should i allow my eldest daughter to wear make-up? she's 13?

Answer 1

yes if you want to be a grandparant by the time she's 16

Answer 2

If she's keen to wear make up n u forbid it, then she is just as likely to find a way to wear it when she's away from u. If u allow her to wear a lil it means u can then share the experience of going to buy it together. If u take her to one of the big department stores which have make up counters and consultants, try getting her interested in looking at something. Find an assistant to help u but while u r out of her earshot, explain to the assistant ur situation and the fact that ur a lil unsure if she's old enough and most good assistants will help steer ur daughter towards a more understated look. Plus it wont hurt ur daughter's self esteem to have a stranger telling her she has much too pretty skin to cover it in gunk, and that all she needs to bring out those beautiful eyes is a lil pale eye shadow .... u know, that kind of thing. Plus the advice may sink in a lil more if its from a 'professional' because a) they dont have to tell her she's beautiful, and b) this person is not her mother, she will hopefully assume that the assistant was being honest with her in the hopes of selling as much make up as possible- ie not doing the 'mum thing' n trying to 'censore' what she does . It may work. Good luck

Answer 3

I think a small amount is alright. It should be natural looking but just enough to make her feel good. As parents we want to keep the innocence as long as possible but at her age she is probably noticing the differences between herself and other girls. That does not mean that she does not notice boys too so I would give her a "foundation" check along with the makeover. You know, just to give her a reminder that even though our looks can get people take notice, boys and girls should like her for who she is. If she hasn't always been a very girly girl then I would try to find out whether someone (usually it's another girl) is making comments that make her feel insecure about her looks. If this is the case then I would do other things to boost her self confidence and hold off on the make up for another year if possible. Otherwise, take her to get a makeover at a cosmetic counter. Clinique is very good for the younger set. They will know how to do the subtle look and if you don't want to buy there then you can find similar colors somewhere more reasonably priced for a teen.

Answer 4

I think it is perfectly normal for a 13- yr. old to start wearing light make-up-- possibly just start with a lipstick and mascara-- the important thing is that she IS wearing make-up, not that she is only allowed to wear certain things!! She is wanting to let you know she is growing up, & as the oldest, this will make her feel quite grown up!! She will probably start acting in a more responsible way, even, because she feels better about herself!! Just remember to teach her that with make-up, no matter how young or old a lady is, the trick is to apply it in a way that it can't be detected!! You want people to notice something different about you, but not to know what it is!! You just want to acheive that special glow of young, radiant skin! I suggest maybe starting her out with mineral make-up-- there are several good ones you can buy off the internet, & a little goes a long way!! Good luck, & don't forget to tell her each & every day how beautiful & special she is to you!!

Answer 5

Nothing wrong with a little lip gloss and mascara at 13. I have 3 girls 20,17 and 15. The oldest never really cared about make up, the middle one wears a little in the day time a little more at night (most like me) but the youngest is very much into it. She studies it (magazines, TV, internet etc) she's very artistic with it. Sometimes I think it is a bit much, but I really don't say anything, it's just not that big of deal!

Answer 6

Of course! but be sure to show her how to apply it properly so she does not look like a hooker. Remind her that less is more and it should look natural to emphasize her better features and hide things like blemishes, scars, warts or moles that she finds unattractive. Also let her know each day that she is beautiful even without makeup. This can also be a great way to bond with her if you're a mom and a good time to start discussing what is expected of her as a young woman. With privelege comes responsibility. Be sure she keeps her makeup clean as not to get an infection.

Answer 7

Why not teach her to look nice, like the French mothers do with their young duaghters?
Take her to a department store offering make-overs and let her be shown how to apply makeup properly. Allow her to have only a couple of age-appropriate items. You can advise the makeup person to only use a max of 4 items and let them "fuss" over her. That way, she'll know how and how much should be worn.

Pick a younger line like M.A.C or Origins or Benefit.

Answer 8

In our family, the girls are allowed to wear colored lip gloss at age 13 and they may add a light colored eye shadow and light mascara when they enter high school. Hopefully, the girls will focus on their internal beauty, rather than the external package.

Answer 9

Of course. She's wants to show individually. Light makeup for a 13 year old is fine. Nothing to dark. I would suggest taking her to the mall to one of those makeup counters where the sales lady will try different shades on her to see what is the right colors.

Answer 10

A little lip gloss and some mascara!! some nice young colone...... Light nail polish!! THAT IS all we allow our granddaughter and she is 17!!! a VS Cheerleader and going to be a NUN the best we can tell!!

Answer 11

Um..for what occasion does a 13 year old kid needs to wear make up?If its a valid reason,then why not as long its not extreme type.If its for fashion sake, well tell her she's beautiful just the way she is.