My boyfriend has a friend that he has been friends with since they were in high school. Soon she will be leaving for the Navy. The problem I am having is that he just got out of prison and I want to spend time with him but sometimes he would rather go over to her house. Should I be worried about something even though he told me that he just wants to spend time with her because he might never see her again?
2006-09-08 18:26:24 · 12 answers · asked by El Shaddai 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sometimes he spends the night over there and does he not see anything wrong with that. I don't agree, but he says what's wrong with that.
2006-09-08 23:39:10 · update #1
I would give him his space & see what happens--you don't say how old you are, but if he has been friends with this girl all through school, then surely thats all it is--they would already have dated if they were attracted to each other that way!! Trust him until you have a reason not to!! If she is going into the military, it could be quite some time before he sees her again!! Stay positive!!
2006-09-08 18:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by Betty T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going to put myself in your shoes. What I would do is tell him this " Babe, I really miss spending time with you, everytime I want to youre always at your friends house, I know that she is going to leave pretty soon to the navy, but please can you try to leave time for me, it really does get me sad, I miss you, and I love you, and I need to spend time with you, all I am asking for is for you to try to spend time with me"
You know, let him know how you feel, that's what I would do, I've been with my bf for 2 years now, you've got to let him know how you feel, don't keep it inside, or else he'll never know what makes you feel like if your relationship is slipping, or he'll never know when he is doing something wrong and doesn't realize it until you tell him.
2006-09-08 19:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends don't let friends go to their death without knowing how much they care.
He just got out of prison, and I assume that he done a few stints in jail.
Sounds like someone that has habits.
Going to friends after release, old times never end.
Do you trust him?
No?
then find a new boyfriend, or get used to second fiddle.
2006-09-08 18:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are many ways to handle this.tell him to call her at your place.or u go with him wenever he goesto meet her.get to know her.if hes totally against this idea theres something wrong!i dont think he should spend all his time with a friend ,cus shes going to navy.especiallly since h just came out from jail.u deserve his time.
2006-09-08 18:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by micheal f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him see his friend. Blocking him from doing so will only harm your relationship with him. You need to give him a chance and trust him. Your time will come.
2006-09-08 18:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by lounursey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good relationship is built on trust. If you are still worried then become friends with his friends too.
2006-09-08 18:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him y he is there and tell him to say ur name and that he loves u (like that one song from a few years back)
2006-09-08 18:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by cowboy76360 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah.
2006-09-08 18:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Marcel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you visit his friend with him. I have invited my wife with me on visits to old girlfriends. It removes any uncertainty on her part.
2006-09-08 18:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by LivingDownSouth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you go with him to see this friend???
if your boyfriend says no...then you will know what is up....
2006-09-08 18:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by intelligentbooklady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋