just curious who else has to deal w/these things. umm, my mom lives in OH. and I in AZ. there really are too many details to indulge, but I'll start with the topic and see how it goes..........
THX.
2006-09-08 19:27:48 · 13 answers · asked by Greenbug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
wow, I really didn't expect the responce I got, it's so great to hear from so many....umm maybe I should I start another thread..on this topic,especially while I'm feeling this way, not to mention I don't normally open up?..
2006-09-08 20:26:09 · update #1
Main thing: it's not your fault and you can't fix this problem.
Many suicidal people go from person to person trying to find someone to 'rescue' them, and some people try. But only the person themselves can do the real work.
You live far away, but if she is a decent mother, and doesn't cause you extreme stress to be around - then heed the call, go down there and get her in care. A hospital until she's on meds that can stabilize her.
Suicidal thoughts are a brain malfunction. Not the 'real' person. Whatever she says while she's depressed isn't total reality. Remember that.
Whether you want to help or not is up to you. If it's immediate, a simple call to 911 to send an ambulance by her place could suffice.
2006-09-08 19:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by lucy_shy8000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, man, I know the feeling. I attended school in AZ last year while the rest of my family was in Ohio. During that year, my mom was suffering from a chronic illness and suicidal, so I stayed on the phone with her at night listening and trying to comfort her. I came back for the summer, her illness claimed her life in June, and now my dad is suicidal. All I can suggest is listening and reinforcing all the positives. Ask your mom to list all the positives of her life, and the future events she has to look forward to. If you aren't comfortable asking that outright, subtly suggest it (For example, "Can you believe in a few years I'll graduate college?"). In the mean time, talk to people physically closer to her about finding a support group or network for her. Make sure the people won't be overly suffocating, that's a problem my dad's facing right now. GOod luck!
2006-09-08 19:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by me41987 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey Girl, my mum is pretty shaken up too. She got bullied at her work which led to her suffering a nervous breakdown and trauma and she has only just come back from a mental institution, but they prefer to call it a private hospital. She is still very sick, she picks at her fingers for no apparent reason and gets drunk and passes out on the couch. She has panic attacks in public and faints in crowded areas. When she came back from hospital she started wearing hippie clothes and is very spiritual. All I can say is that you support them, make them feel as if they have a purpose in life and that purpose is to mother and love you. I know you think 'Why is this happening to me' but it will get better soon. Take care of yourself and over time your mother will come around and be normal again, Im still waiting for mine and I dont doubt for a second that she wont be normal, she just needs support.
Have a fantastic day
Peace
Love, Yaz
2006-09-08 19:50:33 · answer #3 · answered by WALLABIES!!!-x 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing your Mother's issues, leaves only general talk! What goes around, comes around! The elders know this is true and the Young's reject it until their time comes!
Things you do when your younger or growing comes back to you, in your own mind. It won't let go! Of course it is not just one thing it is many! In the 60's Mom had to have electric shock treatments to forget. It can be from what others have done or what you have done! It can be a horrid nightmare! You want to escape it, it's so bad and you try to turn to suicide! Oh yes, at that time it was fairly rare for them to use shock treatments!
What I have found is they have to learn to forgive others as well as themselves! Once this is done, they can be at peace! It sounds simple enough. But it may be one of the hardest things
one can do at times.
2006-09-08 19:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Food is the fuel in which the brain works on. She might have some chemical that needs to get out of her system. Maybe instead of going straight to the issue with her, find out what she's having for diner, if she's getting enough exercise, get her to back off the alcohol, etc. There are a ton of self-help crazes out there. Try to get her hooked on one. Try to get her to drink bottled water. When they start acting funny, they just want someones attention. But, what's really sad is that it takes days, and days to find out why, becuase sometimes they don't even know...in addition, do not go through this alone. You need to mandate more people help her. And then, you'll end up neededing help. This will impact your home life and relationships, and that's not fair. Note: This person is being selfish, but don't play that card because it will cause them to freak-out.
2006-09-08 19:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by OhIdonno 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am now 28 but at age 19 my mom did attempt suicide. It was horrible!!! My mom is basically a train reck! I have tried to help her so many times and finally at age 28 and 2 kids later(my two kids age 3 and 2) I just was like enough. I am handeling my life and family. My story is much more intense too!
2006-09-08 19:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by anjelahoy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a minimum of yours lives in a separate state. Mine lives too close for convenience, and we are shifting as quickly as i could have adequate money to. I even have dealt with her pretend suicide tries to get interest or to punish us whilst she does not get her way, her ingesting, her stupid judgements whilst it comprises adult males, her loss of adulthood, her criminal habit, and the undeniable fact that she by no skill, no longer for one 2nd, cared approximately her little ones better than herself. She is a sociopath, and she or he does not love me. My undertaking is that as quickly as she dies, I and my brother will the two be happy and relieved. She abused and missed us lots as quickly as we've been little ones, and has placed us by lots because of the fact that, that i do no longer even experience to blame approximately feeling that way.
2016-10-14 12:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by bridgman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so whacked out, i can't live with myself...does that count? no, really...my astral self lives a block away in a nice little astral bungalow - you know, one of those houses with a wrap-around porch? aaand i have a wonderful little astral poodle i take on lovely walks through the astral park down the street...
2006-09-08 19:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
acceptance is the key to all things and faceing your feelings instead of burying them or pretend that it is not happened. My father is suspected in my mothers death this happened when I was quite young I dealt with it by doing alot of crying meditating and things and talking to her and moved on with my life you only have one live try to enjoy it
2006-09-08 19:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by catlady496 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Though my situation is a bit different,I think we may be having same problems.My mum's no more.....& I wanna know how her behaviour would have been to me during my teenage years.
2006-09-08 21:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by live_let.live 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋