Me and my ex-boyfriend decided to be friends for now, after trying a relationship for 2 months. He realised that it was too early for him to go into relationship when he is still emotionaly unstable after his separation from his wife whom he is dealing divorce. He still cares about me and still wants to be friends with me closely excluding sex, but to talk. He calls me everyday. I felt so special about him, but now it is making me feel very sad, because as soon as we became friends, without any time gasp, he started talking about his wife in an very emotional way. I hope that I will be friends with him, but at the same time it is hard now. At the same time I do not want to cut off completely just in case either of us has STD or pregnancy... (in a worse scenario). I felt he was my soulmate, but obviously not... and it makes me feeling so sad, and actually feeling physical pain. I am not despratae, but would I someday meet a souldmate? I am so unsure about everything now.
2006-09-08 18:50:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Consider yourself blessed that the relationship had not gone longer than that (only 2 months). I know you like this guy alot but at the same time you are also treading on a dangerous ground. I commend him for his honesty, in the sense that he told you about his ex-wife up front. But is this something you really want to be a part of? A man who is emotionally unstable? On the rebound? I think you could still remain friends with him and this will help with the healing process but at the same time keep your options open because you deserve to be loved by someone who can love you without reservations.
I seriously don't want to judge you because I know what it's like when you have fallen in love with someone but I am baffled by the fact that you are having unprotected sex with him in just 2 months.
2006-09-08 19:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest moving on. He isn't over his wife....or divorced. You don't actually know who someone is in a two month time frame.....so to determine he is your "soul mate" is a stretch. He told you he is not ready to be involved in a relationship, you need to respect that. Your worried about STD's and pregnancy....that's the reason you want to stay in touch? Sounds like an excuse to me. You may feel he is your soul mate....he doesn't feel your his. Find someone who is emotional available.
2006-09-08 18:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by wendy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want to stay friends because you may have a STD or a kid? Sounds magical.
You dont' have to talk to him every day to stay friends. Just tell him your busy or explain it's rough for you to hear about his wife. Eventually he'll stop calling as much. You can't have your cake and eat it too. It's over and that's the way it is.
2006-09-08 18:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not what you want to hear, but I'd cut ties with him. Take it from someone who's been in similar situations. I had so many bad realtionships that I gave up - I took a six month break from men- and then I met my husband. It'll take a while but you'll be ok- sounds like he's pretty confused and you don't need that.
Good luck.
2006-09-08 19:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know if i can help you but i know what your feeling right now, i too am with someone out of a fresh divorce, he still has issues with her. did he want the divorce...no,she did, and he cant get over it. he almost left the other day and i felt my heart burn, like it was on fire and i couldnt catch my breath. can loosing some one you truly love hurt physically? hell yes, right now we are trying to work it out, i pray to god it works because i also feel he is my soul mate(and no that does not make us desprate) we love deep, and we hurt deep. i wish you all the best in finding your way through. god bless.
2006-09-08 19:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im sorry....but im sure u can meet ur soulmate someday.....it hurts to hear from him about his ex but u need to face it...if u really like him and u feel u love him be there for him...he need somebody right now...and hopefully he realize that there is someone who really cares and love him.....i pray for u
2006-09-08 18:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by capricorn girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plan a trip and stay away from him for a while
2006-09-08 18:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a friend?
2006-09-08 18:54:24 · answer #8 · answered by wanttolpve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋