all have. so try to take this kick on the butt with dignity - do not lower yourself to begging and crying. just tell him "ok, but probably i won't be taking u back. have a good luck" and then ignore him(well, show him u re ignoring him). trust me 50% he will be back begging u to take him back. and if he won't - who needs him anyway? u may find someone much much better. cheer up. i suggest u go for a walk,read a book, go to gym, go meet your female buddies and go shopping and have fun (at least show him u re havong fun without him)
2006-09-09 03:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him and let him know how much you respect his need to study and slow things down! Let him know that you love him and that you are willing to support his need for sometime to be right now. It sounds like he ended it because you made him to important if that makes sense and he cares about you but wants to really concentrate on school. I would tell him that you understand and would like to continue with the understanding that you will also get busy on getting it together! I hope this make sense and that it helps! Good luck!
2006-09-09 03:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
seems to me, he likes you, but not enough to have you interfere with his school work or other things he may want to do and he's just stringing you along, just in case he gets lonely or has nothing else to do. If he cared for you and trusted your judgment, he would have said, "I have a lot of work to do right now but I'll want to see you as often as I can".
2006-09-09 03:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks to me like er he's seeing someone else but at the same time keeping his options open.A bird in the hand is better than two in the bush after all.
2006-09-09 03:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there is a third person in this relationship to me. He wants you to wait while he tries the water at the watering hole down the road......
2006-09-09 05:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by Just me!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just want to be alone thinking bout ur relationship,be it a serious or not.you know,both of you r matured and sometimes you cannot go along with...........so give time to him.if he is serious,surely he will come back like before but if he didn't he need some rest with you.
2006-09-09 03:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by heggae herie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋