i been dateing this girl for 5 years and we do break up alot but allwas manege to get back togather but this time she broke up with me and she said it is for good but when i talk to her she says she still misses me and still loves me, she says she still have feeling for me and shes comin to see me this sunday. she says mybe one day well get back togather if its ment to be what shold i do?
2006-09-08 19:00:23 · 14 answers · asked by soo_sick_of_lovesongs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when i said if its over then i can handle it but i cant be freinds with her it will make me think of the past with her. she says it hurts her when i said this and kinda cryed and said if you love me and we where ment to be that means u will still be my freind
2006-09-08 19:55:12 · update #1
When you are getting booooorreeed!
2006-09-08 19:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These 'on/off' realationships are hard going for the both of you. Its sounds as though she's the one who's always doing the breaking up. Why are you putting up with this? What kind of life is this for you? You need to stand up and be the man and either make or break this relationship for good. She has you by the short and curly's and is just using you. Give her the ultimatum. In fact refuse to see her on sunday. Play hard to get for a while and see what happens. You may actually meet someone who appreciates you. I know this may sound harsh, but i've done the door mat thing and once you take a stance, you'll be surprised how liberating it feels. Good luck.
2006-09-08 19:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by lounursey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When people break up with one another, it's hard because you do still have feelings for one another, but obviously there is something else going on that is preventing the relationship from moving forward on one of the parties parts. And its very natural that you would miss one another, you have been together and part of one anothers lives for 5 years.
You didn't say why you two break up alot, I'm curious about that, because that isn't part of a healthy relationship. Perhaps you two had a lot of conflict all along, or broke up over silly things and now that she wants to break up for real you don't know what to do with that because you always expect her to come back
It sounds like she has reservations about leaving and that you were a very big part of her life, and that it will be difficult for her to start new without you in her life everyday. You'll miss her too. But it sounds like she wants to keep that string attached to you just in case she wants to come back. ...one day? My question for you is, what's gotta happen in between now and that 'one day' that will make the difference and change her mind to want to be with you? Is she seeing if there is anyone better out there? Does she just need a little space right now? Do you think there is someone else she wants to see right now?
What I think would be unhealthy for you to do, should she decide to break it off with you with the hopes of coming back one day, is wait around broken hearted for the next few years waiting for her to come back, and not enjoying your life. She may never come back honey. Its possible, she's telling you that she might come back 'one day' just so she doesn't hurt your feelings as much.
It's really hard for an outsider like me to say with the little bit of information given. I just thought I could give you a couple of things to chew on. As far as what to do when she visits on Sunday...Be yourself. Understand that you cannot change her, the only person in life you can control is yourself. So if she feels she needs to leave the relationship then be a man and wish her the best of luck.
2006-09-08 19:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by daisymae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know it's over when you don't feel anything when you're with her. girls are usually still hung on their ex's and it's not an easy thing to get over. she either needs more time to sort out her feelings or she really does want you back. what matters most is how you feel about her now and how do you think you'll feel about her in the future. 'cause if you think you guys will just break up and get back together, is it really worth it all over again? it might not be a good idea to meet up at the moment if the feelings are going to be awkward.
2006-09-08 19:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the main question- when he says he is too "busy," doesn't call/text/e-mail/visit ANYMORE SUDDENLY, doesn't talk to you or about you the same any more, is away for 2 weeks without a notice, etc...
But you wonder WTF you've done...
To the rest of the details-be with her, say you love her, tell the truth, etc, etc.
You are one lucky bastard if she puts up with the S.hit and worry you give her and she can't help having false hope for you....1,000,000 chances.
You must have been doing some Nasty, hurtful S.hit to her if she decides breaking up-not a fight is best!
Maybe she lives for getting hurt... (that's what people tell me about me!)
Um,
kimberly h-that's what marriages are like!
bumble bee- good advice, but difficult to follow on when you're stuck for someone! Don't keep her on "standby" if you plan on hurting her in the process or you have no way of wanting to get back with her!
lounursey- It doesn't sound right to act as if you are too busy for friendship time, or you are more important! Too Stuck-up!!
debbie l-yeah, but like in songs, she may stop/pause and wonder why the hell he is running away...May just be sick&twisted thoughts in his brainwashed head from watching too many drama's??
santa s-That piece of advice from you sounds VERY familiar!...
2006-09-08 19:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it be. When she is ready to come back then she will. Until then respect her decision to stay seperate. Oh and of course she is still going to have feeling for you...you have known each other for five years. Just give it time and get on with your life, that is all you can really do. Don't mope.
2006-09-08 19:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by Han Solo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for that one day ... Meanwhile, move on. Date others, increase your circle, increase your choices. Hopefully you 'll find someone out there who is right for you.
I'm sure she's doing the same. Keep her on standby as she is keeping you on standby. But be nice about it.
2006-09-08 19:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by bumble bee 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you still like her and still wants to be with her then get back together..but you have to think it through...you guys did break up alot..ever wonder why? whats causing the problem?
2006-09-08 19:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by Ginny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you enjoy the on again off again relationship then persuit it but remember that you will constantly be breaking up and making up.
2006-09-08 19:06:11 · answer #9 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
such relation ship is sick and it takes your energy relashen ships should give you good energy, and not stress but the best thing is to brake at least for a while , and not talk to her any more to find out what you want and also what she wants, if their is love you com to gather but for good.
2006-09-08 19:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by santa s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy seems more distant and there is no comfort there and you haveta walk on egg shells...and your always asking and questioning everything they say,
2006-09-08 19:04:16 · answer #11 · answered by kimberly h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋