for the most part I have had my BF in my life for a year and a half or so.
he says he love me. he doesnt like to hug. sleep embraced, kiss (unless hes drunk) , do much after sex but get dressed and smoke, come wash my back when i ask him to (says he forgot i asked) (3 X?) hold hands or HELL WHAT ELSE IS THERE?
Does he even like me?
or is this normal for a fourty year old man???
you guys be honest. do yall not enjoy any of that stuff?
is he just being real?
2006-09-08 20:04:24 · 21 answers · asked by tbaby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not all men are like this, but I was this man until I consciously changed my ways. I was not raised in a household where affection was encouraged, so when I'd be with a woman, I'd do many of the same things you described until I realized that I was making her upset. Unfortunately, your boyfriend must want to change. Evaluate how important these things are to you. Give him some time to change his ways. If he refuses to change, I recommend that you find another boyfriend who will be affectionate with you.
2006-09-08 20:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't have to be a man to answer this - if he just does this and runs then this is all he is about - end it. He is sooo selfish and inconsiderate and sounds like he is just using you - really. Any guy who acts like that isn't in it for you - but for sex. Does he know what color your eyes are or what your favorite color is?
Who doesn't enjoy these kinds of things - everyone does. And if you do and these are important to you and he just does not care AT ALL - then cut him loose and get a new guy. This guy is not worth it -
No - this is just crappy behavior from a man at any age. If he is not interested in cuddling or even talking to you - just out of the door, that should tell you something. You deserve better.
What DOES happen when people stop being polite and start getting real? hahaha hahahaha (get it.. MTV..ha ha)
2006-09-09 03:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
um, from where i stand, it looks like you are being used for sex. i mean, sleeping embraced i can kinda see (when i lived with my gal, i embraced her until she fell asleep, then i would move away a bit and and then i would fall asleep. it was just way too warm sleeping right next to each other) but the hugging, holding hands, kissing... i mean these are the best parts (that you can show others) of the relationship. it could be an age thing but i seriously doubt it.
2006-09-09 04:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by kiss my wookie! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you the one that moves on him? Do you start all the action? If this is the case, you have got a loose canon on your hands. If you you really like or love him he's yours,BUT you will always have to be the aggressive one. They say a man marries a woman and hope she never change, but she always does, a woman marries a man thinking she can change him, and he nevers changes. The ball is in your court, it always is in the womans court, and you always ask the most questions.
2006-09-09 03:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by fixerken 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok umm this is a tricky one.
other than that what why do you fell in love with him?
i am sure its not only for the sex... right???
find out the reason why? does he look good? is it the way he treats you? was the sex really that good? is he handy around the house? does he treat you well?
someguys just don't like to cuddle or touch all that much except for sex. but in other aspects of your life, are you happy? if not then why are you staying in a relationship that does not fulfill you? get out before you get stuck
2006-09-09 03:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by budaklolo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
And you saw what in this guy??? Us old guy's like to get as much huggin, kissin, bathin, and knockin boots as we can get...I think!
speakin for myself, my lady and I enjoy all the affection we can as often as we can. There's nothin' that beats good lovin'. Theres nothin real about being Celery! If you know what I mean.
2006-09-09 03:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by twostories 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys do enjoy those kind of intimate things... he might have some sort of social disorder. If you are the type that needs that sort of intimacy I would say find somebody new, unless you are truly in love with him, then bare through it, and trust his words.
2006-09-09 03:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by itslate 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't represent all men. Hell, I'd say he doesn't represent 30% of men. But some men ARE like that. You two are at opposite ends of the touchy feely spectrum. Either learn to live with it (he won't change) or dump him.
2006-09-09 03:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well i hug my grl and kiss her all over but i think if yr man 4get 2 do that 2 u he made have somebody elzes
2006-09-09 03:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can understand guys who arent real affectionate in public...but if you are alone...the least he could do is show a little interest. sounds like hes into his own pleasure and could care less about yours...not good
2006-09-09 03:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by darkest queen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋