ok, so yesterday i asked if a guy liked me because i had thought he did, but then he stopped talking to me.... then today(a day before the dance) he starts up again... i caught him starring at me, he would find any possible way to touch me (like put his hand on my sholder, or would tap me as he would walk by) he was laughing at me in class today, then asked if i was going to the dance, and when i answered yes... he smiled and said cool.
The point is, we have been friends for like four years... so it seems a little akward to me, plus, all my friends tell me not to go out with him no matter what. Im afraid he might ask me out at the dance, and right now im having mixed fellings. I dont want to ruin our friendship.
what should i do?
2006-09-08 18:54:14 · 8 answers · asked by Katie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My First Post:
Me and this guy are pretty good firends and we have a lot of fun together. At first, he told me that he liked me a few years ago, when we were younger, and he makes up nicknames for me all the time, he makes fun of my flaws, and he's even asked me to the movies before, but i couldn't tell if it was just as firends or not. At the beginning of the week, he just came up to me and he knew we had the same class, so he asked if he could walk me. Later, I glanced up from my desk and caught him starring at me, when i asked him "what?" he just smiled and then looked the other way. He kept asking things like..."u going to the game tomorrow" and
"so, is there a dance on saterday?". But then, these last two or three days he all of a sudden he stopped doing all of this. He still says hi and stuff at school, but On IM, where we normally talk, he doesnt say more then two words, before he logs off without even saying bye. Does he Like me or not?
2006-09-08 18:54:46 · update #1
It sounds to me that he does like you, but that maybe he is a little confused and having mixed feelings too. He of course would not want to ruin the friendship and is also probably worried about your reaction if you do not like him back.
Dance with him... get to know him more. Maybe something will blossom. He is probably quiet on IM because he just does not know what to say. Guys get funny like that when they figure out that they have a crush on you.
I would not really do anything different. Talk to him, dance with him... keep being friends. If you like him back then maybe flirt a little. He will get the idea.
2006-09-08 19:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is having a little trouble letting you know what is going on in his mind. As it gets closer to the time for the dance, he will be put to the test of asking you out or at least asking you to dance a few times. He may need dance lessons. If you are really good friends, you should be able to talk with him and ask him what's going on. Tell him your concerns and see if the two of you are able to work something out.
2006-09-09 02:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by Big mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt read your first post nor did I reply to it. However you got to stop listening so much to what other people say and think. Cause what really matters is what you think.
If you don't want nothing more then a friendship with this guy. Then simply let him know that you only wish to be friends with him nothing more and that you dont want to ruin your friendship cause it means too much to you. Or you can say you will go to the dance with him but only as friends.
2006-09-09 01:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by deadly_rose_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys is school are awkward. At work we have this saying "When in doubt throw it out." Does that help? I would not keep playing games though. Be straightforward and open with him about how you feel. Remember, stress causes breakouts. No one wants to go to the dance with a big pimple.
2006-09-09 01:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to, then tell him you don't want to go out with him cause it may change the friendship in a way you don't want it to (assuming he DOES ask you out). Why don't your friends want you talking to him? Is there something about him you're missing cause you're looking through rose-colored glasses? Check yourself......al those friends can't be all wrong!!
2006-09-09 02:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by LoneWolf 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with becomming more than friends. I think he likes you. I'm trying to figure out how to get this girl who is a friend to go out with me.
2006-09-09 02:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by JoeIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i answered your first one... but, i would have too say yes he does like you.. it sound like he just feels more comfortable in a group or in public. when its one on one maybe he just really dont know what too say since the feelings changed from four yrs ago til now
2006-09-09 01:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by Ozark American 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u like hime, try it.... after all it may be fun, why dont ur friends like him? if they were your real friends hey would let you.... unless hes some kind of jurk or something
2006-09-09 02:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by always confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋