2006-09-08 19:41:33 · 16 answers · asked by fatty 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
am i suppost to gain weight im 1 month
2006-09-08 19:46:15 · update #1
file for emergency housing
and help from the state
get CHILD SUPPORT
always keep your Dr appt.
2006-09-08 19:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by ez-goin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like your question is about gaining weight with pregnancy. You gain about 4 lbs per month.
More importantly.....if you have no emotional support you do need to find some. Another relative, the father's family, a friend's parents, someone from church or a teacher or councilor at school. There are people out there that will help you and not judge you.
As for those who say you should open books and not legs at 16, grow up. After mistakes are made, you pick the person up, look into their eyes and walk together. I sure hope you continue to live your perfect life.
Good luck young girl. Adoption is always an option. Be strong you will find the solution and help for you.
DJ.............great advice! Listen to that lady!
2006-09-09 03:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by a mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far along are you? Have you gone to a doctor?
Sweetie, you simply aren't old enough or mature enough to have a baby. You need to think long and hard right now about whether or not you should carry this baby or abort right away. (If you're under 14 weeks) If you're past your first trimester....well darlin', it might be a better thing for you to have your baby adopted, because you wont be able to get a job that pays enough to support a child on your own. And I'm sure you don't want to raise a child on welfare! There are some agencies that work with couples that want to get a newborn and hook them up with pregnant girls. (It's actually more complicated than this, but you can find out....)
I know I sound mean, but you deserve to hear what you need to hear, and not just what you want to hear.
In the meantime, make sure you go to every doctor's appointment! Many of the clinics will help you to get medical care for your pregnancy. Also, find out about public aid. Make sure you take care of yourself.
So, did your parents kick you out or something? Was it because you got pregnant or because you didn't want to listen to their advice? Try to work things out...their your family after all, and I'm sure they don't want to see you lying pregnant on the streets.
Good luck to you sweetie!
2006-09-09 03:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. Stay in school. If you already dropped out, get your butt back there! You will need that diploma girl!
2. Talk to your school counselor AND/OR Go to your local welfare office (usually listed as some form of Department of Social Health Services). Get an application for benefits.
3. Go to your doctor and get a letter saying you're pregnant and your due date. You need that to apply for medical and welfare benefits.
4. Plan on going to court for all things related to child support.
Baby daddy gonna pay for making a baby.
5. Make sure you find a good OB who will listen to your concerns. It's sometimes hard when you're young. Don't be afraid to ask questions about things you don't understand. You are 'paying' them. (Or rather Medicaid is, but the point is you need to know and understand)
6. Spend as much time as humanely possible on your education now. Find a good alternative school or a good daycare (welfare can help with this). Take classes that will give you job skills, typing, accounting, higher math (algebra & advanced algebra). Don't be afraid to ask a guidance counselor about subbing classes to get job skills. YOU WILL NEED THEM.
Good luck hun, it's a hard road, but if you take it one day at a time and focus on what needs to be done you'll come out the other side a better person and a good mother.
2006-09-09 02:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by DJ 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I Had my first child at 16 and had not much help but you should have thought about that when you and that dude layed down not you and him not just you need to man an women up and take care of the child or be evil and give it to a family who can try human services in your town to see if they can help get wic and whatever else to make sure that child doesn't have a unfit life style
2006-09-12 20:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by michelle b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually a woman gains from 15 to 30 pounds durning pregnancy, so yes, you will gain weight.
Keep trying to go back to your family for help. Don't just assume because they are angry right now that they will never help you. If your 8 months, and they still have not helped you, go to your nearest Planned Parenthood. They will have resources for adoption, and will give you help with your child.
2006-09-09 02:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Hicktown girl66 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're only one month pregnant, give your family some time. They are still upset over it. My mom was a huge ***** about it at first but she realized I needed help (I was 16 when my 1st child was born) and she came around. Nine months is long enough to get over it. If not, then you'll have to support your baby and yourself by yourself. That sounds cold but it's true. Pregnancy IS preventable. You should have thought about that, truly.
2006-09-09 02:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try a crisis pregrancy center, they should have resources about hoems for pregnant women and other things that can help. if you feel adoption is for you...go for it there are lots of people out there who are loving couples who want but can't have children of their own. i was told that now a days adoptive families are more open to allowing the birth mother to be involved in the chidls life. but it is what's best for you and the baby. as i said before... do research about the topic, and definately talk to your guidance counselor.
2006-09-09 02:58:12 · answer #8 · answered by osafety6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in school still tell you school you NEED to take parenting classes. If not you need to go and see you doctor about talkin to someone professional about everything you need to know there is really to much to type about.. The main question is, Is there anyone that is going to help you at all with the baby?
2006-09-09 02:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by His only wish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 15 when i had my baby i respect what you are doing you are taking on a great responsibility one day your baby will make you see that you did the right thing i can tel you that your best bet is to get the best education you can asap so that you can give that baby the life it deserves i sugest find someone trustworthy to babysit for FREE or in exchange for house keeping go to school and get a job to feed your baby there is goverment help for young people who need it get it!!! above al do what is best for the baby and then you.
2006-09-09 02:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by madly in love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i composed a lengthy, informative answer to that question and then it was taken off before i posted so now i am done helping you.
p.s.
you could always give it up for adoption, don't abort you will regret it for the rest of you're life
2006-09-09 03:00:12 · answer #11 · answered by mypurpleelephant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋